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Three Secrets of Unlimited Charisma

Unleash Your Mental Magnetism

Project Your Best Image

One very valuable trait you can have is to make people feel comfortable and open around you.

For some folks, this is pretty easy and natural. For them, they just show up, act normal, and people naturally flock to them.

Luckily, this isn’t something that’s programmed into our DNA. Which means if we don’t have “it,” we can easily develop it.

Just like how some people suck at cooking, sports, or music. With some practice, you can get pretty good.

So, what’s required to get that magnetic presence that will open so many doors?

First, you’ve got to be able to accept and appreciate other people. Get rid of any idea that you need to tell people how they should behave or think. 

Leave that to the egomaniac control freaks.

Next, you’ve got to accept and appreciate yourself. This sounds simple, but it’s more complicated than we may think.

A lot of us think we need to change ourselves somehow, before we can really get out there, but this is just a self-con to keep us safe on the sidelines.

The truth is that people respond to your interpretation of you, rather than you.

Since they have no idea of your ideas, feelings, beliefs, emotions, they have to follow your lead.

If you think you are inadequate somehow, so will they. But if you truly believe you are perfect just the way you are, so will they.

The final piece of the puzzle is to have some purpose for your life. Something you are creating. Something you are building.

Again, what this is is completely up to you. But if YOU think it’s important, so will they.

There’s something about someone that has all of these qualities.

They accept people, rather than judge them, so it feels good to be around them.

They accept themselves without needing constant validation and approval from others, so it feels good to be around them.

They know where they are going in life, which gives off that “natural leader” vibe, that so many of us crave not in ourselves, but in others.

Like I said, some people naturally have all three. But if you don’t, no problem.

Because once you get them, it will be just as good.

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Find The Girl Of Your Dreams

How To Create The Perfect Relationship

Are High Quality Women A Myth?

Most guys think they need to become a shopping list to get girls.

They think they need a certain level of income, a certain amount of body fat, a certain type of clothing before a girl gives them the time of day.

Then once they get all these things, they wonder why the princesses don’t suddenly fall into their lap.

Most girls, when asked about their “perfect husband” will give you a list of things they THINK are important to them.

Pretty much anybody is asked about such an important thing as a life partner, they tell you what they think they should say, rather than what really floats their boat.

Does this mean that people are horrible liars? Not at all.

It’s just that most times, we don’t really KNOW what floats our boat. Sure, we RESPOND to it when it comes around, but unless we’re ultra honest with ourselves (which is pretty impossible, btw), we’re usually blinded when it happens.

That’s why girls tend to fall in love with guys that they “didn’t think were my type” all the time.

It’s kind of like the difference between shopping for food when you’re hungry, vs. when you’re full.

When you’re full, you buy all the crap you THINK you should want. Usually healthy stuff.

When when you’re hungry, you buy stuff you REALLY want. Usually not so healthy.

This isn’t to say that what drives attraction is or isn’t healthy, it’s just an illustration to see the difference between what we want, and what we think we want.

So if you pay too much attention to conventional wisdom about what girls want (decent income, nice clothes, sense of humor, likes changing diapers, etc) you are going to be in for a HORRIBLE shock.

What do I mean?

She sees you coming along, with your personality based on her “consciously chosen things.” Then because you fit the bill, she goes with you because on paper, you LOOK like a good “catch.”

She might even get excited about showing her friends and family her good catch.

But her emotions won’t get fired up. Not even close.

Which means once she feels she’s got you on the hook, you’ll be nothing more than an ATM to her.

A provider, not a lover.

So forget about what girls TELL you what they want. Forget about convention wisdom.

Trigger those deep desires that make her chase the man of her dreams DESPITE what her friends and family might say.

When she thinks about you, she shouldn’t think of you as some “checkmark” in her box if things to do in life.

She shouldn’t be able to get her mind off you. Her heart should race when her phone vibrates. She should be nervous as hell when getting dressed to meet you.

How do you create THOSE feelings?

Your language. Your confidence. Your energy. How you talk to her, and then pull back. How you demonstrate that you like her, but you don’t need her. How you build your life with or without her.

Learn to test for REAL attraction. Unconscious attraction. Deep and ancient desire.

The kind that makes it OBVIOIUS she can’t live without you. The girls that DON’T display this level of desire? Not worth your time. Unless you’re content to be a trophy on her mantel.

However, don’t expect these girls to come to you. You’ve got to meet them, create, build and sustain attraction. Real attraction.

Will it be easy? No. 

But once you get a girl like that, she’ll be yours for life.

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How To Make Your Frame Irresistibly Attractive

Get Them Feeling At Home Under Your Roof

Get People To Feel At Home In Your Presence

I watched an old episode of “Criminal Minds” last night on Netflix.

This one mastermind criminal was in an interrogation with one of the mastermind FBI agents.

Since they didn’t have any evidence, they had to get the guy to confess.

It was a great study in “frame wars,” at least how they’re imagined by Hollywood writers.

Each guy was basically having a separate conversation. The criminal was talking about how quickly his case was going to dissolve, and the FBI guy was talking about how horrible the crimes were.

Each guy would completely ignore what the other guy said, and continue on with his own conversation.

This illustrated a crucial element of Frame Control. Never “bite” on the content of your opponent.

The easiest way to maintain a frame is to simply “out frame.”

But in that TV show, each guy was trying to “out frame” in a different direction, since they had two completely opposite intentions.

A true “Frame Master” will not only out-frame, but out frame in to a frame that still respects and validates the frame of the other person. 

You just go bigger, but bigger in a way to include, not alienate, the other person.

People will be much more likely to voluntarily enter into your frame if they can keep their own.

Kind of like working at a desk that doesn’t belong to you, at a company where plenty of other people work.

Bosses have known for centuries that if they let workers “personalize” their workspace, they’ll be much more productive.

If you’ve got pictures of your friends, family, etc., you’ve effectively created your own frame within the larger frame of the company.

And so long as the company keeps paying you, and you have pretty good leeway with how you can decorate and “make home” your workspace, you’ll likely be a very loyal employee.

This is EXACTLY the best way to “out frame.”

The more people you learn how to do this with, and the more natural it becomes, the more people you’ll have that are literally BEGGING to enter into your frame.

This is one of the PRIMARY reasons some companies are FANTASTIC to work for, while others, not so much.

If you want to create a fantastic frame into which many people would love to come inside, check this out:

Three Rules For Creating Attraction

Step By Step Rules To Attraction

How To Create Female Interest

Most guys think too much when thinking about girls.

There’s a lot going on to be sure, but if you over think anything, you can get yourself into trouble.

What very common mistake is to assume that attraction happens on a conscious level.

We’ve all heard that “attraction isn’t a choice” over and over, but many guys still behave like it is.

What do I mean?

They do something, and expect a girl to give them something back. Like doing a business deal, or even buying something at the store.

They buy her a drink, and think she “should” do something, like at least talk to them.

They bring her flowers, and think she “should” let him kiss her.

They have a decent income, and think that girls “should” be attracted to them.

But girls NEVER do anything attraction based because they WANT to, or they CHOOSE to.

Any kind of attraction based behavior is subconscious.

This is hard for guys to understand, because we see girls and we AUTOMATICALLY become attracted to them in a few seconds. If she’s put together, is cute, and is dressed nice, it doesn’t take long.

Girls, on the other hand, take a while to “feel attraction” for a buy.

But just because it takes a while, doesn’t mean it’s a conscious process. It is STILL just as unconscious as a guy’s attraction for a girl.

Which means no matter WHAT you do, she’s NOT going to think, “Hmm, he did this so I should start to like him, and give him some of my feminine energy.”

Nope. Ain’t gonna happen.

No matter WHAT you do, it HAS to be an unconscious response.

If she doesn’t give you any signs of attraction, SHE’S NOT ATTRACTED.

How do you create attraction?

Luckily, there ARE some basic “rules” for guys to create attraction in girls, just like most guys tend to agree what sexually attractive girls look like.

But make no mistake, just like guys have different types, so do girls.

So the first rule is to BE THE SAME throughout your entire interaction.

If you do something that gets her attracted to you, and then change your behavior, she’ll lose that feeling.

The second rule is to take your time. Let her respond to you. 

The third rule is to be able to MEASURE her attraction. Girls may feel really attracted to you, but consciously hold back, for whatever reason.

How can you tell?

Her pupils, how she responds when you touch her, how she responds when you lean into her personal space, if you ask her to come with you (across the room) and she follows right away.

If you’re waiting for her to TELL YOU she’s attracted, you’ll be waiting a long time.

But if you learn to SEE the “symptoms” of attraction, you’ll be surprised.

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Are You Waiting For A Hidden Secret?

Secrets Of Life

Automatic Success Strategy

Many things are simple, but not easy.

Meaning they are simple in concept, but not so easy to do.

Take weight loss for example. Eat less, and exercise more, right?

But doing that is next to impossible when we’re surrounded by so much food.

This is an example where NOT doing something is pretty hard.

On the other hand, take something like sales. All you’ve got to do is call enough people, and you’ll be rich. 

Or, if you want a gorgeous partner, all you’ve got to do is talk to enough people, and you’ll find them.

Simple in concept, difficult in practice.

Now, most people can’t even  admit this to themselves. They imagine there’s some kind of super secret technique that’s being kept from them, through some kind of hidden conspiracy.

All they need is to find out the magic “formula” and money will fall from the sky and gorgeous people will surround them and beg for their attention.

Us humans will do anything to avoid pain, including making up stories that keep us on the sidelines.

But the quickest, and most effective way to get anything is to simply get in the mix and try something. Anything.

If it works, do more of it. If it doesn’t work, do something different.

Of course, it can help if you’ve had AWESOME parents who took it upon themselves to make sure you believed that you could learn anything, do anything and overcome obstacles.

Unfortunately, most of our parents were “winging it,” simply doing the best they could to keep you from running out in the street.

This tends to have the OPPOSITE effect of building in that “can do” belief of bolding going out into the world and trying new things.

After being told by parents and teachers “no” a billion times, we tend to be a bit gun shy.

Which is why it seems to hard to do things we know we “should” be doing to get what we want, but have some kind of ready made “excuse.” 

What if you could go back and change your history? What if you could reference much more supportive experiences when you looked out into the world?

What if anytime you felt like taking some kind of action, instead of hearing those “no’s” all you heard was a voice of your choosing, saying something like, “You got this!”

What would you be able to do?

What would you be able to accomplish?

In the Frame Control course, that’s one of the things you’ll get.

A method to reprogram your “referencing system” so you’ll feel compelled to take action, instead of however you feel now.

To learn more, check this out:

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How To Eliminate Rejection From Girls

Back Off Man, I'm A Scientist!

Never Face Rejection Again

The human brain is a pretty amazing tool.

One that’s not even close to being understood yet. 

It’s very fast, which is great for survival. But it’s not so accurate. In a sense, it’s a lot like your web browser.

When you visit a familiar site, instead of loading up all the stuff fresh, it references your browser’s cache.

This makes it load much quicker than if you had to download everything every single time.

Web servers do this as well. If the page is static, they serve up a cached copy, as it’s much quicker.

This is how the brain operates in both familiar and unfamiliar surroundings.

A long, long time ago, maybe there were people that needed to stare at something for a long time, and let the information soak in long enough to figure out what was what.

But they all got eaten by dinosaurs. Which means the only people that are left are us goofs who don’t reference reality any more than your web browser downloads every  piece of data every time you visit the same web site.

Science has measured this. They know which areas of the brain are responsible for imaginary stuff, and which part is responsible for reality stuff.

Most of the time, it’s a mix of two.

Why is this important?

Well, consider this next time you’re out checking out the ladies. One of the reasons guys get so nervous is they see some super hot girl, and make all kinds of assumptions about her.

And because are much more attracted to women based on looks, this puts us at a disadvantage.

We walk over there, already having decided that she passes all of our criteria. Only she knows nothing about us.

So we feel like we’re walking over there with her having all the power. The power to accept us, or the power to reject us.

This, of course, causes all kinds of anxiety.

But when you remember that what you’re seeing is literally an illusion, it makes it easier.

Now, this is something you’ll have to consciously remember, and practice. There’s NO magic thought that you only need to think once that will get rid of your fears.

It’s something you need to train in. Just like a mental version of Karate Kid.

But this is a good way to practice.

When you see her, don’t let your caveman get away with assuming all kinds of crap. Go over there NOT to hopefully get accepted, but to find out if she IS as hot as you think she is.

All girls have flaws. Just like all guys have flaws.

See your first approach to get a better picture of her. Withhold judgment of her, until you talk to her.

If you approach with this mindset, you’ll never get rejected.

Because you’re not trying to get accepted.

You’re just getting more information.

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Which Memories Are You Referencing?

Choose Only Memories That Support You

Don’t Be Like C3PO

An interesting study recently has proven that a large portion of our reality is imaginary.

How do they know this?

When they hook up somebody’s brain to measure all the electrical impulses, they can see which areas light up when the test subject is perceiving something outside. They show him something he’s never seen before, and ask him specific questions about it, so they know he’s focusing outside of his mind.

Then they ask him to close their eyes, and imagine something. A completely different part of their brain lights up.

But when they show him something “familiar” BOTH parts light up. Meaning he’s creating that image partially on the fly, in real time, but also partially based on his memory.

So a lot of times, what we think we’re seeing around us REALLY IS all in our head.

To make matters worse, sometimes we perceive “meanings” that don’t really exist in the first place. Somebody looks at us “funny” and we’re not only remembering something that happened before, but we’re remembering something we made up in the first place.

A lot of times our brains, in order to protect us, act like C3PO from Star Wars. That part where they were in the garbage compactor, and Luke said, “Shut down all compactors on the detention level!”

And 3PO said, “NOOOOO! Shut Them ALL Down!”

Similarly, whenever we “think” there might be danger “out there,” our brains respond with massive over kill.

Better safe than sorry, right?

But what if that thing they are protecting us from things (like rejection, for example) doesn’t exist in the first place?

Wouldn’t it be better to access more helpful memories, rather than imaginary danger?

You bet it would!

That’s one of the things you’ll learn in the Frame Control learning course.

How to dig deep in your  past, and find times when you were ultra confident.

Then you’ll look how to access THOSE memories instead.

So instead of responding like C3PO, you’ll respond like Han Solo, or any other Hero you’d like.

To get started, check this out:

Frame Control

Why You Should Love Rejection

Rejection Is Your Fastest Path To Success

Rejection Is Essential To Success

A lot of guys have a common problem with women.

And that is that they are waiting for some kind of obvious “green light” that tells them it’s OK.

This is normal. Nobody likes taking risks. We’d all love some perfect step by step method that is guaranteed to work. Some paint by the numbers system that gets us whatever we want, especially affection from gorgeous girls, without every having to put it on the line.

The trouble is that NOTHING is certain. All action requires risk. Sure, some actions are so LOW in risk they seem risk free. Things like ordering a pizza, going to the toilet in the middle of the night, or anything else simple and routine that we do over and over again.

But the simple truth of reality is that we absolutely cannot predict the future. 

It’s very common to be sitting there on the couch or in the bar talking to the girl of your dreams, and wondering whether or not you should make a move. And many guys DON’T make a move, and later claim that it was because they weren’t getting the right signals.

This is utter nonsense.

Let’s take a step back and see this from a scientific and biological perspective.

If a guy makes a move, and gets shot down, he’s going to feel like crap. BUT it won’t likely affect his social standing.  Think about one of your buddies right now. Now imagine him making a move (not an obscene or illegal move) and getting shot down. Politely shot down, not some girl screaming bloody murder.

Now, how do you feel about him after imagining that he tried and got shot down? Is he a social outcast? Is he some pariah to be avoided? Are the guys going to suddenly stop talking when he comes around, and look around in an uncomfortable silence?

Nope. If anything, he’ll get more props for trying.

Now imagine if a girl gave clear and obvious signs that she wants to be kissed. And SHE gets shot down.

What would happen to her reputation? What would her friends say? What would happen if she were known as the girl who throws herself at guys?

You know what would happen. Every girl who knew her (and every guy) would suddenly use different adjectives to describe her. (Easy, for example.)

So if you are waiting for a girl to make it obvious she wants you to kiss her, or touch her, or ask for her number, you’re going to be waiting a long time.

Not fair? Maybe not. But so what?

If you want success, you’re going to have to make a move. A risky move.

As the great founder of Sony once said, “If you want to double your success rate, simply double your failure rate!”

Now go out there and get shot down!

Are You Waiting For Permission?

Press Forward

Why You Should Boldly Press Forward

One of the differences between being a child and being an adult is the idea of “permission.”

When we are very young, we need to ask permission for pretty much everything.

In school, we need permission to speak, to ask questions, sometimes even to go to the bathroom.

The older we get, the more we need to just take action without waiting for approval.

Sometimes, though, we don’t really need permission, but we pretend we do.

We’d like to do something, like walk over there and talk to that interesting person, or start a business, or make a suggestion to our boss.

But we hold back, and tell ourselves it’s because we need “permission.” We say things like, “Oh, they wouldn’t like that.”

Even though we’re fully functioning adults, often times we feel we need prior approval before taking any action that we’re not “supposed” to take.

But as I’m sure you know, those that succeed BIG don’t wait around for permission, or approval, or even validation.

They lead, knowing eventually others will follow.

In pretty much all areas of life, there have been pioneers who have created new products, inventions, types of music and art, medical techniques, and on and on, simply by acting on their own inspiration.

Now, most people are content to be followers. To wait around on the sidelines and watch the leaders and creators take all the risks, and get all the rewards.

They’re content to stay safely in the middle of the pack, where it’s “OK” to follow the herd.

What about you?

What about your ideas? 

Will you wait until you get full permission and approval before you try something new? 

Or will you just boldly go where no one has gone before?

It’s not easy, it’s not guaranteed, and it’s not always safe.

But it’s a LOT more fun that hiding in the middle of a crowd, waiting to be told what to do.

If you’re ready to get started, check this out:

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Girl Getting Confidence Tricks

Extreme Confidence With Women

Obliterate All Fear

Here’s a trick that will blast your self confidence with girls through the roof.

However, you MUST understand one thing. The girls you use this “trick” on are NOT girls you are going to try and pick up.

They are only “practice” girls.

This means when you see a girl for the first time, and you’ve exchanged some IOI’s, you’ve got to decide BEFORE you go over there which category she’s in, and STICK to that decision.

Most guys CANNOT do this. They see a girl, and go over there and try anything and everything to get as far as they can, and either get her number, and leave (usually because SHE says she’s got to go or something) or they get blown out. (Which is when SHE says she’s got to go or something).

However, if you follow this strategy, you WILL see positive results.

So, assume you see a girl, and you decide she’s “practice.” Meaning you WILL NOT ask for her contact information or even suggest getting together. You won’t even tell her that you’re not going to ask for her number.

This is what you do.

You walk over and break the ice. Say something that paces the situation. Say you noticed her, you noticed something she did (actually say the thing she did) and then tell her you wanted to find out  more about her, because she seemed interesting.

(All of this is absolutely true, by the way.)

Then ask her name. Ask what she does. Ask open ended questions about anything she seems willing to tell you about. The idea, the goal, the intention, the mission, is to get her to smile while she’s talking to you about things she likes.

Once you get a few smiles, say thanks, and then LEAVE.

Don’t hesitate. Don’t linger. Don’t wait around for her to tell you what a genius alpha male you are or how clever you are.

LEAVE.

Remember, this is ONLY a confidence building exercise.

If you do this two or three times a week, your self confidence around women will SOAR.

But ONLY if you stick to the plan. The ENTIRE plan.

Wait…wait…wait…

What if she asks for YOUR number?

DO NOT GIVE IT TO HER.

Say something like, “Wow, I’m really flattered, but I’m not ready for a relationship or dating or anything right now.”

Right now, of course, meaning that very moment. You may be ready in another hour or so with another girl, but DO NOT tell her than.

This will build up a HUGE and POWERFUL belief in your brain that says this:

“Girls like me. Girls like talking to me. Girls want to talk to me more than I want to talk to them. Girls want me to stick around after I talk to them. Girls actually try to chase me.”

Do this a few times, and when you see a girl that’s NOT practice, it will be much, much easier.