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Learn Like A Natural To Be A Natural

There’s a secret of game that most gurus will NEVER tell you.

If they did, their income stream would stop, and the myth that there’s ONE secret set of techniques and behaviors would get any girl would vanish.

In order to become an absolute NATURAL, so you can get ALL the girls you want, or that ONE special girl is simply by learning from the very BEST teacher.

Learn From The Best Teacher

Who’s the best teacher?

YOU!

But not the “now” you, the “before” you.

AND the “future” you.

Huh?

Time Travel Seduction

Imagine this, there you are, looking out into a sea of gorgeous girls just desperate for Mr. Right to sweep the off their feet and bang them silly.

You imagine a potential future you doing precisely that.

Then you look back quickly to a past you, that did something or tried something similar.

Then you quickly calculate the difference, and take a stab at it. Walk over, try something, and see what happens.

Continuous Improvement

No matter WHAT happens, if you get some get told to take a hike, you WILL add to your experience.

So that the NEXT TIME, you’ll do even better.

This is the NATURAL way that ALL HUMANS are hard wired to learn.

Not from some goofball in front of a seminar room, but from their own experience.

The more experience you get, the better you’ll get.

Are You Relying on Magic?

Now, I know a lot of people believe in magic. That there’s some kind of magical “fix” that will suddenly transform you into a lady killer, so you’ll NEVER have to worry about “game” again.

But you KNOW that is pure nonsense. Marketing crap. Advertising snake oil.

Seduction is a skill, like any other skill. The more you practice, the better you’ll get.

The quickest way to get better, with an absolute minimum of anxiety and rejection is learn in congruence with your natural programming.

Instead of “forcing” anything, just relax, and do what comes natural. Every single action will get easier and easier.

Trial and Error Is The Key

And just like being a kid, and learning to walk, ride a bike, or whatever, you’ll find the learning process is not only natural and easy, but very rewarding.

That means that the simple process of “learning” seduction will be so enjoyable, you won’t even feel like you are “working.”

You’ll feel like you are playing. And you will be.

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Generate Natural Attraction

How do you talk to a girl?

If you’re like most guys, you’ve got a problem. You see girls everywhere. You are attracted to girls everywhere. But when it comes time to walk over and say something, your brain suddenly shuts down.

The truth is that your language, self confidence, self esteem and frame are all linked together.

Forget The Tricks

A lot of guys think all they need is a bunch of memorized lines, or some bling, or some magic tricks, and then they’ll be getting some.

The problem is that girls are hard wired on a deep an ancient level to spot “fakes.”

From a biological perspective, when a woman has sex, and then gets pregnant, she’s out of commission for a while. So over the hundreds of thousands of years, women have developed an ultra powerful method of sniffing out cheats.

The absolute WORST thing that can happen to a woman, from an evolutionary perspective, is to be conned into bed by some sleazy caveman who’s going to sneak away before she wakes up.

Honesty and Congruence

Sure, being a single mother is tough. But back in the caveman days, being a single mother usually meant you AND your kid were doomed.

So the only ladies that survived were the ones that could effectively sniff out those cave men who were practicing some kind of pick up routine.

Whenever you talk to a girl, then, the most important thing is to NOT set off her “this guys is a fake sleaze” filters.

Meaning no matter WHO you are, and WHAT you’re going to talk about, keep things on the up and up as much as possible.

Now, here’s a secret that most guru’s won’t tell you.

If YOU like YOU, so will she.

It doesn’t matter who you are, how much money you make, or even how tall you are.

All Starts With Inner Game

If you REALLY like and appreciate yourself, AND you’re open and honest when talking to her, you’ll have a MUCH better chance of creating that magical female attraction that feels so incredibly good.

To give yourself an even better chance, talk to her about her. Let her ask about you whenever she feels comfortable enough.

Generate some natural self appreciation, walk over there, and just find out about her.

Ask The Right Questions

Find out what makes her tick. Find out what’s she’s interested in. Find out what she dreams about at night.

No pressure, no games, no manipulation.

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Secrets Of Self Validation

Humans crave validation from other humans, and from ourselves.

Now, some people think that those who overtly seek validation should be dismissed as “shallow” or something, but the bottom line is ALL humans are hard wired to NEED validation.

The problem is when we try and ignore this, we open ourselves up to manipulation. It’s one of those subconscious drivers of human behavior that’s there whether we like it or not.

Impossible To Ignore The Instincts

If we become overly concerned with “short term” validation, then it can become a problem, and we start to behave like “those people,” meaning everything we do is perceived as selfish and self serving.

I like to think of short term validation as like a “sugar high” from eating a donut or something. It feels really good in the moment, but it quickly fades and you feel like crap. The tendency is to seek more short term sugar highs, which can lead to a cycle of self destructive behavior.

On the other hand, longer, deeper and more natural validation is like eating fruits, veggies and healthy fats. Slow burn, long term energy.

Short Term Gain, Long Term Pain

Short term validation is always seeking approval “in the moment,” while long term validation is like developing a good “reputation.”

Somebody who’s genuinely kind, genuinely interested in helping others without needing an immediate reward, and somebody that’s genuinely pleasant to be around.

Then there’s the best validation you can get, which is that which comes from within.

It’s one thing to build up a solid reputation, so whenever you behave “selflessly” you’re also keeping your reputation, (which necessarily depends upon the opinions of others) intact, but it’s something altogether different to ONLY be concerned with how you view yourself.

Like maybe you KNOW you are doing the right thing, but you also know that NOBODY will ever know.

Think Long Term

They say the truest measure of character is how you behave when nobody is looking.

Ultimately, we ARE the judges of our own behavior, so you’d be better be able to sit quietly with yourself in peace.

Paradoxically, this mindset is also the absolute BEST way to persuade and influence others.

Figure out what they want, figure out how you can present your ideas in terms of their desires, and do so in a way so it seems like it was their idea all along.

They’re happy because they’re doing what you AND they want, and you’re happy because you are at peace with yourself.

When you can do this consistently, almost without thinking, then you’ve got it made.

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Hit And Run Attraction

One frame of mind that REALLY helps when out interacting with females is the “hit and run” frame.

Now, this is just a metaphor. I don’t really mean to go out and run over girls and then drive off.

Many guys, when talking to girls, are consciously or subconsciously looking for some kind of “reward.”

They seem to think that attraction is a conscious choice on her part, which means they imagine walking up, saying some goofy pick up line, and her looking at him and saying, “Wow, that’s a great line, I really like you! Can we have sex?”

Of course, this does happen in the movies, but remember, movies are NOT real life.

If ANY attraction DOES occur, it will happen subconsciously. She’ll get just a feeling, and she won’t know why.

This is where PLENTY of guys mess up.

They’re expecting some kind of conscious signal, some kind of verbal “OK” from her.

If you’re waiting for that, you’re going to be waiting a long, long time. Guys that have trained themselves to look for subtle clues in between the lines are the most successful.

So, where does the “hit and run” model come in?

One way to wean yourself away from expecting consciously feedback is to think of COVERTLY turning her on, and then leaving.

This is definitely a LONG TERM strategy. Most guys start talking to girls, and hang around WAY TOO LONG.

They’re waiting for some super obvious green light, that her attraction has peaked and is starting to diminish significantly.

The trouble she’ll associate those diminishing feelings of attraction if you wear out your welcome.

But if you leave when they are still rising? She wont’ be able to get you out of her mind.

If you’ve blown your load, so to speak, and you’re standing there waiting for her to give you her number or something, she’ll start to get nervous and wonder what she’s supposed to be doing.

IF, on the other hand, you walk over there, quickly turn up her attraction, and then SPLIT, she’ll be left with a desire. For you.

And guess what? When all she’s got is her desire for you, it will grow. And grow and grow.

So the NEXT TIME you talk to her, she’ll be pleased as punch. Not thinking, “oh it’s that weird guy.”

How To Sell Her Your Banana

Become More Attractive

Putting yourself in somebody else’s shoes is an incredibly effective way of becoming more persuasive.

This is true in sales, romance, and any kind of conversation where you’re trying to get your ideas across with little resistance.

The secret to all influence is taking your idea, and translating them so they are easily accepted by others, based on their own “model of the world.”

This includes their beliefs, their recent experience, and what they think is important.

For example, let’s say you were selling bananas. And you could sell them based on their nutritional value, or their taste, or their versatility. (Just go with it, OK?)

Now, if you came across somebody who was a health nut, and planned out all their meals based on specific nutritional information, it wouldn’t do you very good to try and sell them your bananas based on how delicious they were.

On the other hand, if you came across somebody who ONLY chose food based on taste, you’d be wasting your breath if you talked about all the vitamins and minerals in a banana.

Talking to girls is the same way.

Now, I’m not saying to walk up to a girl and start selling her your banana!

However, instead of walking up and spitting some goofy lines WITHOUT first talking to her and seeing what she’s all about, like most guys do, take some time to get to know her.

Find out what’s important to her. Find out what spins her propellers.

The cool thing about this method is that if you’re talking to her about what she likes, what kinds of things turns her on (not like that!), what her dreams are for the future, something pretty cool will happen.

She’ll start to see YOU, through HER OWN filters of desire.

So if you hold off just a little bit, and turn on her own filters of desire BEFORE you start saying anything about you, you’ll have a MASSIVE ADVANTAGE.

Once her desires and filters are fired up, she’ll be much more likely to be attracted to you (and your banana, lol) when you DO get around to talking about yourself and your interests.

Especially when you inevitably find those things you’ve got in common.

The truth is that HOW you talk to her is much more important than WHAT you talk about.

Learn how to talk to her in that special way so she can’t help falling for you.

Easy Questions For Natural Attraction

Most guys spend a LOT of time trying to think of “what to say.”

In fact, this is a common excuse for NOT talking to her.

“I was going to go and talk to her but I just didn’t know what to say.”

“I felt totally confident, but since I didn’t know what to say, I didn’t make a move.”

And other similar nonsense. I say “nonsense” because almost always, the real reason we don’t make a move is NOT the one we tell ourselves.

Sure, rejection is pretty terrifying. But you can not only insulate yourself from rejection, but you can talk to her in a way that doesn’t require the perfect opener or pickup pattern.

First of all, in order to become rejection proof, you just structure your communication in a way that you can’t get rejected.

If you never ask or suggest anything, she can’t reject you. Sure, if you walk over and ask for the number within the first ten seconds, she can say “no,” in which case you’ve been rejected.

But if take ten minutes instead of ten seconds, you’ll get a LOT better response.

Just start talking to her about things she can’t say “no” to. Meaning don’t ask any yes or no questions about you, or anything you want her to do.

Talk to her about things she’s likely interested in. Fish around for similarities in interest between the two of you.

While doing so, pay close attention to her body language and facial expressions. It will tell you everything you need to know.

So much that if you wait for the right time to “ask” her anything, instead of spitting it out because you can’t wait, she’ll almost always say “yes.”

And not the kind of “yes” that she just says to get rid of you, but the “yes” that means she really, really wants to get to know you.

See, when you talk to her in the right way, and ask her the right questions, she’ll almost always “feel you” no matter who she is.

How To Make Day Game Easy

Most guys are terrified of rejection from girls.

If she says “no,” to whatever you’re suggesting, there’s not much that feels worse. Especially if it happens in front of your friends or her friends.

This is one of the main reasons guys like to hunt in packs. It lessens the sting of rejection to a considerable degree.

But here’s something to consider. It takes a lot of time and planning to get together a group of guys to go “hunting.” And anyplace a group of guys goes to pick up girls, all the girls will KNOW they are there to hit on them.

And if you take some time to inventory all the happy couples in your life, they didn’t likely meet at some meet market.

They met through friends, or at somebody’s wedding, or sitting next to each other in class.

Places where people usually DON’T go to pick up.

Meaning when you think of that special girl out there, whoever she is, and wherever she is, you won’t likely meet her in some meet market, surrounded by your buddies.

In fact, when you DO meet that special girl, there’s a high probability that she’ll be alone, or you’ll be alone.

And unless you feel confident enough to walk up and start talking to her (in NON pick up language), it’s not going to happen.

Sure, you can wait for somebody to introduce you to somebody, or meet people through social circles, but by developing the confidence to just walk up and start talking to people, you’ll have LOT more options, and chances, and you’ll meet that special girl a LOT sooner.

Now, back to that dreaded thought of “rejection” that usually keeps guys safely on the sidelines.

It’s ONLY possible to “get rejected” if you actually suggest something that she can say “no” to.

If you DON’T do that, you can’t get rejected.

Now, it is possible of for you to walk up to her, and have her shut you down completely before you even open your mouth, but if you shower regularly and you don’t have your ding-dong hanging out of your pants, that’s not very likely.

But there IS a way talk to her that is literally rejection proof, so you’ll be able to “feel each other out” and see if you’re both ready to take the next step.

No risk, no worries, no rejection.

And no matter WHAT happens, you’ll BOTH feel much better after the interaction.

The Male Advantage

If you want to get a girl attracted to you, you’ve got to talk to her.

This is GREAT NEWS.

Why?

Guys are attracted to girls to a very LARGE degree, by looks. Meaning if a really hot girl walks into a coffee shop, and she’s taken the time to create an even better appearance with her clothes, jewelry and makeup, she really doesn’t have to do much else to create attraction.

Seriously, imagine your type of woman. Looking just the way you like. She walks into a coffee shop, walks over, and sits down right across from you. All she does is smile that sexy smile, and look at you.

If you’re like most guys, you’ve already fallen in love with her by this time. You’re not really concerned with her personality, or her dreams or what she does for a living. In fact, for most guys, whatever these things are, (her personality stuff) you’d be quick to agree that it’s AMAZING, whatever it is.

On the other hand, think of a girl who repulses you. (Don’t worry, this is just a mind experiment, we’re not out to slam anybody or hurt anybody’s feelings.) Imagine THAT girl came over and sat down, looking at you the same way.

You probably couldn’t get out of there quick enough, no matter WHAT she said.(Unless it was something involving millions of free dollars).

Guys on the other hand, don’t have this power. Meaning most girls won’t fall in love with a guy JUST based on looks. Lust, yea, Eye candy, yea. But most girls, if they DO see some eye candy model, generally put them into a “category.” This “category” is most definitely NOT boyfriend category.

Now, I’m going to assume that you’re not some kind of magazine model eye candy guy.

Which means that you have INCREDLBE POWER with ONLY your language.

The attraction that girls feel is MUCH MORE determined by things like your personality, and how YOU can make her FEEL with your conversational skills.

And lucky for us guys, conversational skills can simply get better and better. The more you learn, the more attractive you’ll become, and the LESS things like looks, money, social status, will matter.

The BOTTOM LINE when it comes to attraction is how well you can conversationally create those feelings in her.

Now, most guys THINK they can ONLY create those feelings if they’re rich, or famous, or some other nonsense.

But now you know the secret.

How To Get Her To Open To You

Girls are easy to talk to when you know the secret.

Most guys see girls as the holders of some kind of magical power, which they and they alone decide who to give it to.

Now, this is an easy mindset to get into, especially if it’s been a while since you got some genuine affection from a lady.

When operating from the “scarcity mindset,” everything is more difficult, no matter WHAT you’re trying to get.

But when you look at girls through the right frame, it’s actually pretty easy.

There’s a certain way to talk to them, and a certain way to measure how well you’re doing.

Both are pretty easy and straightforward to learn.

Next time you’re out and about, just check out all the “guy-girl” interactions you see. Forget about listening in the conversation, and you’ll be able to tell just by the body language who’s into whom.

Meaning if the girl is facing the guy, has her arms and legs uncrossed, is looking at him more than half the time, and has an open expression on her face, AND she’s smiling easy, she’s literally imagining him taking her somewhere private to do the grownup.

However, if she’s closed off, not really looking at him, and her face doesn’t have that “glow,” then she’s either getting ready to bolt (if they’ve just met) or they’re having a huge fight and the poor guy isn’t going to be getting any from her any time soon (if they’re a couple).

This is EASY to see if you’re an objective observer, but most guys completely miss out when their in the mix.

But simply paying attention to her, as if you were a third party observer, while talking to her, is one of the most crucial skills to have.

In reality, if this were the ONLY skill you knew, you’d be much better than most guys,

See, when you’ve got an accurate feedback mechanism, you really can’t fail. All you’ve got to do is just literally TRY ANYTHING, and see how it works. If it DOES work, just do more. If it DOESN’T work, just do less.

But when you combine some basic observational skills with some powerful language technology, you’ll have the BEST of both worlds.

You can read her body language, AND talk to her in a way so her mind, body and spirit will literally AND figuratively open up.

To YOU.

Secrets Of A High Quality Male

Most guys spend all their time trying to “impress” girls.

As if she’s sitting back on her throne, and only needs to wait for ten or twenty guys to approach her, and “apply for the position” to be her boyfriend, or even maybe-boyfriend, or even to get on her “list” of guys she’s thinking about dating.

To be sure, it’s easy for a girl to develop this attitude, given the desperation of most guys.

But consider this “structure” in a context different from dating and sexual relationships.

Imagine some girl is hungry. (NOT interested in sex or romance or relationships). She’s at some kind of food court. There’s a line of guys with various dishes that are average, at best.

And because each guy hasn’t made a sale in a while, they are desperate to sell her some food.

So the line up, and all give her their best “pitch” knowing she’s only going to choose one of these average dishes.

She looks at all of them, and because they are all about the same, she kind of enjoys the fact that all these poor guys are trying to sell her something.

But then she smells something fantastic. Some guy in the back, in his own shop, cooking up something that smells ten times better than what these chumps have.

Only this guy isn’t standing in line. Because he KNOWS that what he’s got is ten times better than any of those fools, which means he can CHARGE ten times more than any of these fools.

So he just hangs back, and waits for HIGH QUALITY customers that appreciate what he’s got. He doesn’t waste his time on low quality customers who enjoy being pitched to by average sellers.

Because he’s only got limited ingredients, he won’t sell them to just anybody. He sells them ONLY to people who make an effort to come to his shop, and pay his asking price. Which is MUCH MORE than those other chumps.

And guess what? This guy, the one with the QUALITY STUFF, makes ten times more than anybody else.

In the game of seduction, it’s the exact same thing.

As high quality male, you don’t need to get in line with all other fools.

Because you’ve got the quality ingredients, you can let quality girls come to you.

What kind of quality?

Your powerful language that stirs feelings in her that she simply CANNOT feel with those other guys.

The deep language of sexual persuasion that girls NEVER experience.

Which is why once they hear it from you, they’ll won’t be able to settle for average again.