I took this acting class once.
I heard it was a good idea for a lot of reasons.
Kind of like going to Toastmasters.
You build self-confidence, develop communication skills, and meet some pretty interesting people.
We did a lot of goofy exercises. A lot more than I’d anticipated.
One was where we each had this slip of paper with a made up profession.
Not normal ones, but out of the ordinary ones.
Dog catcher, coffee taster, toy tester, etc.
Anyway, we had to walk around pretending we were at a cocktail party.
We had to talk about our jobs, but only without saying anything that would give a clue of we do.
The purpose was to convey meaning without giving any specifics. Kind of how like actors are supposed to convey complex emotions while saying simple sentences.
It was fun, but it was also frustrating.
Like you wanted to say, “I drive around all day and catch people’s pets,” but you weren’t allowed.
It was much more difficult than most people realized.
Unfortunately, a lot of us live our lives like that.
There’s certain things we want to say, we need to say, but we just can’t say them.
We hope somebody “guesses” what we really mean.
What’s worse, when they don’t correctly “guess” what we mean, we get angry.
As if they are supposed to be psychic or something.
Of course, this has a lot to do with the difficult and LONG process of transforming from childhood thinking to adult thinking.
Children are just given what they need.
Adults have to verbalize what they need, often times more than once, and often times to a lot of people.
This can be tough. Especially when your “inner child” is expecting to be handed stuff “just because.”
If life were only as simple as walking up the counter and telling the staff what kind of sandwich you want!
Luckily, it can be.
You can learn to speak more effectively, more confidently, and more assertively.
You don’t need to overcompensate with aggression or overwhelming dominance.
And one of the amazing things you’ll realize is that no matter WHAT you want, when you just casually express it like it’s no big deal, everybody else will think it’s no big deal as well.
This requires you do some digging.
Into your emotions. To find out WHY some things are difficult to express.
This necessarily involves going back into your personal history and viewing things a little differently.
When you view those childhood incidents with your adult mind, it’s a lot easier to leave childhood thinking behind for good.