When I was in Junior High School I played a lot of golf.
No, I wasn’t rich, but next to my school was a public course, and it only cost $5 to play nine holes.
I had a set of hand-me-down clubs, as did many of my friends.
One thing I always did was slice. That’s when the ball starts to fade to the right after you hit it.
For a while, I tried to correct my changing my grip.
Because it caused more problems, and I wasn’t patient being a JHS goof, I just compensated.
Meaning I would just aim left. My friends thought I was nuts, until they saw how consistent my error was.
I suppose that if I’d taken the time to build in the muscle memory of the new grip, I wouldn’t have fixed it.
But since I was never really concerned with my score, only that had I had fun, it didn’t seem to be worth it.
They say that learning from your mistakes is one of the most important skills you can have.
Sure, we all do it naturally when we’re really young. Things like walking and eating and riding a bicycle.
It’s kind of hard to just “compensate.” If you just decided to wear a lot of padding instead of trying to ride a bike without falling over, that would be pretty silly.
But a lot of us do that without really knowing.
We try something once, we can’t do it, or we do it with difficulty and frustration, and just decide that “I guess I can’t do that.”
Instead of just getting and trying again, and again and again until we get it right.
This is easy when everybody around us is walking or riding bikes or playing catch. We feel left out if we don’t suck it up and learn how.
But other things, where most people suck, it’s EASY to try ONCE and give up.
Public speaking, starting a business, walking up and talking to attractive strangers.
But the SAME strategy works. Try, fail, try again, fail, keep trying, WIN!
It’s the learning strategy that is built in your brain.
Only sometimes we’re “forced” by social pressure to keep trying (we want to walk since everybody else is walking).
But other times we’re “forced” by social pressure to try ONCE and give up.
But you don’t HAVE to ALWAYS obey social pressure.
You can actually CHOOSE to ignore it.
Sure, it’s not easy. It takes consistent mental effort.
You may say this is one of the META SKILLS that support a lot of other skills.
Like learning how to talk to strangers, learn to be covertly persuasive, get rid of emotional issues, etc.
The good news is there are a lot mental exercises that make it easy.
So you can pretty much learn to learn anything.