Myth Busting Relationships
Many guys are moaning all over the place that they don’t exist. Or at least not anymore. And many women feel the same thing about guys.
There’s a couple of things going on here.
One is that it’s very easy, and very simple for people to complain that it’s not like the “good old days.”
This doesn’t take any effort, and it requires no risk or potential failure. It’s just another manifesting of the age old argument that it’s the world’s fault that you can’t get what you want.
This is absolute hogwash. Even if it is true to a degree, this is a horrible mindset to take on. Once you start blaming the world, or your own “unique” situation, or whatever, for your lack, it’s pretty much all over.
Because if it’s somebody else’s fault you can’t get what you want, it’s also somebody else’s responsibility to give you what you want.
Sure, if you’re two years old and still happily crapping your pants, that might be a viable argument.
But as an adult, if you’re waiting for the magic pixie dust fairy to show up and grant your deepest wishes, you’ll be waiting a long, long time.
So idea number one is that if you can’t find what you’re looking for (ideal partner or not) you’re simply not looking hard enough.
Yea, it’s a tough world. Get over it. It’s always been a tough world, it will always be a tough world.
Next idea is the whole “quality woman” (or quality man) myth.
What does this mean? Some guys will say girls that are loyal, that will stand by you, that won’t cheat on you, etc.
But any girl that’s REALLY into you will show these qualities.
Unless she’s got some serious issues, a girl who’s head over heels in love with you is going to be loyal, she’s going to have your back, and she’s not going to cheat on you.
So if you’re meeting girls that don’t seem to fall into this category, guess what?
They simply aren’t feeling you.
Who’s fault is that?
Most likely, it’s nobody’s. No girl is obligated to fall for you. No girl is obligated to feel loyalty to you.
Your job, if you want a loyal girl, is to be the guy she wants to be loyal to.
Don’t sit around moaning about the state of the world.
Improve yourself. Enhance your career. Increase your social skills. Become comfortable being a laid back leader in social situations.
Choose a life for yourself that gets you out of bed every morning.
Turn your life into a mission.
Do this, and you won’t have any problems with girls, or anything else.