Once I was walking around downtown. I saw this poster for a movie.
It had an actor who’s been in a lot of other movies I’ve watched and enjoyed.
So without knowing anything about the movie, I bought a ticket.
As I was sitting there in the theater, my big bucket of popcorn on my lap, the lights dimmed.
So excited. One of my favorite actors.
In a movie I knew nothing about.
Now, when I watch a movie, I always buy popcorn. But I don’t start eating until the movie actually starts.
Kind of a “delayed gratification” trick I play on myself.
So as the lights dimmed, I waited for the first scene to start shoveling popcorn in my mouth and…
…they started singing.
Turned out it was a musical. Not my favorite type of movie.
Another time I was in Taiwan. There had just been a movie released called “Red Eye,” some thriller movie that took place aboard a plane.
I saw the title at my local theater. Same story. Bough the popcorn, waited for the lights to dim.
…it was a Korean movie called “Red Eye.” Some sort of horror. No idea what it was about since it was in Korean with Taiwanese subtitles.
This is what happens when we make assumptions.
Most of the time they are true. But when we’re wrong, it can be funny, like in those movies, or you can upset people, or embarrass yourself.
But there ARE some assumptions that most people may disagree with that people will be GLAD to accept.
Within the Covert Hypnosis training course, there’re these things called “Linguistic Presuppositions.”
They are sentence structures that PRESUPPOSE things to be true, in order to make sense of and respond to the sentence.
When we use this naturally, it’s when we’re trying to unconsciously assert something that we really don’t want questioned.
Usually this is some kind of insult, or some form of “I’m right and you’re wrong” type of thing.
Like when you’re arguing with your friend, and you think they’re being dense, because they won’t accept your argument.
You don’t come right out and say, “Since you don’t accept my argument, you are being dense.” Because they could argue with that.
Instead, we tend to say things like, “Why are you being so dense?” Which is a question that PRESUPPOSES the density if your friend.
When you start to use these consciously, you can use them much more effectively. Not to make other people feel bad or stupid, but to make them feel really good.
You can start to “Presuppose” good things about them. Good things about their ideas. Good things about their future.
What effect will this have?
They’ll start to feel really good about themselves. But since you’re covertly hiding these “compliments” in the middle of a complex sentence structure, they won’t really know why.
All they’ll know is that around you, they feel pretty good.
Think you can use this to your benefit?