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Secrets Of Massive Social Influence

The Missing Ingredient For Effortless Persuasion

Rapport Is Crucial

Most people would love to have some magic skills of persuasion, seduction, sales.

To be able to walk up to some girl, spit out some magic words, and have her look you with those gorgeous submissive that says your wish is her command.

Or maybe you dream of making a killing in sales. Using some wicked nested loops and convincing your client that closing the deal with you is as natural as sleeping late on Saturday morning.

But here’s something to consider.

Most of the time, before you even open your mouth, the tone has been set. And if you haven’t enough rapport, or the RIGHT rapport, words can’t do much.

In fact, if you NEVER learned any sales techniques, seduction techniques, language techniques, and you ONLY spent time developing deep and powerful rapport, you’d get more girls than any natural, and you’d close more sales that any seasoned professional.

Don’t believe me?

Consider your best friend. Right now. Imagine you are out shopping for something, and you were REALLY only window shopping.

You had no plans to buy anything. You just heard from a friend of a friend that this “thing” is pretty cool, and you happened to be driving by a store that sold this “thing” so you figured you’d pop in and take a look.

So there you are, taking a look at this “thing.” Sure it looks good. Sure you can understand why some people would salivate over it. Sure you may even buy it in the future.

But now? You’ve got other things on your mind. Maybe you’ll file it away in your brain for later.

Then your best friend pops out of nowhere. Your closest, help-you-bury-the-bodies friend.

Deep Levels Of Connection

“Dude! This thing is AWESOME! I got mine yesterday! Get this one and I’ll show you how to use it!”

Would this cause you to buy it?

Now, consider some creepy salesman that smells like he sleeps in a vomit filled ashtray. He walks up and says the exact same thing, in the exact same way.

Would this cause you to buy it?

This is the HUGE difference that rapport makes.

Now consider your best friend again, saying “Dude! Buy This Now!”

And compare that to vomit cigarette man using all kinds of language patterns.

Who would be more persuasive?

Again, this is the power of rapport.

If you’ve got HUGE rapport with a lady, you won’t need much else. You could talk about last night’s hockey game, and she’d be all over you.

How do you create rapport?

Here’s How:

Frame Control

How To Be An Outlaw Seducer

Are You Riding Training Wheels?

Most guys believe in a set of “rules” to follow when getting girls.

To be sure, there’s no shortage of procedures, methods, sequences of events, etc.

And for some guys, these work pretty good. They can keep you from blowing it, stepping on your toes, etc.

Like one “rule” that many guys follow is to NEVER say the “L” word until she does.

Now, this may not be such a good thing, especially if SHE’S following the same rule.

But it certainly IS a good thing to keep in mind when you’ve only been on a few dates. To be sure, if you guys have been together for a while, and you stare deeply into each others eyes, and you’re feeling it, and you KNOW that she’s feeling it, it’s not such a big deal.

Clearly, sticking TOO MUCH to the rules can get you blown out.

I remember watching some TV show about a high school basketball team. The coach had this really complicated, drawn out play, where the ball was supposed to be passed around a certain number of times.

Only the first player to get the ball drove right to the rim and scored a quick two.

The coach asked him what happened, and the player looked at him and said, “I know coach, but he gave me the lane, so I took it.”

The coach didn’t have a comeback. When your opponent is giving you an opening, you take it. No matter WHAT your “plan” or set of “rules” is.

Strike Whenever The Iron Is Hot

So, yea, follow your “rules,” whatever they are, as a basic guideline.

But think of them as “training wheels.” Wait three seconds before approaching. Don’t call within 48 hours. Don’t text more than once a day. Don’t text her back within three minutes. Always try kino before number closing.

Whatever.

But when she gives you the lane, you’d better take it!

How will you know?

This is perhaps the biggest secret of natural game. Natural “game” isn’t really that different from yours.

It’s just being SUPER attuned to how she is responding. All the micromovements, pupil dilations, slight changes in skin color and how much blood is or isn’t in her lips.

All of this hits in a big, unconscious wave, and gives them that “instinct” that tells them whether or not to push forward, or pull back.

This ability will get you MUCH more action than any memorized set of patterns, or any sequence of events.

And the real secret is that once you get out of your head, you’ll see these signals EVERY WHERE.

Meaning you’ll finally get inside that mythical “secret society” where all is revealed.

Learn How:

Frame Control

Secrets Of Frame Test For Instant Attraction With Gorgeous Girls

Scientifically Proven Paths To Her Magic Box Of Love

How To Pass Every Test

How do you pass a girl’s tests?

It’s not like most guys think.

To understand how, you’ve got to understand the difference between “re-framing” and “out framing.”

Reframing is when you take something she’s said, usually a “cause effect” type statement, and then using the content within that statement and flip it around to make it mean something else.

For example, let’s say you’re talking to some girl in a club or wherever. Things are going good, and then she looks over and see’s a guy who’s a bit taller than you, maybe a bit more handsome than you, and maybe has on some better bling than you.

She says something like, “Wow, that guy looks like he’s famous or something. I bet he gets ALL the girls!”

Now, a guy without any control of his frame would get all butt hurt, and get angry at her for even saying such a thing, and stomp home in a huff of boyish anger.

Don’t do that.

In order to “reframe” what she said, you’d take the same content (the handsome guy over there) and flip it around so it means something else.

Now, this is a “test” because it’s SUPPOSED to rattle your cage a bit. She’s actually hoping it doesn’t rattle your cage, so she can be more attracted to you. That’s why she’s talking to you in the first place. She HOPES you seduce her and take her home.

Anyhow, you may say something like this:

“He’s not famous, he’s gay, look at the way he’s holding is drink!”

“Yea, but I bet that guy doesn’t have a very good sense of humor.”

“Yea, but only sluts go for somebody that’s so obviously fake.”

Now, these might work, but it shows you are threatened by him (what she wanted, to see how you’d respond) and they all attempt to “disarm” the threat.

Go Big Baby!

A much better way would be to OUT FRAME.

Which means that you just take what she said, agree with it, and put it in a larger context. You agree that guys handsome, and he gets laid a lot, and he should be famous.

Instead of putting him down, you completely accept it, and come up with a reason it’s a GOOD thing, because it supports YOU in some way.

Something like these might work:

“Yea, I’m glad there are guys like that, or else all those fake girls would be all over me, and I’d have no time for a nice, sweet girl like you.”

“Yep. If it wasn’t for guys like that, and the girls who love them, places like this would never stay in business and we never would have met!”

“Actually, I think that guys IS famous. He was on the cover of some mens magazine with an article teaching guys how to give women three hour long orgams. I’ve been dying to try some of those techniques…”

Now, this are tough to come up with off the top of your head, so practicing can help a lot.

How do you practice?

Here’s How:

Frame Control

The Sweet Spot Of Mind Magic

Align Conscious and Unconscious

Some people love to “wing it.”

Others, not so much. Some of us need to be consciously aware of every step, measure twice, cut once, and be sure have a good idea of what we’re going to get.

Naturally, there’s a place for both.

When I was a kid, I used to “try” to cook using the “wing it” method. I’d throw a bunch of stuff in a bowl, mix it up, and then fry it. It usually came out pretty terrible.

Imagine if you were having a dinner party and you’d never cooked anything in your life, and you’d figured you’d just grab stuff out of the fridge and throw it together based on your mood!

On the other hand, some things simply lend themselves to just letting go and “winging it.”

If you were on a first date, for example, imagine if you pulled out a check list of questions to ask, and wrote down the answers!

Generally speaking, any time there’s spontaneous human to human contact or interaction, there’s going to be a LARGE amount of winging it.

Knowing When To Need Blueprints Is Essential

Step by Step Strategies

And when there’s you operating on the physical world to build something, taking a bunch of stuff and putting it together to make something bigger, more complicated, and more valuable (like making dinner from scratch, for example) you need some kind of specific step by step strategy.

Of course, there’s a HUGE amount of overlap.

The true MAGIC in life comes when you’re “winging” something that USED TO BE step by step difficult.

Musicians, athletes, performers, all do this. Once upon a time, they had to learn every single note on the piano. It was frustrating, boring, and difficult. But they got to a level where they could translate vague emotional feelings DIRECTLY into beautiful music, ON THE SPOT, and generate those same vague emotional feelings in others.

The secret of life is to learn to wing it AND use step by step procedure to keep pushing forward. Keep increasing your skills. Keep creating better and more valuable things for you and others to enjoy.

When you’re in the ZONE of life, when you are operating at full capacity, buoyed by the ever present feedback loop.

THAT is when magic happens.

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Mind Persuasion

How To Start A Conversation With A Girl And Get Her Interested In You

Starting Conversations With Girls is Easier Than You Think

So you want to talk to girls, do you? Well, it’s easy. Walk up and start talking! Just kidding. Some guys would LOVE to walk up to ten or twenty cuties every single day, but are petrified to even say hi. This post will not only help you blast away that anxiety for good, but be a smooth operator so she’s glad you came over.

Now, before we get into the nuts and bolts, there’s two types of conversations with girls. Those where you just show up, and those when you’re invited over. We’ll be focusing on the ones where you get invited over.

Why?

For one, you’re getting many, many more invitations than you realize (more on that later). Two is just that it’s so much easier, and less nerve wracking, when you’ve got a warm lead, and a cold lead. Borrowing some sales language, warm leads are people who are already interested in your product or service. Cold leads are people who don’t even know your product or service exists.

For example, if you worked in a cell phone store, people that came walking in would be considered warm leads, and would be much more interested in buying a phone. Selling vacuum cleaners door to door, on the other hand, would be hard as hell, because most people don’t sit around at home wishing for a new vacuum cleaner.

Talking to girls is the same way. When you get an invite, it’s just so much easier. Once you get the hang of this, and see how easy it really is, you can start walking up to all those gorgeous girls you see on the street everyday and work your magic.

Wait For Eye Contact Before You Approach

Wait For IOI

An IO What? This is pickup lingo for “Indicators of Interest.” The name of the game is this. Girls send out indicators of interest. Guys pick up on them, and go over and talk to them. At least most of the time. There are some girls who are brave enough or self confident enough to start chatting up guys, but those girls are few and far between.

So to begin with, you’re going to have to learn to notice those indicators of interest. Luckily, though, they are EVERYWHERE!

Clear and Obvious IOI’s

Any time she makes eye contact with you, that’s good. That means she knows you exist. If she makes eye contact with you and doesn’t break if off right way, or doesn’t puke on her shoes, that’s even better. Even better if she looks at you, and then actually holds eye contact for a bit.

To make double sure she’s interested and she’d be open for a conversation, give her a brief smile, or slightly raise your eyebrows really quickly. Think of this as the initial “ping” that submarines do. If she pings you back, that’s fantastic. You’re ready to go.

A great way to practice this is to just make it a point to smile at every girl who makes eye contact with you. At first it will seem supers scary, but it gets pretty easy pretty quickly.

Think of it as working out at the gym. Eye contact, smile. Eye contact, smile. Go to the mall or anywhere that people are moving around, and just hit ten or twenty girls in about thirty minutes or so.

If she’s stationery, and kind of far away, you can tell if she’s game if she’s “pointing” her body at you, but facing somewhere else. Just make an excuse to move closer to her, and give her some eye contact, and a quick smile, and see what she does. If she smiles back, make a move son!

Start Off Easy

Most guys make this WAY too complicated. They try and think of the most witty, impressive one liners. The truth is that she’s just as nervous as you. If you make the opener too complicated, she’ll actually feel put “on the spot,” as if she’s supposed to respond in a certain way.

Just be open, honest, and simple. Just basically start off by mentioning what just happened. Then mention what’s happening. Something like this is perfect:

“Hi, I’m George (except use your OWN name!), I noticed you from over there and you seemed interesting, so I thought I’d come and introduce myself. What’s up?”

Now, the cold harsh truth is that some girls will change their minds after they hear you talk. Maybe you’re too nervous, and you’re making her nervous. Maybe she imagined you were a certain way, and you come across the total opposite. Don’t worry.

How will you know? She’ll suddenly turn from friendly to cold. It doesn’t mean she’s mean, or a bitch, or trying to hurt your feelings. It just means her feelings changed for some reason. Not your fault. Not her fault. Just accept it gracefully and move on.

But most of the time, she’ll be open enough to get the ball rolling. She’ll respond with something about the same as you. She’ll tell you what’s up, and expect you to carry the conversation, since you were the one that made the first move.

Don’t worry, it’s easy.

The Magic Of Pacing Statements

To begin with, you want to get the ball rolling with “pacing statements.” These are just statements that are objectively true. The music is loud. The lights are purple. It’s snowing outside. The Mets just won the World Series. Whatever. The purpose of these are NOT to impress her. They are ONLY give her easy things to deal with, and to get her thinking “yes…yes…yes…” in her mind.

While you are doing this, you want to match her body language, but not too much. If she’s sitting with her legs crossed, you cross your legs, but not exactly in the same way. If she’s leaning slightly to the side, you do the same.

This is called “rapport” what it does is create a deep feeling of similarity between you two. It just makes it easier. Don’t invade her space, and don’t overwhelm her with all kinds of magic tricks or super complicated openers. At this stage, your just showing her how easy and normal it is to talk to you.

Once you’ve done this for a few minutes, it’s time to move on to the next level.

Always Reveal First

Whenever moving the conversation in new directions, avoid putting her on the spot. It’s a good idea to answer any questions ahead of time, before you ask her.

Instead of firing off questions like you’re interrogating her, simply make a few statements about your own interests, and then ask her how she feels on the subject.

For example, if you happen to be in a club and there’s band playing classic rock, and you like banjo music, tell her that you like banjo music, and tell her a few songs that you like. Then ask her what kind of music she likes. She’ll be much more willing to open up if you open up first.

Follow Up On Her Trance Words

Whenever she starts talking, pay close attention to how she says certain words. It’s pretty easy to get an idea of the things she’s really interested in. Once you find a few of these, ask some follow up questions that are open ended.

Just keep asking questions, based on her own ideas and stories, to help you dig further into her mind.

Whenever possible, get her talking about her ideal future. Now, don’t start out by asking her what her ideal future is, that sounds too corny.

But if she’s talking about school, and she mentions she wants to be a nurse, then say something like this:

“OK, imagine you go to nursing school, and everything works out perfectly. What kind of job do you have in five years from now?”

If you can get her talking about something she wants, that’s out in the future, she’ll unconsciously connect it to you on a deep level. This is pretty good!

Find Any Similarities

All during this whole process, you want to find as many similarities as you can. But be careful you don’t overly agree with everything she says. Just look for important things that she likes, and you also like. If you’re honest, this will go a long way.

Also, don’t be afraid to disagree. Many guys are terrified that they’ll turn her off if they disagree with anything she says. Just accept that she likes cats, and you like dogs, or whatever.

Summary and Conclusion

Relax, look around, and find signs of interest. Go and introduce yourself. Start talking about anything that’s true. Reveal your interests. Ask her interests. Go slow. Enjoy yourself. Keep this up, and you’ll soon have more girls than you know what to do with!

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