One of the curiosities of human nature is that being able to make sense of the world around us seems to be our prime directive.
It doesn’t seem this way, because this idea happens on a very deep subconscious level.
It’s as if the circuitry in our brains is incapable of coming to the conclusion that our world is purely random.
Even when we say, “Just because,” we REALLY don’t mean “just because.”
When we say that, it’s usually equivalent to “there’s some reason, but I don’t know what it is, and I’m not really interested in taking the time to find out.”
Because think of what it might mean if there really WERE something that really WERE purely random.
Since our entire universe is based on laws of science that are not only ALWAYS true, but ALWAYS true in the same way, we can’t fathom the idea of “randomness.”
It’s like in our brain we have a “divide by zero” alert. We HAVE to come up with a reason for EVERYTHING.
The problem comes when the REAL REASON truly is beyond our comprehension.
But unless we’re shrugging it off as “just because” we NEED to find a reason.
Something else comes into play as well.
Since our brains are organs that need energy, they’re always trying to economize.
So when it has a choice of spending a LOT of brainpower, or coming up with a simple answer, the simple answer, even if it doesn’t feel good, might be “better” than spending a bunch of energy trying to come up with a complicated answer.
Here’s a quick example.
We’re walking down the street, we smile at somebody, and they don’t smile back.
Our brain can spend a LOT of energy trying to calculate the REASON they didn’t smile back.
Remember, it can’t come back with a “no reason” answer, on a subconscious level that’s like a “divide by zero” error in Excel.
So what’s the EASIEST answer?
Usually it has to do with US not being good enough for THEM.
Problem is that on one hand, this SEEMS like the correct answer.
So it satisfies the “easy and quick logical answer” our brains crave.
But on the other hand, it’s almost IMPOSSIBLE to be correct.
There are just TOO MANY variables to calculate.
Or at least that’s what we think.
In reality, most people are VERY SIMPLE.
We run by simple triggers that spur us to action, and we are blinded by simple biases that keep us from seeing things.
And when you understand what these are, you’ll have a SIGNIFICANT understanding of human nature.
Which means your brain will start coming up with MUCH BETTER answers when it comes to deciphering other people’s behaviors.