When I was a kid, I was in boy scouts.
And every summer we went on a long backpacking trip.
About a week, carrying all of our stuff on our backs.
Usually we would park at trailhead. Then walk up a long set of switchbacks.
These are trails that criss-cross up a really steep set of mountains.
Then when you’re on the other side, it’s like a completely different world.
Because the only people that you see (which aren’t very many) are people that walked there.
It’s fun on the way up, looking down at the parking lot. Seeing our cars getting smaller and smaller.
Then when we come out on the other side, a week or so later, it’s a welcome site.
After sleeping in tents, eating freeze dried food and no showers, seeing a bunch of parked cars, even from a long ways off, is pretty refreshing.
See things from different perspectives is useful.
One way easy way to do this is see how we use language.
I’m sure you’ve heard the famous Einstein quote about insanity.
Doing the same thing and expecting a different result.
One way we “do” the same thing is talk about things the same way.
Like if you’ve got a “problem,” you use it as if it were a real “thing.”
I’ve “got” this “problem.”
I don’t know how to get rid of this “problem.”
I need to put “this” behind me.
What happens when you describe your “problem” in a different way?
This is slightly different than the useless “I don’t see problems, I see opportunities!” bumper sticker mindset that some people spout .
For an example, think of a problem you HAD a year or so ago, that is now resolved.
Now think of something useful you learned from that.
Something really useful, not, “I learned that people are idiots.”
Now, when you look at a “problem” in the future, instead of saying “how can I get rid of this,” or something similar, ask yourself, “When I DO solve this, I wonder what I’ll learn?”
That simple replacement, when you take out the “if” and put in the “when” is very powerful.
Just say these two sentences, out loud if you can, to see how they affect your emotions.
If I get rich I’ll be able to buy a nice house.
When I get rich I’ll be able to buy nice house.
The difference may be subtle, and you may need to really WORK to believe the second one, but when you do, a whole new future of opportunities will open up.
You’ll think of new ideas, dream new dreams, and start taking new action.
Instead of waiting, you’ll be doing.
That one simple shift, (when instead of if) is only ONE of the many language patterns in the Covert Hypnosis book.
You can use them on yourself, to “fix” your own problems.
You can use them with others, to help them with theirs.
You can use them pretty much anytime, anywhere with anybody.