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Ultra Polite Seduction Magic

Excuse Me, Miss?

A long, long time ago, humans developed a need for polite language.

Linguists tell us it was due to certain societies where higher class people had the right to kill lower class people if they felt their honor was questioned.

They tell us that polite language was developed to keep lower class people safe from death. It was developed so that the higher class folks would not feel threatened by the lower class language.

Fun With Grammar

In English, the second conditional is used. For example, it’s much more polite to say “Would you mind if I opened the window” rather than “Do you mind if I open the window?”

Why?

In the second case, when you say “Do you mind…” it’s a direct question. Meaning your putting the person on the spot. To them, it feels like you’re asserting your authority over them.

On the other hand, the first case, “Would you mind…” is in the second conditional. The second conditional combines “would” and a past tense verb. It’s used ONLY in when speaking hypothetically.

It’s as if you’re asking the person, “I’m NOT going to open the window, but supposing I did, would you mind?”

This makes it sound MUCH less like an authority grab.

In The Field

Why does this matter when talking to girls? One thing you want to be careful of is to NEVER put them on the spot, at least when you first start talking to them.

No matter where she is, who she’s got around her, she’s going to feel vulnerable talking to a guy she’s never met before.

Now, some people put them on the spot on purpose, just to quickly sort them out. These are the kind of guys who walk up to hundreds of girls per day and number close before they even exchange names.

Don’t Be Too Aggressive

But if you see some really cute girl who happens to be pretty shy, that approach will almost always scare her away.

Which is always a good idea to NEVER put her on the spot.

Meaning, you should NEVER say things like, “You’re really pretty,” or, “Do you have a boyfriend?” or anything that forces any questions or feelings of attraction up to the conscious level.

It’s ALWAYS a good idea to talk about non-threatening stuff CONSCIOUSLY, while using your covert language to talk about all the attraction stuff.

Which means she’ll think you’re talking about the bar, the band, her job, whatever, while you are carefully creating MASSIVE attraction on a deep, unconscious level.

Which means SHE will think it “just happened,” which to shy, attractive girls, is pretty magical stuff.

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How To Become A Social Jedi

Energy Manipulation

I have a friend who is a high level black belt in Aikido.

Aikido is not like other martial arts. I’m no expert by any means, but it’s my understanding that most martial arts are offensive and defensive. True fighting skills.

But Aikido is mostly defensive. It uses the opponents energy against him. Meaning somebody comes at you, you simply adjust and deflect. There’s not a lot of “attack” strategies.

Now, when most people study martial arts, it’s so they can avoid conflict. It boosts your confidence, and it helps to keep control of your anger whenever you get into tense situations.

Fight Or Flight?

If you don’t have any training, and you are in fear of your safety, your instinctive programming takes over, and you may say or do things without much conscious thought.

On the other hand, if you know deep in your bones that you can defend yourself, you’ll likely be in much more conscious control. Allowing for calm and relaxed dialogue which can keep fights from starting.

But as my friend tells me, Aikido is a much different level. He says that while Karate will keep you out of fights, Aikido will get you out of the bar an hour before the fight even starts.

Read Social Cues Like A Genius

You get this massive insight into social crowds and behavior, and instead of waiting until things are about to boil over, you simply exit when the temperature rises slightly.

Of course, this is only a secondary effect of practicing Aikido.

Clearly, having such levels of social intelligence can help you out in plenty of situations.

Being able to “feel” the energy of the room can give you a HUGE advantage.

Even in a one on one situations, feeling the energy of the person you’re talking to is like having X ray vision.

Not only to you know what their words really mean, but you’ll get a sense of what they’re really trying to say. What they’re really afraid, and what their deepest desires are.

If you can be the one to give that to them, while covertly respecting their fears, they’ll see you like they see no other.

Your Own Mental Dojo

And you don’t need to spend years inside the Aikido Dojo to get this level of social intelligence.

All you need is a few minutes a day of mental practice (the RIGHT mental practice) and you’ll see the world like few people do.

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How To Talk Your Way Into Her Bedroom

What Must Be True?

In NLP, there’s a set of presuppositions.

These really don’t have anything to do with NLP, they are just things that are assumed to be true about life in general.

One of them is that the more flexibility you have, the more you’ll be able to get.

And if there’s any contest for something, the person who has the most options, all things considered, will get whatever the prize is.

If you’ve got two football teams, the team with a wider diversity of plays and players will usually win.

If you’ve got two boxers, the one that’s got twenty different punches will usually beat the guy who’s only got five or ten different punches.

If you and a bunch of guys are digging for gold, the guy with the widest variety of digging equipment (shovels, spoons, filters, pans, etc) is going to get more gold than the guy who’s only got a pickaxe.

Everybody Wants The Same Girls You Do

When going out and meeting girls, it’s just as much a competition as anything else.

Girls compete based on their looks. Guys scan the place and pretty quickly come up with a list, in their heads, from the hottest, to the least hottest.

Girls, on the other hand, aren’t so lucky. They can’t simply scan a room and find out who’s hot and who’s not.

Believe it or not, looks are really NOT that important to girls. Girls would MUCH rather find a guy with a decent personality and confidence level than some brainless goof in a hot body and a thousand dollars worth of clothes.

Don’t Think Like You Think

As guys, this is hard to wrap our minds around, since a hot girl in a hot dress is marriage worthy to most guys before she even opens her mouth.

But girls need to talk to guys. They need to feel them out. They need to find out if their confidence is real, or fake. They need to feel those emotions that ONLY come through conversations. Girls are simply NOT turned on by looks.

Naked Girls Sell More Than Naked Guys

This is why there are SO MANY magazines filled with hot chicks, but very FEW magazines filled with naked guys.

And even the magazines with hot guys on the cover are usually men’s magazines anyhow.

Girls are simply NOT that into looks as much as we think they are.

This is FANTASTIC news. That means that there is a LOT you can do to improve how wet you make her panties.

Develop Your Language Power

Conversational skills are KING when it comes to girls. And like the examples above, the more flexibility you have with your word skills to moisten those pink panties, the quicker it will happen.

It may take a little practice, but once you’ve got these skills down, you’ll be able to walk to almost anybody and spin their mind in all kinds of directions.

Money, girls, friends, whatever you want, you can get.

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Show Her Your Magic Box

Different Perspectives

Here’s a nice mind flip for you.

You ever do jigsaw puzzles? For every squiggly piece, there’s some squiggly piece somewhere that’s a perfect fit.

Guys approach girls like they are pieces of a jigsaw puzzle. Meaning there’s a certain thing to say, in a certain order, that will unlock her heart and her panties.

If you say the wrong thing, she’ll send you packing. If you say the right thing, you’re in between the sheets faster than a starving bunny on a carrot.

Now, let’s take a step back and see what this means.

In order for this to be true, she’s got to have an idea of what she wants you to say. She’s also got to have an idea of what she doesn’t want to say.

Is this even possible?

No Conscious Mind Required

We all know that attraction isn’t a choice. We all know it happens unconsciously. Nobody can CHOOSE to be attracted to somebody, anymore that you can CHOOSE to be hungry, or thirsty or tired or scared. When it happens, it happens. You can only go along for the ride. As the Borg like to say:

Resistance is Futile

Now, back to that girl. Is it even possible that ANY line would work? Maybe.

But think about this metaphor. Instead of talking about physical attraction, let’s talk about hunger instead.

You Love Broccoli!

Same process. If you’re hungry, you want to eat. Some things you want to eat more than others. Some things you LOVE to eat, some things you won’t eat even if you’re starving.

A girl in a club is hungry for affection. She wants to meet a guy. All girls who aren’t in a happy relationship are starving.

The problem is she doesn’t know what she wants.

If she LOVES chicken, and you show up with a plate of cheese fries, you’re out of luck.

If she’s a vegan, and you show up with a steak, you’re out of luck.

Don’t Rely On Specifics

This is the trap most guys fall into. They think there is ONE set of lines, or patterns, or techniques that will work on ALL girls.

This is just as useless as thinking that ALL hungry people want to eat the same thing.

But consider this.

The Magic Box Theory

Supposing you had a magic box. A magic box that could create ANY kind of food.

You’d walk up, find out what she wants, and whip it up with your magic box, and everybody’s happy.

Seduction is the same way. Just walk up, figure out what spins her wheels, and give it to her.

Because the magic box is your mind. And your language skills. And your ability to tell stories and move her emotions around.

Instead of throwing a bunch of memorized junk at her, talk to her. Get to know her. Give her what she really wants. And she’ll give YOU what YOU really want.

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How To Get Her To Follow You Anywhere

Be A Leader First

How you deal with frame tests will make or break your game.

Most guys are terrible at this. At the first sign of trouble, they eject, run home, write some post on their favorite forum about how girls are evil, and they shouldn’t behave the way they do, and get all kinds of positive support and feedback from a world filled with keyboard jockeys.

Now, think about this from a female perspective. Most guys never do this. Most guys think of “women” in the abstract, and expect them to behave in a certain way, and then they get all butt hurt when they don’t.

Don’t Expect A Pushover

Imagine a woman moving through the world. She wants a strong leader. She wants somebody who will make her feel safe. She wants somebody who will “softly” overpower her frame, with respect and kindness.

She DOESN’T want some guy who’s going to expect her to behave in a certain way, they get emotionally wounded when she doesn’t.

She is hard wired to shake your frame any way she can, just to make sure you’re the real deal. The STRONGER your frame, the STRONGER her attraction for you. The ONLY way she will know if your frame is strong is if she tests it.

Crude Example

Think of a blind guy going to a bar. He only likes girls with big boobs, so he’s got to cop a feel whenever possible to qualify of disqualify girls. Now, he won’t just reach out and grab them, that would get him slapped. So he’ll talk to her, touch her shoulder, and eventually rub up against her boobs with his arm or something.

When a girl talks to a guy, she’s got the same disadvantage. She’s got to “feel out” your frame. She can’t tell by looking, and she can’t tell by surface structure conversation. She’s got to rattle you a bit, and see how you respond.

How do you prepare for this? Practice verbal flexibility. Practice choosing an outcome, an intention for the conversation, and gently steer it back to that intention no matter WHERE the conversation goes.

Language Ninja

That way, no matter WHAT she says, you’ll just see it is a short detour, and then get back on track.

Every time you steer the conversation back on track, she’ll follow you, and any time a girl follows a guy, physically, conversationally, or metaphorically, that spells attraction.

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The Ideal Frame Of Mind For Attraction

Warning! Kind Of Gross

Most guys approach girls like they are, in some way, like their moms.

This is deeply subconscious, even old Freud, that “cigar is just a cigar” guy realized this.

Of course, when girls first meet guys, they will almost always seem them through the filter of their father. One of the easiest ways to predict how any relationship will unfold is see how she thinks about her father, her relationship with him, and how he thinks about his mom, and his relationship with her.

All Below The Surface

Obviously, none of this is going on consciously. Few guys or girls will look out into the thumping bar scene and sort for people that remind them of their parents.

However, once you break out of this common way of thinking, you’ll gain a tremendous amount of power and freedom with the type of girls you deal with.

Bible Knowledge

Way back in the Old Testament, it says a guy will leave his family and stick to his wife.

Meaning he’ll grow up within the family unit, fully dependent on Mom and Dad, and as soon as he’s old enough, he hooks up with his wife. His wife, of course, does the same thing.

Which means in a very real sense, husbands and wives become replacements for moms and dads.

If you look out into the world today, you’ll see plenty of evidence of this.

Not Like Kids!

Unfortunately, it’s usually the guys doing the child like behavior.

Meaning it’s very common for guys to treat their wives or girlfriends like their moms.

They feel the need to ask for permission, get approval and are always worried about making her happy.

Believe it or not, girls HATE this.

They Want Leaders Not Beggars

Girls would very much like guys to be independent thinkers. They want, on a deep level, a guy who will LEAD, so they can follow. No girl dreams about meeting prince charming so she can lecture him about staying up past his bedtime.

No girls dreams about some easily butt-hurt little boy who’s going to be always asking for her permission.

So, how do you create this personality, rather than the little boy personality?

Next time your out and about, FORCE yourself to think of your IDEAL LIFE, that is not dependent on ANY PARTICULAR GIRL. When you are imagining your ideal life, see your girl in a SUPPORTING ROLE.

Find Your Leading Lady

Imagine your life as a movie. You are the star. She is NOT the co-star. She is a supporting actress.

When you look out across the sea of femininity, look for an appropriate supporting actress. Not a co-star, not a surrogate mother.

Look at the girls in your life that you are dating, or thinking about dating, and ask yourself:

“Which of these girls can best help me get what I want?”

And then choose accordingly.

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She Loves The Mysterious You

Right Action Creates Wonderful Attraction

The same skills you need to take action are the same traits that will make you attractive.

There’s this theory in quantum physics thought up by a guy named Schroedinger.

He says that all matter-energy states exist in a state of “limbo” and they only solidify when they are observed.

That Cat

The famous example is “Schroedinger’s Cat.” There’s a box, and there’s a cat inside. Is the cat alive, or dead? If the box is closed, it’s both alive AND dead. In that state of quantum limbo. Only when you open the box will you see if it’s alive or dead.

Creating attraction, if you’re a guy, works the same way. Girls are different. Guys feel attraction for girls based largely their looks. This isn’t PC, this is just the way it is.

Girls feel attraction for guys based on their behavior. Not PC, just the way it is.

So when you’re looking at her across the room, you already know she’s hot.

But she’s looking at you, and she’s not sure. Despite what all the gurus tell you about wearing all kinds of bling and colorful peacocked shirts, that will only give you a slight advantage.

Your Actions Tell Her Everything

As soon as you make a move, that advantage (if it was one) will quickly vanish, overshadowed by your behavior.

But here’s the thing.

The mindset that makes it easy to approach, is the SAME mindset that makes you ultra attractive.

The on that says, “Hey, she’s pretty cute, I wonder what her personality is like?”

Don’t Beg For Attention

Not the on that says, “Wow, she’s a Goddess! I hope she accepts me!”

The good news is that just like Schroedinger’s cat, nobody knows until you make a move. When she’s checking you it across the room, she really can’t know anything about you unless she sees you in action.

The first step is to walk across the room with confidence. This is easy when you haven’t pedestalized her. Just see her as a cute girl with an unknown personality. Maybe really sweet, maybe a nutjob lunatic.

Dig For Her Treasure

The second step is to talk to her with a playful and interesting way. Don’t worry by impressing her with your stats. Ask the right questions, and gently guide her to through the right emotions.

Do that and you’ll get any girl you want.

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Are You Terrified Of Success?

Fear Of Failure Isn’t What’s Holding You Back

There’s two killers of any creative thought or productive action.

One is magical thinking. This is we somehow believe that we can get any kind of result or outcome without putting in any kind of effort or taking any kind of risk.

This is popular among folks who practice any kind of “Law of Attraction” type manifesting. If you sit in your room meditating, and wonder why stacks of money never magically show up, consider this.

Other People Are Key

Everything in the world comes from other people. Even raw materials like fruits and vegetables need to be grown, harvest and delivered. So when anybody is practicing any kind of “manifesting” what they’re really doing is HOPING that somebody, somewhere will somehow decide, spontaneously, to show up and just give them stuff without ever asking for anything in return.

Just imagine if EVERYBODY did that! We’d be back to the stone age!

On the flip side of the coin of magical thinking is “skeptical thinking.” These are the people who are so terrified of taking action and making a potential mistake that they need absolute and irrefutable PROOF before moving an INCH outside their comfort zone.

But EVERYTHING in the world that was created, was done so by taking UNCERTAIN action.

Proof Will Never Come

If you’re expecting to told EXACTLY what to do, and have a near certainty of a guaranteed result, you’d better look forward to working on an assembly line the rest of your life.

Now, I know that self-proclaimed “skeptics” like to stroke their chins and pretend they are really intelligent, and they see things nobody else sees, but they’re just scared.

Scared to try something and see what happens. Scared to look “foolish” in front of their friends.

Uncertainty Is Necessary

The secret to ANY creation, whether you’re making a cheese sandwich or building vast empire, is you’ve GOT to have a mix of action and openness.

Action because nothing’s going to happen otherwise.

Uncertainty because unless you’ve got some kind of crystal ball which can predict the future, nobody knows what’s going to happen an hour from now.

It’s easy to stay safely on both sides. It’s easy to believe in magic, and it’s easy to demand proof.

But there’s no fun in that! Only safety surrounded by pretend enlightenment.

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The Trading Frame Of Seduction

How To You Approach Approaching?

The frame of mind you’ve got when you approach a girl is crucial.

Humans, especially females, are REALLY good at sniffing out your frame, even if it’s totally unconscious.

Meaning if you are worried about rejection, or nervous, or full of judgment or anger, she’s going to know, on some level.

She Can See Through The BS

You may have some pretty tight “surface structure” game, but if underneath you are just barely holding it together, you won’t seem very congruent.

Which means she’ll sense that something about you is “off.”

Now, this won’t make her run away screaming, and you may very well succeed, but she’s going to be a bit hesitant to “seal the deal,” since she can’t be congruent in her attraction for you unless you are congruent in your belief about you.

What’s the best frame to have?

I Like Myself

One of appreciation. Appreciation for yourself, and appreciation for her.

On a deep level, male-female interaction, including emotional and sexual interaction is the same structure as old school bartering.

Back in the old days, the guy who grew corn would have to walk around until he could trade what he had (the corn) for something he wanted (like eggs, for example).

Everybody’s GOT To Benefit

When he did, both people were happy. The guy who had eggs wanted corn more than the eggs. The guy who had the corn wanted the eggs more than the corn. They were happy to meet, happy to talk about what they had, and happy to make the exchange.

When you approach a girl with the same attitude, it works the same way. You like yourself, you’d like to exchange some of you for some of her.

I don’t mean this in a sexual or physical way, but more of an “energy” way. When you attention part of your intention, attention, and energy, and focus it on HER, she’ll reciprocate, and focus her attention, intention, and energy on YOU.

And if you both like what each other’s got, you’ll make the trade.

Metaphysical Love Barter

But the thing about male female exchange, in this way, is that unlike trading corn for eggs, where you go home after the deal, when you trade “energy” for “energy,” it just makes you want to trade more.

Because this is the stuff of all human interaction. You appreciate you, you appreciate her. You’d like to exchange some of your energy for hers, knowing it will make you BOTH feel better.

When you see the world through this frame, every interaction, conversation, and exchange, (even if it’s an old fashion sales call) becomes incredibly easy, invigorating, and very profitable, both from an emotional, sexual, AND financial standpoint.

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Your Emotional Power For Consistent Attraction Generation

Moving Emotions Are The Fastest Way To Attraction

Moving Emotions Is Essential

No matter HOW you create attraction, being able to create emotions is absolutely necessary.

They can either be HER emotions, YOUR emotions (that she’ll naturally mirror) or the emotions of your location (which you’ll both naturally mirror), but emotions are absolutely necessary.

Now, emotions get a bad rap, especially among guys who are trying really hard to appear “alpha.”

Don’t Be James Bond

After all, the stereotypical “alpha” in the movies is the cold hearted tough guy who never shows any emotions, never lets his guard down, and never allows himself to get close.

It’s crucial to understand that all these “movie alpha’s” are characters dreamed up by writers. And if you’ve met a guy who writes for a living, these guys don’t have that much experience with picking up girls.

All THEY know is what they in the movies, or read in books. It’s more of a marketing thing than anything else.

Avoid Hollywood Alpha Stereotypes

Most guys aren’t alpha, so most guys are drawn to the tough, “beat ’em up” type guy in the movie, since it’s easy to imagine themselves in their place.

Imagine killing a whole army of enemies with a pocket knife is somehow easier to imagine being emotionally present which is absolutely necessary if you want to create REAL attraction.

Sure, you’ve got to be strong, have a dominant frame, but you still need to be a human, and be able to tell stories that make her laugh and get those funny feelings in her tummy.

Touchy Feely

The simplest way to do that is simply embrace your own emotions. Now, this may sound pretty lame, as the term “emo” is a derogatory term for guys who are too “in touch” with their emotions.

But in reality, guys that are stereotypically “emo” are only in touch with SOME of their emotions. Usually neediness, victimhood, and other “dark” emotions.

But when you fully embrace ALL your emotions, including FANTASTIC emotions like happiness, excitement, adventure, curiosity, leadership, connection (not just with her but with all people) then you will become INCREDIBLY attractive.

Storytelling With Emotions

Just learn to tell stories and talk about things that move through all these emotions, and she’ll willingly go along for the BEST ride of her life.

To make it even MORE powerful, learn to embed your emotional stories and conversations with powerfully persuasive language patterns, which will make you more charismatic and magnetic than EVER.