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Don’t Talk About Attraction

No Paint By Numbers

What’s most attractive to a woman?

Unfortunately it’s not just ONE thing. If all you needed to do was put on a green shirt and wear a certain cologne to get laid, then the world would be a huge orgy.

Probably a good thing it’s not.

But there is a certain, repeatable collection of skills, or mindsets, that WILL get you consistent action with the girls (or girl) you want.

I’ll Take Combo Plate Number 17

It’s a combination of intelligence, self acceptance, playfulness and confidence.

The confidence to be yourself in a social situation, and not worry about what people think of you.

The playfulness to NEVER take anything anybody says too seriously, (unless they’re trying to stab you in the eye with an ice pick or something).

The self acceptance that says YOU accept YOURSELF regardless of what anybody else thinks about you.

And the social intelligence to easily read situations, conversations and know what to say, and what not to say.

Do You Get It

If you become known as the guy who really “gets it,” then women will LOVE to have you around. And not in a “girlfriend” sense, where they see you as some safe beta who they can complain to.

I’m talking about in a genuine “above the cut” alpha sense.

One thing women HATE is thinking they need to “take care of” the men they are with.

If she’s talking to you, and she feels the need to spell anything out, it’s going to kill attraction.

Even women in relationships don’t like to think of their boyfriends or husbands as little kids they need to “mother.”

They want to think of them as independent men who both understand them, and lead them.

She’ll Tell Me When To Kiss Her

Sadly, most guys don’t even come close. They actually believe that a women they’re gaming will TELL THEM what to do or say.

They actually think that looking at a woman and saying, “What can I say that will make you like me?” is an effective strategy.

But as I’m sure you know, most everything that happens in male-female relationships happens on the deep structure level of communication.

If you have to ask what’s going on, or if you have to ask her what she means, or if you need to ask her what you should do, it’s already too late.

On the other hand, if you can read the situation, and act accordingly, you’ll be the guy EVERY GIRL wants.

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Is Your Life Complete?

Do You Have Everything You Want?

They say it’s not the cards you are dealt, but how you play them.

If, of course, refers to poker. The game is a LOT more complicated that just checking your cards vs. your opponents.

There’s plenty of strategy, and there’s plenty of ways you can present your cards.

In many games, there’s also a chance to replace the cards you want with ones that are hopefully better.

Change Whatever You Want

Clearly, life is very similar. We all come into this world with certain “cards,” like our parents, our looks, our height, etc.

And like in poker, we can “replace” some of the stuff we’ve got with something that we want.

For most people, this usually translates into moving to a different city, going into a different career than your parents, or altering your appearance through exercise.

One thing people rarely consider is their intelligence level.

Boost Your Brain Baby!

For one, I’m sure you’re aware that there are plenty of different kinds. Social intelligence, musical intelligence, interpersonal intelligence, mathematical intelligence, artistic intelligence, etc.

Most of us think of our “intelligence” like we think of our “personality.” If you’ve ever taken one of those personality tests, you may have felt “stuck” in one of those categories.

The truth is that WHO you REALLY are is not set in stone. Not in the least.

On the contrary, there is a LOT that you can change about yourself, for the better.

You Are More

Now, most people just accept who they are, accept what that will get them and shrug their shoulders and go back to watching TV.

But a select few realize there’s ALWAYS much more.

There’s ALWAYS room to grow, to change, to explore, to prosper.

The question is, which one are you?

Are you one of the “complacent” ones, who just accepts their lot in life, (and whatever happens to be on TV that night)?

Or do you look at yourself in the mirror and REALLY BELIEVE yourself when you say:

“I Can Do Anything.”

The truly successful people KNOW they their lives are ALWAYS a work in progress. They are ALWAYS learning, always growing, always exploring.

Are you?

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How To See What’s Already There For Mad Attraction

Pay Attention!

How do you tell if she’s into you?

Most guys would LOVE to know which girls are attracted to them, and which girls aren’t.

Just think if could scan a room, and see a little bubble over the top of every girl’s head, that had all kinds of statistics. How much she was attracted to you, on a scale of one to ten, what the chances were of getting a number, what the chances were of taking her home, whether or not she was a freak in bed.

Save Tons Of Time

You could just spend five or ten minutes scanning the room, hit up all the “high probability prospects” and take the “best candidate” home within an hour so.

If you had some magical glasses or contact lenses that would show this data you could easily make a kajillion dollars.

But this is the stuff of pure fantasy, right?

Not quite.

It Already Exists – Inside Your Brain

Most people assume that “naturals” are ultra seductive and can pretty much make ANY woman instantly fall in lust.

This isn’t altogether accurate. What’s MORE accurate is that naturals simply have a set of built in filters so they can do EXACTLY what is described above.

Meaning they have super advanced skills of perception and social intelligence, so they can easily read a room and tell who’s into them, and who’s not.

In The Moment Attraction Measuring

What’s more, is they can tell, during the conversation itself, if she’s increasing her attraction or decreasing. Simply by watching her facial expressions, body language, and how she responds to kino (slight touching in socially appropriate places) they know PRECISELY when to “make the move.”

Because they have SO MUCH DATA, they almost never fail.

Please Like Me!

Compare this to the average “wanna be pick up artist,” who’s usually just hoping and not much else, and you can see a world of difference.

But here’s the CRUCIAL DIFFERENCE. All those signals that are there for the natural are ALSO THERE for the guy with no experience. He just can’t see them. When he talks to girls, some are getting turned on, some are getting turned off, but since he’s blind to body language, he can’t tell the difference.

Naturals are naturals not because they are super seductive, but because they can see things (either consciously or unconsciously) that others can’t.

Which means that ALL YOU’VE GOT TO DO is learn to see what’s already there.

Jack up your social intelligence, and you’ll be amazed how many girls are already into you.

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What Do Rich People Have?

How’d They Get There?

What’s the difference between the rich and the poor?

I mean besides a stack of money vs. a stack of bills?

An interesting study was done recently, in which they interviewed a bunch of rich people, and a bunch of poor people, to find any differences in their daily habits.

You Could See This Coming

The differences were clear, and what you would expect.

Rich people ate healthy food, poor people ate fast food or junk food.

Rich people watched less than an hour of TV day, while poor people watched 4 hours or more.

Rich people read at least two non-fiction books a month, poor people rarely read.

Rich people spent part of their income, AND part of their time on charitable activities, poor people didn’t.

Rich people spent a great deal of time doing and learning things that would improve themselves, while poor people didn’t.

Rich people took responsibility, poor people blamed others.

But My Situation Is Different!

Now, there’s plenty of poor people who are poor through absolutely NO fault of their own. Born into the wrong family, or the wrong part of the world, or under the wrong government or economic system would be enough to keep ANYBODY poor.

But even if you’re in a bad situation, taking responsibility is ALWAYS much more useful than blaming others, EVEN IF it’s THEIR FAULT.

Why?

You Are All You’ve Got!

Because NOBODY cares about YOU like YOU care about YOU. Meaning even IF you blame others, and it IS their fault, they won’t likely do much.

On the other hand, if you look at your own situation, and forget about trying to shun responsibility and give yourself a good, long, hard look in the mirror, and ask yourself, “Well, what am I going to do about this?”

You have a much, much better chance of succeeding than somebody who’s ALWAYS pointing fingers.

Continuous Improvement

One CRUCIAL part of that study (at least for me) was that wealthy folks KNOW they’ve ALWAYS got to improve themselves. Even after they’ve made their millions, (or billions, as the case may be) they KNOW it’s crucial to ALWAYS learn more.

Here’s another part of the study that struck me. Sixty Percent of millionaires and billionaires are SELF MADE.

Not From Daddy

They started broke, and through sheer willpower, and relentless forward momentum, they made themselves rich.

They can do it, YOU can do it.

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How To Learn About Her And Easily Resonate With Her Attraction Triggers

Are You Trying To Be A Seduction Robot?

What’s the difference between learning and doing?

It’s really just a matter of perspective.

Most guys fall into a trap (at one point or another) of thinking there is some specific procedure or process of getting girls. All they need is to somehow “put the pieces together” and they’ll suddenly have all their lady problems solved.

The simple, and sometimes harsh, truth is human interactions are incredibly complex, and are never the same. Just like the old saying, “You can never step in the same river twice,” you can never talk to the same person twice.

Huh?

Always In Flux

Every second you are moving forward through life. And every second you add to your experience, which slightly changes your perceptions, your beliefs and your ideas.

Even the physical biology and chemicals that make up “you” are always changing, with every inhale and exhale.

Scientists believe that about every seven years, EVERY SINGLE MOLECULE in your body has been changed out.

So when it comes to human interaction, how could there EVER be a step by step process, that would guarantee ANY result?

Nobody Stays The Same

Even couples who have been together often drift apart because they “change.”

If you’ve ever had a girlfriend for more than a couple of weeks, you KNOW this. That person you talked to after a month or two is TOTALLY DIFFERENT than the girl you first met.

If you can’t predict the behavior of ONE SINGLE PERSON, how in the world are you going to predict the behavior of ALL PEOPLE?

Mental Shortcuts Or Mental Myths?

Yet this is what a lot of guys expect, and think exists. Some kind of step by step process, some kind of memorized lines and patterns that will REMOVE RISK, and GUARANTEE that they get laid.

Many people can be married for YEARS and still not know how to talk to their partner.

Does that mean that it’s all random? Not at all.

The specifics will change with every person, but the basic principles and structures still apply.

Always Be Learning

The secret of becoming successful with women is ditching any kind of “process” that you think you need to “know” before taking action.

The secret is to see every single interaction as a LEARNING PROCESS that will add to your collection of experience.

If you see all interactions as a learning process, you will NEVER fail, because you will ALWAYS learn something.

And once that worry of perfection is gone, and you open yourself up to learning, you’ll be a lot more relaxed, and a lot more successful.

To make it much, much easier, learn to open up your natural learner, so you can learn how to learn even FASTER.

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Do You Own Your Brain Or Have You Given It Away?

School Sucks

The great tragedy of learning is that we associate it with school.

Unfortunately, the setting and the topics we study in school aren’t necessarily the best for us.

For one reason, school was created around the beginning of the industrial revolution, when most people were destined to work in factories. So the kind of stuff they taught was for people who were going to be working on some kind of assembly line, or doing some kind of repetitive work.

Human Assembly Line

Another reason it’s not nearly as efficient is that it’s designed to teach a whole roomful of people the same thing, at the same time, at the same speed.

Needless to say, everybody learns at different rates, and different ways.

Now, some people learn great in that environment. But some people don’t. And those that don’t are sometimes much more creative and intuitive than others.

The very same kind of folks society depends on to come up with new inventions and ideas and concepts to help us move forward.

Stone Age School System

Ever wonder why medicine has progressed so much in the last hundred years, science has grown by leaps and bounds, and technology is doubling in power every few years, yet school is the same as it was a hundred years ago?

Sure, the tools may be a little improved, but the method is still the same.

Of course, this makes it all incredibly easy to “blame” the “system” for not having what we want, but in the end, WE are responsible for what WE’VE got.

Nobody else.

It’s On You To Learn

If you want to learn something that will help you succeed in life, that’s up to YOU.

Luckily, you ARE a natural learner. You have everything you need to unleash your creative genius and let loose that awesome ideas you’ve got inside you.

You CAN teach yourself to soak up all the information you need to become a super-achiever.

Own your brain. Take responsibility. Create the life you want.

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What Is Real Alpha Attraction?

James Bond?

What are the qualifies of an “alpha”?

The kind of guy that girls wet their panties for? If you watch movies, it’s always the biggest, baddest guy who never smiles, and is always beating the crap out of others.

Guys like James Bond, or any other government spy, trained killer type.

Imaginary People

But remember, these are characters, invented by writers, who are usually NOT the alpha type.

One way to check and see what an alpha is like is to reverse engineer society.

Huh?

Take a look at all the past societies, and just see not only who’s calling the shots, but who’s getting most of the women.

Hidden In Plain Sight

Now, in our own current society, this can be tough, because they guys that are REALLY calling the shots, the most ULTRA alphas, are usually behind the scenes. And it’s tough to tell who’s getting all the ladies, because they tend to keep this on the down low as well.

But if you could imagine such people, they wouldn’t be like the “in your face” alphas from the movies.

Consider primitive societies. These are helpful because the triggers that cause attraction in women are ancient, and change very, very slowly (like thousands of years slowly), so the guys that are in charge of primitive type societies possess the traits that would still woo women today in your local bar.

And what type of qualities are those?

Spin A Good Yarn

When anthropologists started studying these types of things, they were surprised that one trait these guys had was the ability to talk a good game.

Not politician-style, but to weave colorful and emotionally rich stories, and literally captivate all those around him.

The two things that separates humans from all the other animals is our brains, and our ability to use rich language.

Work On Your Campfire Skills

So it stands to reason that mastering these two skills, have a powerful brain, and powerful language skills, is much more crucial to success (both with women and with life) that having a six pack or wearing the right cologne.

This FANTASTIC news. Because while all those other guys are trying to posture with their corny openers and fake “alpha-ness” you’ll be boosting your REAL skills.

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One Skill To Rule Them All

Parachute Or Row Boat?

There’s lots of mind experiments where you are going to some imaginary place and you’ve got to choose from a collection of tools.

These are similar to those psychology questions, where you’re in a boat with a dog and your best friend, or some other combination, and you’ve got to decide who lives and who gets thrown overboard.

What Does That Really Mean?

Psychologists love these types of questions, because they supposedly give insight into your personality or something.

But in reality, those situations rarely present themselves. You never will find yourself in a life raft with the Pope and Einstein and only enough food for two people.

But you WILL find yourself in your day to day life, being faced with decisions and choices that are much more subtle, and potentially much more life-alterning than any philosophical discussion.

Like should I choose “this” job, or choose “that” job?

Should I keep trying this particular project, even though it hasn’t shown any progress, or should I ditch it and start something else?

Should I Stay Or Should I Go

Should I go over and talk to that person, who seems interesting for some reason, or should I stay here where it’s safe?

What makes these decisions potentially difficult is the only person who notices them is YOU.

Meaning nobody is standing there, clearly specifying everything and all the parameters.

All You Baby

In fact, most of the time, there ARE no parameters. There’s only YOU, your world around you, and YOUR decisions.

The truth is that how you operate within the world on a day to day basis will have a HUGE impact on the quality of your life.

Most people are TERRIFIED to admit this, as we humans are prone to point fingers at anybody except ourselves.

But once you accept this fact of life, you’ll gain an incredible amount of power.

Risk Is Safety

And you’ll realize that no matter what you’ve accomplished, no matter what you want to accomplish, you can get more, get better, and improve almost any aspect of your life.

Once you give up the false security of dependency, you can REALLY embrace your own power.

Of course, the most powerful resource you have is your brain. Your thinking, creativity, and perception, so you can look at the world around you, and see all of the opportunities that are just waiting for you to take advantage of them.

The more you can utilize your incredible brain, the more you’ll succeed.

The sooner you start, the more you’ll get.

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Understand Female Language For Easier Attraction

Mars and Venus?

Men and women speak different languages.

Men generally say what’s on their minds, more or less. Sometimes we beat around the bush a bit, but with just a slight bit of focus, it’s not to difficult to figure out what we’re on about.

Women, on the other hand, can sometimes speak in pure riddles. At least to men, anyhow.

It’s not very politically correct to say this, but men and women are simply built differently.

Dual Minds vs. Single Brain

Brain scans show that women have much more connections between their brain hemispheres.

Women seem to be much better at communicating, and multitasking. Us men are more single minded.

Hunters and Gatherers

From an evolutionary standpoint, this makes sense. Men got together on a daily basis, and went hunting. Not much need for chit chat. Women, on the other hand, stayed together, watched the kids, and gathered all the nuts and veggies and other grubs.

So women developed an ability to not only talk about a bunch of different things at once, but to talk on many different levels at once.

(Men, on the other hand, only needed to say things like, “Hey! Look! A Zebra! Let’s kill it!”)

Reason For Gossip?

Scientists theorize one of the crucial elements in that “stay at home” chit chat was gossip. Men climbed the social and status ladder with their hunting skills, which is mainly physical. Women climbed the social and status ladder with their speaking skills.

What does this mean for seduction?

Hey Baby, Let’s Bang!

It means you’d better not expect her to speak like a guy! It also means you’d better learn to read between the lines, learn what she’s REALLY saying, and be brave enough to make some moves to find out.

I know it happens in the movies a lot, but she will rarely say ANYTHING related to seduction (like “kiss me,” or “aren’t you going to ask for my number?” or “would you like to take me home?”)

Sure, it DOES happen, but if part of your strategy is to wait for it to happen, you’re going to be waiting a long time.

So what do you do instead?

Social Intelligence To The Rescue

Build up your social and conversational intelligence. Trust your instincts. She may indeed be saying, “Do you want to take me home?” But she’s not using words. She’s using body language, facial expression and the subtext of her conversation.

When you’re gut says she’s asking you to kiss her, try some kino and see how she responds, this will usually tell you everything you need to know.

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Read Between The Lines of Life For Consistent Success

What Does Intelligence Really Mean?

When most people think of intelligence, they imagine things like doing huge math sums in their heads, or understanding the secrets of relativity or something.

But as I’m sure you know, intelligence is much more than knowing a bunch of facts and figures.

Up until not too long ago, when somebody was considered “smart,” it just meant they were good at math or remembering dates.

All Kinds of Intelligence

But as we’ve learned, there are many, many intelligences. Music, art, creative, social, emotional, and many, many more.

We all know about the stereotypical genius professor who always wears mismatched socks, or the genius-criminal who hides out in the mountains hiding from the cops.

These are just movie caricatures. They aren’t real.

For example, take social intelligence. Being able to look into a room, and quickly understand the body language, facial expressions and other micromovements of everybody is an incredibly useful skill.

For one, you can know who’s in love with whom, who’s chasing whom, and who’s angry at whom.

Poker players are exceptionally good at this. In high stakes poker, part of their skill is in HIDING all their emotions from each other, so they can’t be read. As they say in poker, you don’t play the cards, you play the person.

Another example is emotional intelligence. Understanding people, why they do things, what they really mean when they say certain things, and why they are afraid of saying other things is also crucially important in life.

Make Everything Easier

Work relationships, romantic relationships, and friendships are ALL made much easier and much more fulfilling when you’ve got a handle on the always changing emotional state of both you and whomever you’re involved with.

When you can be the person who really, really “gets” other people, you’ll always be a welcome sight.

Building a powerful brain is much, much more important than most people realize.

It is truly the master key to better relationships, better income and a deeper understanding of the world around you.

The good news is that no matter WHAT kind of brain you’ve got, you can do some simple exercises to quickly build it up into a powerhouse of understanding.

In just a few minutes a day, you can start reading between the lines of life, and find the depth of wonder within.