How To Take Control Of Your Life
Especially really early, when it’s still dark. Normally, I follow a pretty standard route. Down to the big park near the main library, and then back home.
But sometimes I take a detour. Sometimes I’ll see something down a side street I feel like checking out.
My only intention for walking is to let my mind wander, and as a side benefit get a little bit of exercise.
I’m not going anywhere in particular, just out and back.
This is a great strategy for a lot of things. When the process is more important than the outcome.
Going on holiday is another example. Sure, the destination is important. But most of the time, the main outcome of a holiday is just to relax and unwind.
Even some things that seem to have a clear outcome are really process focused. People that have certain hobbies for example. Building stuff with wood. Painting, other forms of creative expression.
The intentions is not so much the outcome (unless it’s your career or you want it to be your career someday), but the process. Just losing yourself in the creative process and seeing what happens.
Other things require a much more detailed focus on the outcome.
When you’re boss tells you to have a certain report by a certain date, for example. You wouldn’t write the report the same way you enjoyed one of your hobbies, would you?
Or if your job was a truck driver, for example, and you were carrying perishable materials. You wouldn’t lazily take the scenic route, stopping for photos along the way.
You’d have a specific outcome, to be in a specific place at a specific time.
Most of the time, it’s easy to tell the difference between process activities, and outcome activities.
One huge indicator is when somebody tells us to do something. Then it’s clear there’s some kind of outcome we’d better achieve.
However, only leaving those “outcome based” activities up to the directions of others is a mistake.
A potentially HUGE one.
See, the biggest process of all is your life.
And your life is filled with outcome after outcome.
Most people are content to let others choose each of these intermediary outcomes, and then just relax on process stuff in the middle.
This is certainly safe. It’s certainly low risk. If you get into trouble, you’ve always got somebody to blame.
But it’s INCREDIBLY limiting.
The truth is that choosing your OWN outcomes is a lot easier than many people realize.
Now, I’m not talking about vague wishes that most people have.
“I want more money. I want to lose weight. I need a partner.”
Everybody’s got these.
I’m talking about rock solid plans to make them happen.
This is what happens when you “become your own boss” of your life.
You can build whatever you want.