Emotions Are The Path To Desire

A great way to build up massive attraction in a woman is to move her emotions around.

And a great way to do that is to tell a bunch of stories, that have several different emotional “themes.”

The cool thing about this is the stories don’t have to be epic sagas of the time you road a rowboat across the Atlantic. They can be simple stories of how you found a frog in your bedroom when you were a kid, or how you accidentally forgot your belt and your pants fell down when you stood up to give a speech in sixth grade.

How To Mix It Up

To make it even better, and create even more attraction, don’t start and finish a story in one go.

Start one, get to the good part, then switch, and start another story.

In NLP this is called “nested loops,” and they are very powerful for helping people overcome complex problems.

If you’re using the for this reason (helping people overcome problems) you have to use great care in moving them through the RIGHT emotions in the RIGHT order. Meaning you’ve got to talk to them (the patients) find out EXACTLY what kind of emotions they start with, and what their own personal “emotional chain” is from the “trigger” to the “problem.” And then tell just the right stories in just the right order to “reprogram” their “emotional chain.”

Randomness Is Perfect

But when talking to girls, it’s a LOT easier. It doesn’t matter WHAT emotions and in WHAT order, just so long as you move her through a bunch of different ones.

She’ll talk to all those other clowns, and have maybe one or two, “tame” emotions.

She’ll See You As Different

But she’ll talk to YOU, and feel happy, excited, scared, anxious, relieved, surprised, all within the conversation. Because you’ll be using YOUR stories from YOUR own history to move HER emotions.

Now, this can seem pretty difficult if you’ve never done this before, but it IS pretty easy once you get the hang of it.

You’ve just got to develop the conversational flexibility to jump from thread to thread, and REMEMBER where you left off, so you can go pick up where you left off, start a new one, etc.

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What’s In A Name?

Why can’t you remember names?

Most of us have trouble with names. Why is that?

Memory is a funny thing. Most of us think we’ve got pretty good memories, meaning we think things happened the way we remember them.

Unfortunately, that’s rarely the case. Prosecutors KNOW that if ALL they’ve got is eyewitness testimony, they don’t have much.

Our Brains Are Squishy

They even did a study where they had some “robber” run in and “steal” a professor’s laptop, right in the middle of the lecture. It was all planned, just to see how much the students would remember.

You’d think the students would be able to remember the situation pretty clearly right? After all, they were looking RIGHT AT where the event happened, when it happened, with focused attention.

But when they were polled, their description of events were all over the place. His clothes, his race, his gender, everybody had a different story.

What’s going on?

A Little Effort On The Front End Goes A Long Way

The trick with memory is not in how you “find” the memories you’re looking for, but how you “store” the information in the first place.

Remember, your subconscious is getting hit with millions of bits of information per second. Unless you put special emphasis on any particular piece of data that goes in (like somebody’s name) your subconscious is going to throw it in long term storage with the rest of the “noise.”

But when you store it correctly, you can easily retrieve it. And not just names, everything.

Remember Anything You Want

Dates, recipes, birthdays, combinations, even complicated material for tests, or bullet points for your next speech.

The truth is that your brain is an incredible device that the world’s top scientists are only just beginning to understand.

When you learn to use it correctly, you’ll not only impress all your friends with your amazing memory, but you’ll unlock other massive powers that others don’t even know exist.

Girls Love You!

You are money, so money, and you don’t even know it.

If you know that line, then you know it’s from the movie, “Swingers.”

A guy and his buddies are trying to pick up girls throughout the movie.

In one scene, a guy had a girl interested in him, but he was afraid to make a move.

He was unaware how much the girl was into him, and he was unaware of how much he had to offer.

You’ve Got More Than You Think

Meaning he UNDERESTIMATED his own value to her, and he UNDERESTIMATED her attraction to him, therefore significantly OVERESTIMATING the chances of getting shot down.

Believe it or not, this happens ALL THE TIME.

Think about how hard it is to approach girls. Now take that feeling, and magnify it by about a billion.

THAT’S how hard it is for women to approach guys. Now, I’m not talking about flirting, or sending clear signals across a room, or accidentally bumping into you as she walks past.

I’m talking about getting up, walking across the room, ALL ALONE, walking up to you, while you’re surrounded by your buddies, and starting a conversation, with the intention of getting your number.

To most normal girls, this is absolutely UNTHINKABLE.

To do so, in her mind, she would be clearly labeling herself as a big, huge, SLUT.

Women are hard wired, on a deep evolutionary level, to avoid the SLUT label at all costs.

Better Safe Than Sorry

Despite what you may think, and despite what nonsense is being passed around, girls simply DO NOT approach.

Sure, some have, some do, but they are the exception that proves the rule.

Think of it this way. Imagine that you operated from the model that girls did the approaching.

You got dressed up. You put on your best clothes, your best cologne, and then went and sat with your buddies and hoped girls would come and pick you up.

Are You Waiting To Get Approached?

Would that work? Maybe if you were a movie star or something.

Here’s the bottom line. Girls would LOVE to approach, but they simply can’t. If you think they SHOULD, get over it, because you’ll be waiting a long time.

Read The Signs, Fool!

But what they CAN do is send out TONS of signals to guys they’re interested in. They look across the room, they see a guy they’re interested in, and they’ve got to attract his attention without seeming like a easy lay.

So, the signals they send are very subtle. But they’re there. And if you haven’t tuned your brain to see them, you’ll miss out on a lot of action.

Luckily, building up your social intelligence is pretty easy. In only a few minutes a day, doing some really goofy exercises (at home where nobody can see you) you’ll quickly boost your social intelligence so you’ll start seeing all the MAGIC that is hidden in all human interactions. Verbal and non-verbal, conscious and unconscious, seen and unseen.

Then you’ll discover how MONEY you really are.

Your Brain Is Always Hidden

One of the reasons we think intelligence is set in stone is we can’t see it.

If somebody spends a couple hours in the gym every day, and eats nothing but boiled chicken breasts and broccoli (I actually knew a bodybuilder who did this, and he had the six pack to prove it), we could tell by looking at him or her.

We wouldn’t think, “Wow, I wish I was born with a six pack!”

Damn! That Must Take A Lot Of Work!

We simply assume that their body looks that because of the effort they put into it. Now, this CAN get confusing if we watch a lot of movies, where the characters are living regular lives but are somehow super buff and ripped all the time, but keep in mind those actors spend TONS of time getting in shape for their roles. If you them in between movies they’ve got flab like the rest of us.

But when think about intelligence, we somehow imagine that it’s set in stone. One of the reasons for this is we eat every single day, and we have an intimate experience with food and our physical appearance.

So we naturally make that assumption when we see somebody who’s really fit.

But because most of us don’t have a very good experience with learning, we just assume that some people are naturally smart, and others aren’t.

But that’s ONLY because we all share a common, and pretty lousy experience with learning.

Everybody Is Born A Genius

For example, take some three or four year old kid who’s a born genius. Creative, artistic, capable of expressing beautiful ideas and concepts through various means of “non-traditional” expression.

Then you force them to sit in an uncomfortable chair for six hours a day, listening to some boring person drone on and one about some horribly boring subject.

To make matters worse, if this child doesn’t pay close attention, and seem interested in this horribly boring (and useless) material, they’re labeled as a “Problem Child.”

Your Intelligence Causes You Problems

This young child, who had so much potential, is now being told they are “wrong.”

Screw That Noise!

The good news is that whatever genius you had, before it got hammered out of you by the school system, is NOT lost.

You CAN recover it. Not only that, but you can build it, enhance it, learn to express it in ways that will astound the world.

And make you a potential fortune.

Genius Recovery Strategy

All you’ve got to do is re-connect with your natural learner. Your inherent genius, and your relentless curiosity and creativity.

Stay On Target!

Being able to stay on topic is a true measure of frame control.

Many guys get confused with the term, “frame control” as it’s one of those fuzzy concepts that’s hard to understand. There’s no specific language patterns or body language or any way to “measure” somebody’s frame.

Somebody Will Always Be In Control

But if you take a look at people, in groups or in pairs, in public places, you can sort of tell who’s controlling the frame, at least at the moment.

If you took a look at two people talking, girls guys or whatever, and you QUICKLY had to guess who was the most “dominant,” that would be the person who was controlling the frame. And when I saw QUICKLY, I mean in less than two seconds.

Dominant body language, dominant facial expressions, and dominant voice tone are all clues.

Be The Center Of Attention

The guy who’s talking while everybody else is nodding while keeping their eyes glued to him is in control of the frame. When the other people talk, they look as though they are “seeking approval” slightly, or “hoping for acceptance” or some similar type of posturing.

Now, when talking to girls, they will ALWAYS try and control the frame. Let’s be honest, everybody likes power, everybody likes to be in control. Everybody likes to be the “boss” of the conversation.

Girls LOVE the idea of being surrounded by guys who are desperate for her approval. It gives them social status, makes them much more attractive, and offers plenty of social proof.

Waiting For Scraps Isn’t The Answer

But you know as well as I do that those guys will almost NEVER get into her good graces. Simply by standing around her, like planets orbiting the sun, they’re basically given up any semblance of a dominant frame in exchange for merely being in her presence.

So, how do you control the frame?

Strong Intentions

ALWAYS have a clear intention in your mind, and ALWAYS keep the conversation going BACK to that intention.

Think of a really, really smooth politician. They’ve got a clear agenda in mind, and no matter WHAT goofball question the reporters ask, they always steer the conversation back to their agenda.

They don’t get mad, they don’t get butt hurt, they just smile, validate the question, give a “good enough” but “vague enough” answer, and get back to THEIR agenda, NOT the reporters.

Stick To Your Outcome No Matter What

If you’ve got a STRONG outcome in mind (that what you WANT out of the conversation) and you have some conversational flexibility, no matter WHAT she says, you’ll be able to steer her back, covertly and carefully, to YOUR outcome, not hers.

And every time you do so, and SHE follows, her attraction to you will increase significantly.

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No Such Thing As Smooth Sailing

No matter what you want in life, there are going to be roadblocks.

How you deal with those roadblocks will dictate how well you achiever your dreams.

Part of being an ultra genius is how creative you are in going around, under, through or over those inevitable obstacles that come up.

Overcoming Obstacles Is Part Of Life

After all, the one thing that super successful people have in common is they absolutely refuse to give up.

And ultimately, it’s up to YOU whether you win or lose. Because ultimately, YOU decide when to stop moving forward. When you do that, it’s game over.

One thing that will help considerably is when you have flexibility of mind, and thinking.

Being able to come up with various strategies in the face of adversity is crucial.

In any given situation, when there’s some kind of competition, and one guy’s gonna walk away the winner, and one guy’s going to go home empty handed, the one who’s the most flexible will win out.

Doesn’t matter if it’s a boxing match, a sales presentation, or a day game “pick up.”

Flexibility Is Better Than Strength

The cool thing is that when you develop a strong sense of flexibility, and you really begin to understand the TRUE nature of your inner genius, those obstacles won’t feel like obstacles any more.

Because simply in thinking how to get around them, you’ll naturally come up with five, ten or twenty DIFFERENT ideas that you’d never thought of before.

Now, don’t me wrong. Coming up to a roadblock never feels good, but it usually won’t take long before you feel BETTER after being FORCED to think of alternative strategies.

Creativity Happens Up Against The Wall

As they say, “necessity is the mother of invention,” and when it comes to “inventing” better ideas to get whatever you want, nothing necessitates outside the box thinking like some big fat roadblock.

Welcome them. Embrace them. Appreciate them. For they will help you unleash your GENIUS.

And just like fighters can practice different moves so they’ll be much more flexible in the ring (or the cage) there’s plenty of mental drills you can do to DRAMATICALLY improve your thinking flexibility when you come up against those roadblocks.