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Linguistic Ninja Techniques

Being conversationally fluent is a fantastic skill to have.

Meaning if you can talk about a lot of different stuff, it WILL make you a lot more attractive?

Why?

What’s In It For Me?

Remember the old rule from Dale Carnegie, that everybody is always listening to their favorite radio station: WII-FM, which of course means “What’s In It For Me.”

If you walk up and start jabbering away to some gorgeous girl about what YOU find interesting, it will only “work” if she happens to also find it interesting.

But chances are, she’s going to be bored to tears.

The secret is to find out SHE’S interested in, and then talk about that, as if YOU’RE an expert.

Then share your own experiences on the subject, entice her to share hers, and then use HER desires and interests to covertly move the conversation wherever you want.

Their Model Of The World

The secret to getting anybody to do anything is to simply take what YOU want, and speak about it using THEIR terms, their ideas, and there desires.

This is pretty easy in a straight up sales conversation, where everybody knows their “roles.”

They’re buying something, you are selling something. So asking them what they are interested in when it comes to “Product X” is a pretty straightforward question.

But if you ask a girl you’ve just met what she’s looking for in a boyfriend, it will seem a little forced, to say the least.

Ease Your Way In

That’s why you’ve got to be a bit sly. Start off in her frame, then slowly pull her into your frame, then dip back into her frame, then back into yours, etc.

With enough conversational flexibility, this game of “cat and mouse” is INCREDIBLY seductive on a deep level.

Keeping Her On Edge

By moving her around with stories and emotions, most based on HER information, it will be like nothing she’s ever experienced.

Now, this may seem incredibly complicated, but it’s pretty easy once you get the hang of it.

There are some pretty easy ways to seriously jack up your verbal flexibility, making you a seduction ninja.

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Rediscover Your Brain Power

Once upon a time, you were a raving genius.

Your brain and the world, through your perceptions and experience, were like opposite sites of a magnet, irresistibly attracted to one another.

You looked out into the world through your eyes, saw beautiful and fascinating things, touched and felt things, and learned how to interact with reality to get what you wanted.

It wasn’t always easy, in fact it rarely was. But it was fun. Trying, getting feedback, and trying again was pretty much the story of your life.

Relentlessly moving forward, learning, experiencing, and learning some more.

What Happened To Your Genius?

Then something happened.

All those helpful and loving adults suddenly changed their tune.

Instead of being so “cute,” you were suddenly a pain in the you-know-what.

Then when you went to school, it got even worse. A bunch of people, just like you, were being herded like cattle.

Told to sit there, (for hours and hours) in really uncomfortable chairs while you were forced to listen to some boring person talk about some boring subject.

Lifelong Learning Is Natural

There’s a myth that the brain somehow “shuts off” when we reach a certain age, and to some extent, maybe it does.

But I’m sure being plucked out of a fun, learning, and safe environment and forced into some scary brainwashing center (um, I mean “school”) doesn’t help much.

The good news is your genius is still there.

Get Rid Of The Junk

All you’ve got to do is remove all those layers of gunk that were laid down on top of it by years of education, and you’ll be amazed what you can do.

Luckily, it’s not so hard. Kind of like remembering to ride a bike again after being told it’s impossible.

Just get on and start peddling, and let the fun being.

Learning, discovering, and unleashing your MASSIVE creativity.

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Generate Natural Attraction

How do you talk to a girl?

If you’re like most guys, you’ve got a problem. You see girls everywhere. You are attracted to girls everywhere. But when it comes time to walk over and say something, your brain suddenly shuts down.

The truth is that your language, self confidence, self esteem and frame are all linked together.

Forget The Tricks

A lot of guys think all they need is a bunch of memorized lines, or some bling, or some magic tricks, and then they’ll be getting some.

The problem is that girls are hard wired on a deep an ancient level to spot “fakes.”

From a biological perspective, when a woman has sex, and then gets pregnant, she’s out of commission for a while. So over the hundreds of thousands of years, women have developed an ultra powerful method of sniffing out cheats.

The absolute WORST thing that can happen to a woman, from an evolutionary perspective, is to be conned into bed by some sleazy caveman who’s going to sneak away before she wakes up.

Honesty and Congruence

Sure, being a single mother is tough. But back in the caveman days, being a single mother usually meant you AND your kid were doomed.

So the only ladies that survived were the ones that could effectively sniff out those cave men who were practicing some kind of pick up routine.

Whenever you talk to a girl, then, the most important thing is to NOT set off her “this guys is a fake sleaze” filters.

Meaning no matter WHO you are, and WHAT you’re going to talk about, keep things on the up and up as much as possible.

Now, here’s a secret that most guru’s won’t tell you.

If YOU like YOU, so will she.

It doesn’t matter who you are, how much money you make, or even how tall you are.

All Starts With Inner Game

If you REALLY like and appreciate yourself, AND you’re open and honest when talking to her, you’ll have a MUCH better chance of creating that magical female attraction that feels so incredibly good.

To give yourself an even better chance, talk to her about her. Let her ask about you whenever she feels comfortable enough.

Generate some natural self appreciation, walk over there, and just find out about her.

Ask The Right Questions

Find out what makes her tick. Find out what’s she’s interested in. Find out what she dreams about at night.

No pressure, no games, no manipulation.

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Secrets Of Self Validation

Humans crave validation from other humans, and from ourselves.

Now, some people think that those who overtly seek validation should be dismissed as “shallow” or something, but the bottom line is ALL humans are hard wired to NEED validation.

The problem is when we try and ignore this, we open ourselves up to manipulation. It’s one of those subconscious drivers of human behavior that’s there whether we like it or not.

Impossible To Ignore The Instincts

If we become overly concerned with “short term” validation, then it can become a problem, and we start to behave like “those people,” meaning everything we do is perceived as selfish and self serving.

I like to think of short term validation as like a “sugar high” from eating a donut or something. It feels really good in the moment, but it quickly fades and you feel like crap. The tendency is to seek more short term sugar highs, which can lead to a cycle of self destructive behavior.

On the other hand, longer, deeper and more natural validation is like eating fruits, veggies and healthy fats. Slow burn, long term energy.

Short Term Gain, Long Term Pain

Short term validation is always seeking approval “in the moment,” while long term validation is like developing a good “reputation.”

Somebody who’s genuinely kind, genuinely interested in helping others without needing an immediate reward, and somebody that’s genuinely pleasant to be around.

Then there’s the best validation you can get, which is that which comes from within.

It’s one thing to build up a solid reputation, so whenever you behave “selflessly” you’re also keeping your reputation, (which necessarily depends upon the opinions of others) intact, but it’s something altogether different to ONLY be concerned with how you view yourself.

Like maybe you KNOW you are doing the right thing, but you also know that NOBODY will ever know.

Think Long Term

They say the truest measure of character is how you behave when nobody is looking.

Ultimately, we ARE the judges of our own behavior, so you’d be better be able to sit quietly with yourself in peace.

Paradoxically, this mindset is also the absolute BEST way to persuade and influence others.

Figure out what they want, figure out how you can present your ideas in terms of their desires, and do so in a way so it seems like it was their idea all along.

They’re happy because they’re doing what you AND they want, and you’re happy because you are at peace with yourself.

When you can do this consistently, almost without thinking, then you’ve got it made.

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Hit And Run Attraction

One frame of mind that REALLY helps when out interacting with females is the “hit and run” frame.

Now, this is just a metaphor. I don’t really mean to go out and run over girls and then drive off.

Many guys, when talking to girls, are consciously or subconsciously looking for some kind of “reward.”

They seem to think that attraction is a conscious choice on her part, which means they imagine walking up, saying some goofy pick up line, and her looking at him and saying, “Wow, that’s a great line, I really like you! Can we have sex?”

Of course, this does happen in the movies, but remember, movies are NOT real life.

If ANY attraction DOES occur, it will happen subconsciously. She’ll get just a feeling, and she won’t know why.

This is where PLENTY of guys mess up.

They’re expecting some kind of conscious signal, some kind of verbal “OK” from her.

If you’re waiting for that, you’re going to be waiting a long, long time. Guys that have trained themselves to look for subtle clues in between the lines are the most successful.

So, where does the “hit and run” model come in?

One way to wean yourself away from expecting consciously feedback is to think of COVERTLY turning her on, and then leaving.

This is definitely a LONG TERM strategy. Most guys start talking to girls, and hang around WAY TOO LONG.

They’re waiting for some super obvious green light, that her attraction has peaked and is starting to diminish significantly.

The trouble she’ll associate those diminishing feelings of attraction if you wear out your welcome.

But if you leave when they are still rising? She wont’ be able to get you out of her mind.

If you’ve blown your load, so to speak, and you’re standing there waiting for her to give you her number or something, she’ll start to get nervous and wonder what she’s supposed to be doing.

IF, on the other hand, you walk over there, quickly turn up her attraction, and then SPLIT, she’ll be left with a desire. For you.

And guess what? When all she’s got is her desire for you, it will grow. And grow and grow.

So the NEXT TIME you talk to her, she’ll be pleased as punch. Not thinking, “oh it’s that weird guy.”

Blast Away Social Anxiety

Most of us are shy when we ask for something.

At the very least, we’re a bit nervous before interrupting somebody and getting them to do what we want.

Even if it’s their job, like a waiter or waitress in a restaurant, or a teacher in a classroom, a lot of us are a bit timid when breaking somebody’s training of thought and asserting our wishes in there.

After all, they could say no.

Truth is that we’ve all been programmed to one degree or another to be a little “nervous” when asking for something. Since if “they” (whoever they are) say “no,” we’re pretty much done.

On a deep level, it feels like we are giving them complete control over our lives, just for a little bit.

They have, for a brief instant, the power of approval or disapproval. Approval feels fantastic, disapproval feels terrible, and it’s completely OUT of our hands.

All mammals are hard wired to absolutely HATE situations where they don’t have power and choice. All kinds of studies on rats and other simple creatures show this over and over.

Is there away out of this trap?

There most certainly is. Most of us just “pop the question” without any regards to the other persons wants and needs.

Now, if you already know the person, as a friend or partner or spouse, there’s not much risk.

But if you don’t know them, that anxiety can creep up.

However, when you first find out what THEY want, and then frame your request or suggestion in terms of what THEY want, rather than what you want, something pretty cool will happen.

They won’t see you as “imposing” on them. They’ll see you as “helping them.”

When they satisfy your request, whatever it is, instead of seeing it as “accommodating” you, they’ll see it as a win-win outcome where you’re BOTH getting your needs met.

More like an even trade, rather than one person giving somebody else something.

And when you can get people to feel that, you’re doing pretty good.

Pretty soon all that anxiety vanishes, and you start to REALLY feel your power.

Relationships, interactions, even basic communication all becomes a lot easier.

How To Sell Her Your Banana

Become More Attractive

Putting yourself in somebody else’s shoes is an incredibly effective way of becoming more persuasive.

This is true in sales, romance, and any kind of conversation where you’re trying to get your ideas across with little resistance.

The secret to all influence is taking your idea, and translating them so they are easily accepted by others, based on their own “model of the world.”

This includes their beliefs, their recent experience, and what they think is important.

For example, let’s say you were selling bananas. And you could sell them based on their nutritional value, or their taste, or their versatility. (Just go with it, OK?)

Now, if you came across somebody who was a health nut, and planned out all their meals based on specific nutritional information, it wouldn’t do you very good to try and sell them your bananas based on how delicious they were.

On the other hand, if you came across somebody who ONLY chose food based on taste, you’d be wasting your breath if you talked about all the vitamins and minerals in a banana.

Talking to girls is the same way. 

Now, I’m not saying to walk up to a girl and start selling her your banana!

However, instead of walking up and spitting some goofy lines WITHOUT first talking to her and seeing what she’s all about, like most guys do, take some time to get to know her.

Find out what’s important to her. Find out what spins her propellers.

The cool thing about this method is that if you’re talking to her about what she likes, what kinds of things turns her on (not like that!), what her dreams are for the future, something pretty cool will happen.

She’ll start to see YOU, through HER OWN filters of desire.

So if you hold off just a little bit, and turn on her own filters of desire BEFORE you start saying anything about you, you’ll have a MASSIVE ADVANTAGE.

Once her desires and filters are fired up, she’ll be much more likely to be attracted to you (and your banana, lol) when you DO get around to talking about yourself and your interests.

Especially when you inevitably find those things you’ve got in common.

The truth is that HOW you talk to her is much more important than WHAT you talk about.

Learn how to talk to her in that special way so she can’t help falling for you.

Develop Long Lasting Recognition

It’s been said that when we don’t care who gets credit, we can get a lot more done.

However, voluntarily giving up public recognition is a hard thing to do. General Napoleon (among others) knew his solders would fight with a lot more intensity if they knew there was a chance of being publicly recognized for their bravery.

If you’ve ever had a good idea, and somebody else got or took credit for it, it certainly stings.

However, there is short term “credit” or “recognition,” and there’s a longer term “energy.”

What’s this mean?

If somebody gets a good idea, and they take credit (deservedly or not) that recognition won’t usually last long. On the flip side of coming up a good idea is the concept of “what have you done for me lately.”

If you spend too much time worrying about getting credit, or recognition, people are going to start to notice.

Instead of thinking of you as the “idea person,” they’ll start to think of you as the “attention seeking person.”

On the other hand, if you’re the person who’s always coming with good ideas, and specifically letting others take the credit, you’ll be developing something MUCH more powerful.

A deep sense of appreciation and magnetism. People will start to think of YOU, in unconscious terms as somebody that’s just good to have around.

They’ll feel much better, much safer, and in much more capable hands when you’re there.

And since this will all be on an unconscious level, it will come across to them as a deep feeling of appreciation and gratitude that they just can’t put there fingers on.

So, how do you BECOME that idea person? Easy. Just base everything you discuss largely on THEIR criteria.

Since we always take actions and make decisions on our own criteria, when you start out by talking about THEIR criteria, without being obvious, you’ll seem like a breath of fresh air. 

Since you’re really using THEIR criteria to base your ideas on, you’ll just need to change up your communication style, just a bit.

Instead of showing up and overwhelming them with your ideas (like almost everybody else does), you’ll be covertly eliciting THEIR ideas, and handing them right back to them.

And they’ll think it’s (and YOU’RE) the greatest thing since sliced bread.

Easy Questions For Natural Attraction

Most guys spend a LOT of time trying to think of “what to say.”

In fact, this is a common excuse for NOT talking to her. 

“I was going to go and talk to her but I just didn’t know what to say.”

“I felt totally confident, but since I didn’t know what to say, I didn’t make a move.”

And other similar nonsense. I say “nonsense” because almost always, the real reason we don’t make a move is NOT the one we tell ourselves.

Sure, rejection is pretty terrifying. But you can not only insulate yourself from rejection, but  you can talk to her in a way that doesn’t require the perfect opener or pickup pattern.

First of all, in order to become rejection proof, you just structure your communication in a way that you can’t get rejected.

If you never ask or suggest anything, she can’t reject you. Sure, if you walk over and ask for the number within the first ten seconds, she can say “no,” in which case you’ve been rejected.

But if take ten minutes instead of ten seconds, you’ll get a LOT better response.

Just start talking to her about things she can’t say “no” to. Meaning don’t ask any yes or no questions about you, or anything you want her to do.

Talk to her about things she’s likely interested in. Fish around for similarities in interest between the two of you.

While doing so, pay close attention to her body language and facial expressions. It will tell you everything you need to know.

So much that if you wait for the right time to “ask” her anything, instead of spitting it out because you can’t wait, she’ll almost always say “yes.”

And not the kind of “yes” that she just says to get rid of you, but the “yes” that means she really, really wants to get to know you.

See, when you talk to her in the right way, and ask her the right questions, she’ll almost always “feel you” no matter who she is.

How To Blast Away Social Fears

Most of our fears are never realized.

Meaning we go through life with all kinds of things we are terrified of what might happen, but they never happen.

I remember once a long time ago, I made this HUGE mistake where I used to work. Based on the results of an experiment I was running (I worked in lab many years ago) the company made some big decisions.

Only I found out, after the money was spent, that I’d made a mistake, and the results were not even close to what I thought they were.

I was TERRIFIED of telling my boss. As soon as I did, he suggested we both talk to HIS boss, which was even scarier.

But something funny happened. I explained what happened, and she just said, “OK, so you’ve got something in place now so this won’t happen again?” To which I said of course. She said, “OK,” and started talking about something else.

I thought I was going to be fired, or worse, but the reality was much more plain.

No matter WHAT you’re afraid of, it won’t likely happen, even if you tried.

I used to play this game in college with my buddies. I would stand at a strategic location at some party, and my friend would whisper the most obscene and corny pick up lines ever, and I’d spit them out at the first girl who walked by.

At first, I was pretty sure I was going to get slapped, or arrested. But most of the time, they just giggled, and kept on walking.

No matter WHAT your fears are, if you take some small, simple steps forward, you’ll likely be very surprised.

Especially if your fears involve interacting with others.

But consider this. EVERYBODY has pretty much the same fears when it comes to interacting with others.

Rejection. Being told we’re idiots, or silly. Embarrassment.

Which is why when YOU make the first move, they’ll almost always open you with open arms.

Doesn’t matter if you’re making friends, looking for new clients, or just enjoying people.

To make things even easier, when you start off talking about THEM instead of throwing your ideas in their face (like most people do) they’ll be even more glad to meet you.