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The Ideal Frame Of Mind For Attraction

Warning! Kind Of Gross

Most guys approach girls like they are, in some way, like their moms.

This is deeply subconscious, even old Freud, that “cigar is just a cigar” guy realized this.

Of course, when girls first meet guys, they will almost always seem them through the filter of their father. One of the easiest ways to predict how any relationship will unfold is see how she thinks about her father, her relationship with him, and how he thinks about his mom, and his relationship with her.

All Below The Surface

Obviously, none of this is going on consciously. Few guys or girls will look out into the thumping bar scene and sort for people that remind them of their parents.

However, once you break out of this common way of thinking, you’ll gain a tremendous amount of power and freedom with the type of girls you deal with.

Bible Knowledge

Way back in the Old Testament, it says a guy will leave his family and stick to his wife.

Meaning he’ll grow up within the family unit, fully dependent on Mom and Dad, and as soon as he’s old enough, he hooks up with his wife. His wife, of course, does the same thing.

Which means in a very real sense, husbands and wives become replacements for moms and dads.

If you look out into the world today, you’ll see plenty of evidence of this.

Not Like Kids!

Unfortunately, it’s usually the guys doing the child like behavior.

Meaning it’s very common for guys to treat their wives or girlfriends like their moms.

They feel the need to ask for permission, get approval and are always worried about making her happy.

Believe it or not, girls HATE this.

They Want Leaders Not Beggars

Girls would very much like guys to be independent thinkers. They want, on a deep level, a guy who will LEAD, so they can follow. No girl dreams about meeting prince charming so she can lecture him about staying up past his bedtime.

No girls dreams about some easily butt-hurt little boy who’s going to be always asking for her permission.

So, how do you create this personality, rather than the little boy personality?

Next time your out and about, FORCE yourself to think of your IDEAL LIFE, that is not dependent on ANY PARTICULAR GIRL. When you are imagining your ideal life, see your girl in a SUPPORTING ROLE.

Find Your Leading Lady

Imagine your life as a movie. You are the star. She is NOT the co-star. She is a supporting actress.

When you look out across the sea of femininity, look for an appropriate supporting actress. Not a co-star, not a surrogate mother.

Look at the girls in your life that you are dating, or thinking about dating, and ask yourself:

“Which of these girls can best help me get what I want?”

And then choose accordingly.

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How Long Have You Been Traveling For?

Are We There Yet?

If you’ve ever gone on a long road trip, you know the question, “Are we there yet?” always pops up.

Depending on where you’re gong, the trip there can either be fun, horrible, or just plain boring.

When my buddies and I used to drive to Vegas, the trip there (3-4 hours by car) was always the best part. The trip home, on the other hand, was usually different.

It’s easy to get into the thinking trap of needing just “one more thing,” no matter what you’re doing.

Just One More Thing

If you’ve decided to lose weight before you get back into the dating market, you may keep telling yourself, “just one more pound, and THEN I’ll get out there.”

If you want a raise from your boss, you may be waiting “just one more day, and THEN I’ll ask him.”

If you feel like something’s missing from your life, you may convince yourself that buying one more “thing” is all you need. This could be a new car, a new pair of shoes, or even a new home.

Am I Getting Close?

We always seem to have this nagging feeling in the back of our minds that we’re “not quite there yet.”

No matter where we’re going, or what we’re trying to accomplish, there always seems to be something that while just out of reach, once we get that “something” everything will magically “click” into place and our lives will suddenly start to be easy, happy, and rewarding.

But consider this.

You’ll ALWAYS Be Almost There

That “almost there” feeling is a CONSTANT part of who we are, REGARDLESS of what we get, or how much we have or don’t have.

An interesting study was done on a whole range of people, of all income levels. No matter HOW MUCH money they were making (10K a year or 10 Mil a year) they ALL felt that if they “JUST” made 10% more, everything would be fine.

Sound familiar?

Does that mean we are cursed? Does that mean we are doomed to keep chasing things that keep running away from us, and are always staying out of reach.

Not at all.

Because that “thing” we are chasing isn’t always the same “thing.” Since we always have that “feeling” of just needing that one more “thing,” as soon as we get whatever we’re after, our brains will MAKE US focus on the NEXT thing.

This means that we will ALWAYS be just shy of being totally satisfied. Which is a GOOD thing. Because that feeling of satisfaction is very fleeting. It doesn’t last long. Without something to pursue, life is boring, pointless, and without meaning.

Embrace The Incompleteness

On the other hand, when you FULLY EMBRACE this part of you, the part that will ALWAYS want something more, you’ll always be getting better.

More money, more health, better relationships, and a smarter brain.

Embrace your humanness. Embrace your purpose.

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She Loves The Mysterious You

Right Action Creates Wonderful Attraction

The same skills you need to take action are the same traits that will make you attractive.

There’s this theory in quantum physics thought up by a guy named Schroedinger.

He says that all matter-energy states exist in a state of “limbo” and they only solidify when they are observed.

That Cat

The famous example is “Schroedinger’s Cat.” There’s a box, and there’s a cat inside. Is the cat alive, or dead? If the box is closed, it’s both alive AND dead. In that state of quantum limbo. Only when you open the box will you see if it’s alive or dead.

Creating attraction, if you’re a guy, works the same way. Girls are different. Guys feel attraction for girls based largely their looks. This isn’t PC, this is just the way it is.

Girls feel attraction for guys based on their behavior. Not PC, just the way it is.

So when you’re looking at her across the room, you already know she’s hot.

But she’s looking at you, and she’s not sure. Despite what all the gurus tell you about wearing all kinds of bling and colorful peacocked shirts, that will only give you a slight advantage.

Your Actions Tell Her Everything

As soon as you make a move, that advantage (if it was one) will quickly vanish, overshadowed by your behavior.

But here’s the thing.

The mindset that makes it easy to approach, is the SAME mindset that makes you ultra attractive.

The on that says, “Hey, she’s pretty cute, I wonder what her personality is like?”

Don’t Beg For Attention

Not the on that says, “Wow, she’s a Goddess! I hope she accepts me!”

The good news is that just like Schroedinger’s cat, nobody knows until you make a move. When she’s checking you it across the room, she really can’t know anything about you unless she sees you in action.

The first step is to walk across the room with confidence. This is easy when you haven’t pedestalized her. Just see her as a cute girl with an unknown personality. Maybe really sweet, maybe a nutjob lunatic.

Dig For Her Treasure

The second step is to talk to her with a playful and interesting way. Don’t worry by impressing her with your stats. Ask the right questions, and gently guide her to through the right emotions.

Do that and you’ll get any girl you want.

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Are You Terrified Of Success?

Fear Of Failure Isn’t What’s Holding You Back

There’s two killers of any creative thought or productive action.

One is magical thinking. This is we somehow believe that we can get any kind of result or outcome without putting in any kind of effort or taking any kind of risk.

This is popular among folks who practice any kind of “Law of Attraction” type manifesting. If you sit in your room meditating, and wonder why stacks of money never magically show up, consider this.

Other People Are Key

Everything in the world comes from other people. Even raw materials like fruits and vegetables need to be grown, harvest and delivered. So when anybody is practicing any kind of “manifesting” what they’re really doing is HOPING that somebody, somewhere will somehow decide, spontaneously, to show up and just give them stuff without ever asking for anything in return.

Just imagine if EVERYBODY did that! We’d be back to the stone age!

On the flip side of the coin of magical thinking is “skeptical thinking.” These are the people who are so terrified of taking action and making a potential mistake that they need absolute and irrefutable PROOF before moving an INCH outside their comfort zone.

But EVERYTHING in the world that was created, was done so by taking UNCERTAIN action.

Proof Will Never Come

If you’re expecting to told EXACTLY what to do, and have a near certainty of a guaranteed result, you’d better look forward to working on an assembly line the rest of your life.

Now, I know that self-proclaimed “skeptics” like to stroke their chins and pretend they are really intelligent, and they see things nobody else sees, but they’re just scared.

Scared to try something and see what happens. Scared to look “foolish” in front of their friends.

Uncertainty Is Necessary

The secret to ANY creation, whether you’re making a cheese sandwich or building vast empire, is you’ve GOT to have a mix of action and openness.

Action because nothing’s going to happen otherwise.

Uncertainty because unless you’ve got some kind of crystal ball which can predict the future, nobody knows what’s going to happen an hour from now.

It’s easy to stay safely on both sides. It’s easy to believe in magic, and it’s easy to demand proof.

But there’s no fun in that! Only safety surrounded by pretend enlightenment.

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The Trading Frame Of Seduction

How To You Approach Approaching?

The frame of mind you’ve got when you approach a girl is crucial.

Humans, especially females, are REALLY good at sniffing out your frame, even if it’s totally unconscious.

Meaning if you are worried about rejection, or nervous, or full of judgment or anger, she’s going to know, on some level.

She Can See Through The BS

You may have some pretty tight “surface structure” game, but if underneath you are just barely holding it together, you won’t seem very congruent.

Which means she’ll sense that something about you is “off.”

Now, this won’t make her run away screaming, and you may very well succeed, but she’s going to be a bit hesitant to “seal the deal,” since she can’t be congruent in her attraction for you unless you are congruent in your belief about you.

What’s the best frame to have?

I Like Myself

One of appreciation. Appreciation for yourself, and appreciation for her.

On a deep level, male-female interaction, including emotional and sexual interaction is the same structure as old school bartering.

Back in the old days, the guy who grew corn would have to walk around until he could trade what he had (the corn) for something he wanted (like eggs, for example).

Everybody’s GOT To Benefit

When he did, both people were happy. The guy who had eggs wanted corn more than the eggs. The guy who had the corn wanted the eggs more than the corn. They were happy to meet, happy to talk about what they had, and happy to make the exchange.

When you approach a girl with the same attitude, it works the same way. You like yourself, you’d like to exchange some of you for some of her.

I don’t mean this in a sexual or physical way, but more of an “energy” way. When you attention part of your intention, attention, and energy, and focus it on HER, she’ll reciprocate, and focus her attention, intention, and energy on YOU.

And if you both like what each other’s got, you’ll make the trade.

Metaphysical Love Barter

But the thing about male female exchange, in this way, is that unlike trading corn for eggs, where you go home after the deal, when you trade “energy” for “energy,” it just makes you want to trade more.

Because this is the stuff of all human interaction. You appreciate you, you appreciate her. You’d like to exchange some of your energy for hers, knowing it will make you BOTH feel better.

When you see the world through this frame, every interaction, conversation, and exchange, (even if it’s an old fashion sales call) becomes incredibly easy, invigorating, and very profitable, both from an emotional, sexual, AND financial standpoint.

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How To Teach an Old Dog New Tricks

Wisdom From Childhood

I had this girlfriend in high school whose favorite expressions was, “Learn something new every day!”

She used it as kind of a goofy, half true, half joking statement.

Like when we’d get lost, and then find out way, or find some different hole in the wall club to visit downtown.

All Sayings Hold Truth

The thing about “sayings” like that is they resonate with us on many levels, or else so many of us wouldn’t use them so often.

Learning is one of those things that when it happens subconsciously, we don’t pay it any attention, and just go on our merry way.

Only when we fit the beautiful and complicated process through our limited conscious minds do we run into trouble.

Learning Machine

The truth is that all of us do, in fact, “learn something new every day.”

But most of the time, it’s just our natural process of subconsciously picking up and using new information, ideas, technology, without even realizing it.

They say that kids learn quickly, but adults learn slowly. Another statement, “you can’t teach an old dog new tricks,” is often used to justify this.

Now, it CAN be harder to learn as an adult, but is that because our brains are somehow different, or we’ve somehow “lost’ our learning ability, or has something else changed?

Alternative View

Consider this. When we were kids, are ONLY responsibility was to learn.

Even before schools were invented, it’s always been this way. Humans are unique in that we spend a LOT more time as kids than other mammals. Other animals go from childhood to adulthood relatively quickly, as a percentage of their lifespan.

Humans, on the other hand, spend a HUGE chunk of our lives as kids.

And as kids, our MAIN goal is to learn. Not to work, not to take care of our families, not to do anything except follow adults around and learn.

Now, imagine if you could do that as an adult. Imagine everything else was taken care of. Rent, food, even cooking. All you had to do was follow people around and learn as much as you could.

Think you could learn pretty quickly? I’m pretty sure you could.

Learn How To Learn

But here’s the thing. As an adult, you don’t need to learn the old way. There are plenty of quicker, easier and more effective ways of learning. Which means you CAN learn as quickly as a child, without making it a full time job.

Allowing YOU to get pretty much anything you want.

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How To Talk Your Way To Attraction

Words Are All You Need

The secret of attraction is keeping her interested, and slightly unsure.

If she’s not interested, she’s just being polite until you leave her alone.

If she’s not unsure, meaning if she knows what you’re all about, there’s no mystery, and she can pretty much predict what you’re going to say next, then she may be interested, but most likely you’ll end up in the friend zone.

Do Both At Once

Luckily, there’s a great way to kill two birds with one stone. Keeping her interested AND on the edge of her seat.

That way, she will be paying full attention to what you’re saying, and she won’t want you to leave.

How do you do this?

Step By Step

First, think of some stories of things that happened to you. Real things. The content, or topic of the stories isn’t important. What IS important is the underlying emotions of the story. Choose three or four, and choose ones that have different emotional “themes.”

Excitement, surprise, discovery, sadness, etc.

When you tell them, make sure YOU are animated. Use wide ranging facial expressions, gestures, etc.

Again, it does not matter what the content of the story is. If you FEEL the emotions and EXPRESS the emotions while you’re telling the story, so will she.

Keep Her Guessing

The second piece is to always change stories, before you finish the one you’re talking about. DON’T tell stories in a linear fashion. Start a story, build up some tension, and then switch to another story like nothing happened.

This will spin her mind in all kinds of directions. She will be filled with swirling emotions, and since you’ll leave her hanging with each and every transition, she won’t be able to get her mind off you.

The great thing is this same technique works in person, on the phone, and even in texts.

Texting Secrets

In texts, you’ve got to make the “stories” much, much shorter, but the technique is the same. Half finished, emotionally charged ideas to leave her hanging and wondering.

And ANYTIME a girl is wondering about YOU when you’re not around, that spells MASSIVE ATTRACTION in her mind.

There’s a whole collection of language and covert hypnosis techniques you can use to send her desire for YOU through the roof.

Doesn’t matter who you are, what your experience, or how much money you’ve got.

Even if you don’t have a job, with these techniques, you can easily talk you way into almost any girls pants.

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What Is Your Most Precious Asset?

Did You Get Lucky?

I had a pretty good job after I graduated from college, many, many moons ago.

But then my job was being moved halfway across the world, and I wasn’t invited.

But because of some deal, I was given $10K to “learn” another career. Something to do with NAFTA.

I was both pleased and terrified. Pleased because I thought it was pretty cool I could study something and have the government pay for it. But pretty terrified because I hadn’t really “learned” anything in a long time.

I was pretty much doing the same stuff over and over again at work, even if it was for a high tech R and D lab.

So before I dove in to my new field, I decided I wanted to learn how learn. And I found some pretty cool stuff.

Learn How To Learn

Stuff like being able to learn the basics of new language in just a few months.

Stuff like how to re-wire your brain so you can see things in a different, much more resourceful way.

Stuff like how you can actually INCREASE your intelligence slowly, and permanently over time. All this time I’d thought it was set in stone.

There Is No Limit

Flash forward a few years, and I’d developed a MASSIVE appetite for new information. Instead of wasting time in front of the TV I found myself reading all kinds of non-fiction books, at least 2-3 a month, on all kinds of subjects that either terrified or bored me in school.

Self Generated Is Best

And the more I learned, the more I wanted to learn. The perspective I have now is a billion times different that when I was “forced” to change my way of thinking.

The truth about your brain is incredible. Most people don’t even come close to scratching the surface of what they are capable of.

You’ve Got Money Hidden In Your Brain

And in today’s economic climate, your brain, and how well you use it, WILL be your most precious asset in the years to come.

If you get started how, you’ll be able to handle ANYTHING the world throws your way.

And end up better off in the process.

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Your Emotional Power For Consistent Attraction Generation

Moving Emotions Are The Fastest Way To Attraction

Moving Emotions Is Essential

No matter HOW you create attraction, being able to create emotions is absolutely necessary.

They can either be HER emotions, YOUR emotions (that she’ll naturally mirror) or the emotions of your location (which you’ll both naturally mirror), but emotions are absolutely necessary.

Now, emotions get a bad rap, especially among guys who are trying really hard to appear “alpha.”

Don’t Be James Bond

After all, the stereotypical “alpha” in the movies is the cold hearted tough guy who never shows any emotions, never lets his guard down, and never allows himself to get close.

It’s crucial to understand that all these “movie alpha’s” are characters dreamed up by writers. And if you’ve met a guy who writes for a living, these guys don’t have that much experience with picking up girls.

All THEY know is what they in the movies, or read in books. It’s more of a marketing thing than anything else.

Avoid Hollywood Alpha Stereotypes

Most guys aren’t alpha, so most guys are drawn to the tough, “beat ’em up” type guy in the movie, since it’s easy to imagine themselves in their place.

Imagine killing a whole army of enemies with a pocket knife is somehow easier to imagine being emotionally present which is absolutely necessary if you want to create REAL attraction.

Sure, you’ve got to be strong, have a dominant frame, but you still need to be a human, and be able to tell stories that make her laugh and get those funny feelings in her tummy.

Touchy Feely

The simplest way to do that is simply embrace your own emotions. Now, this may sound pretty lame, as the term “emo” is a derogatory term for guys who are too “in touch” with their emotions.

But in reality, guys that are stereotypically “emo” are only in touch with SOME of their emotions. Usually neediness, victimhood, and other “dark” emotions.

But when you fully embrace ALL your emotions, including FANTASTIC emotions like happiness, excitement, adventure, curiosity, leadership, connection (not just with her but with all people) then you will become INCREDIBLY attractive.

Storytelling With Emotions

Just learn to tell stories and talk about things that move through all these emotions, and she’ll willingly go along for the BEST ride of her life.

To make it even MORE powerful, learn to embed your emotional stories and conversations with powerfully persuasive language patterns, which will make you more charismatic and magnetic than EVER.

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The Magic Of Feedback For Consistent Improvement

Embrace All Results

One of the most important things for success is feedback.

Only as we become adults, feedback turns into something we call “success” or “failure.”

Learning anything, based on how we are hard wired to learn, absolutely requires feedback.

For some things, this still makes sense, only we don’t really call it “feedback.” We’re more likely to call it something like “try, try and you don’t succeed, try, try again.”

Learning Is A Process

For example, let’s say you’re learning a new song on the piano. You can read music, and you can play other songs, but now you’ve got a new one that’s a little bit more “difficult” than the rest.

You try it the first time, and it sounds a little “off.” Did you succeed? Did you fail? Or do you recognize this as a required step on the path to ultimate mastery?

It’s easy to imagine that you are “learning” a new song, and as such, you don’t expect to be “perfect” the first time.

The feedback is the sounds coming from the piano. Based on the feedback, you adjust your actions, and keep moving forward.

Cut Off Feedback At Your Peril

Imagine trying to play that new song if you had headphones, and were listening to loud heavy metal or something. No feedback. You’d have NO idea if you were getting closer or not, and it would likely take you a lot longer to reach your goal.

Sadly, for many of us, we do the same thing. We purposely AVOID feedback, afraid to see anything short of success.

In many areas, we act as if we’ve ONLY got one chance, and if we “fail” we are doomed to live a life of poverty, lack and loneliness.

Embrace ALL Feedback

Luckily, life is NOT like that, even if we imagine it is.

No matter WHAT we try, the more you OPEN yourself to feedback, the more you ACCEPT and embrace feedback, the more quickly you’ll learn, and the more of the good stuff you’ll eventually get.

No matter WHAT that is for you.

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