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How To Become A Verbal Ninja

Mad Word Power

There’s a lot of guys selling a lot of products regarding seduction.

In a way, that is absolutely fantastic. That means there’s a big market for seduction products. That means plenty of guys are making decisions, every single day, to finally take action to get what they want.

To learn skills, overcome anxieties, and build relationships with the women of their dreams.

However, there’s a lot of mythology and misdirection in this particular marketplace.

Eager Customers or Eager Marks?

Any time you’ve got something as desirable as sex or relationships with hot girls, you’re going to have a lot of snake oil.

Let’s back up a bit and talk marketing. Somebody makes a product, and then they try and sell the product.

If the product is to fulfill an existing demand, it’s pretty easy. Like opening up the only hamburger shop in a town with three high schools. Or opening up a surfboard shop in a city by the sea, that’s got awesome waves.

But sometimes, people make products that are brand new. Which means people have never seen them before. Which means the product maker has got to CREATE demand.

Generate Demand

This is a lot more difficult. First you need to convince somebody they need the product, then you’ve got to convince them they should buy it. Not an easy task.

Obviously, seduction products fall into the first category. Men are always horny. A friend of mine told me recently he met a girl, went back to her place, had sex several times, and then the next morning he went out to pick up breakfast. On the way he saw a couple of cuties, and started feeling deep feeling of sexual desire.

Unlimited Demand

Because that deep feeling of sexual desire is ALWAYS there, it’s an easy thing to sell.

Most guys would LOVE the ability to walk up to any girl, anywhere, any time, spit out a bunch of memorized words, and have her beg him for sex.

Which is why products like this sell like hot cakes.

But is it really possible? Can ONE memorized set of patterns really turn a girl on, no matter WHO she is?

Kind of, but not in the way some of these marketers promise.

Play Chess

It’s best to think in terms of “moves” rather than patterns. If a boxer memorizes fifty moves, for example, and can use them in any order, he can come up with literally an ENDLESS amount of patterns on the spot.

Compared to a guy who’s got three or four patterns memorized, and once those are done, he’s done.

So, which is better, memorizing TEN long patterns, or 20 or 30 small “linguistic moves” that you can use in any order, with any girl?

Meaning you can use these same “moves” combined with her unique personality, and fire up her emotions and attraction for you to levels more powerful than most guys ever imagine.

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Show Her Your Magic Box

Different Perspectives

Here’s a nice mind flip for you.

You ever do jigsaw puzzles? For every squiggly piece, there’s some squiggly piece somewhere that’s a perfect fit.

Guys approach girls like they are pieces of a jigsaw puzzle. Meaning there’s a certain thing to say, in a certain order, that will unlock her heart and her panties.

If you say the wrong thing, she’ll send you packing. If you say the right thing, you’re in between the sheets faster than a starving bunny on a carrot.

Now, let’s take a step back and see what this means.

In order for this to be true, she’s got to have an idea of what she wants you to say. She’s also got to have an idea of what she doesn’t want to say.

Is this even possible?

No Conscious Mind Required

We all know that attraction isn’t a choice. We all know it happens unconsciously. Nobody can CHOOSE to be attracted to somebody, anymore that you can CHOOSE to be hungry, or thirsty or tired or scared. When it happens, it happens. You can only go along for the ride. As the Borg like to say:

Resistance is Futile

Now, back to that girl. Is it even possible that ANY line would work? Maybe.

But think about this metaphor. Instead of talking about physical attraction, let’s talk about hunger instead.

You Love Broccoli!

Same process. If you’re hungry, you want to eat. Some things you want to eat more than others. Some things you LOVE to eat, some things you won’t eat even if you’re starving.

A girl in a club is hungry for affection. She wants to meet a guy. All girls who aren’t in a happy relationship are starving.

The problem is she doesn’t know what she wants.

If she LOVES chicken, and you show up with a plate of cheese fries, you’re out of luck.

If she’s a vegan, and you show up with a steak, you’re out of luck.

Don’t Rely On Specifics

This is the trap most guys fall into. They think there is ONE set of lines, or patterns, or techniques that will work on ALL girls.

This is just as useless as thinking that ALL hungry people want to eat the same thing.

But consider this.

The Magic Box Theory

Supposing you had a magic box. A magic box that could create ANY kind of food.

You’d walk up, find out what she wants, and whip it up with your magic box, and everybody’s happy.

Seduction is the same way. Just walk up, figure out what spins her wheels, and give it to her.

Because the magic box is your mind. And your language skills. And your ability to tell stories and move her emotions around.

Instead of throwing a bunch of memorized junk at her, talk to her. Get to know her. Give her what she really wants. And she’ll give YOU what YOU really want.

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The Ideal Frame Of Mind For Attraction

Warning! Kind Of Gross

Most guys approach girls like they are, in some way, like their moms.

This is deeply subconscious, even old Freud, that “cigar is just a cigar” guy realized this.

Of course, when girls first meet guys, they will almost always seem them through the filter of their father. One of the easiest ways to predict how any relationship will unfold is see how she thinks about her father, her relationship with him, and how he thinks about his mom, and his relationship with her.

All Below The Surface

Obviously, none of this is going on consciously. Few guys or girls will look out into the thumping bar scene and sort for people that remind them of their parents.

However, once you break out of this common way of thinking, you’ll gain a tremendous amount of power and freedom with the type of girls you deal with.

Bible Knowledge

Way back in the Old Testament, it says a guy will leave his family and stick to his wife.

Meaning he’ll grow up within the family unit, fully dependent on Mom and Dad, and as soon as he’s old enough, he hooks up with his wife. His wife, of course, does the same thing.

Which means in a very real sense, husbands and wives become replacements for moms and dads.

If you look out into the world today, you’ll see plenty of evidence of this.

Not Like Kids!

Unfortunately, it’s usually the guys doing the child like behavior.

Meaning it’s very common for guys to treat their wives or girlfriends like their moms.

They feel the need to ask for permission, get approval and are always worried about making her happy.

Believe it or not, girls HATE this.

They Want Leaders Not Beggars

Girls would very much like guys to be independent thinkers. They want, on a deep level, a guy who will LEAD, so they can follow. No girl dreams about meeting prince charming so she can lecture him about staying up past his bedtime.

No girls dreams about some easily butt-hurt little boy who’s going to be always asking for her permission.

So, how do you create this personality, rather than the little boy personality?

Next time your out and about, FORCE yourself to think of your IDEAL LIFE, that is not dependent on ANY PARTICULAR GIRL. When you are imagining your ideal life, see your girl in a SUPPORTING ROLE.

Find Your Leading Lady

Imagine your life as a movie. You are the star. She is NOT the co-star. She is a supporting actress.

When you look out across the sea of femininity, look for an appropriate supporting actress. Not a co-star, not a surrogate mother.

Look at the girls in your life that you are dating, or thinking about dating, and ask yourself:

“Which of these girls can best help me get what I want?”

And then choose accordingly.

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She Loves The Mysterious You

Right Action Creates Wonderful Attraction

The same skills you need to take action are the same traits that will make you attractive.

There’s this theory in quantum physics thought up by a guy named Schroedinger.

He says that all matter-energy states exist in a state of “limbo” and they only solidify when they are observed.

That Cat

The famous example is “Schroedinger’s Cat.” There’s a box, and there’s a cat inside. Is the cat alive, or dead? If the box is closed, it’s both alive AND dead. In that state of quantum limbo. Only when you open the box will you see if it’s alive or dead.

Creating attraction, if you’re a guy, works the same way. Girls are different. Guys feel attraction for girls based largely their looks. This isn’t PC, this is just the way it is.

Girls feel attraction for guys based on their behavior. Not PC, just the way it is.

So when you’re looking at her across the room, you already know she’s hot.

But she’s looking at you, and she’s not sure. Despite what all the gurus tell you about wearing all kinds of bling and colorful peacocked shirts, that will only give you a slight advantage.

Your Actions Tell Her Everything

As soon as you make a move, that advantage (if it was one) will quickly vanish, overshadowed by your behavior.

But here’s the thing.

The mindset that makes it easy to approach, is the SAME mindset that makes you ultra attractive.

The on that says, “Hey, she’s pretty cute, I wonder what her personality is like?”

Don’t Beg For Attention

Not the on that says, “Wow, she’s a Goddess! I hope she accepts me!”

The good news is that just like Schroedinger’s cat, nobody knows until you make a move. When she’s checking you it across the room, she really can’t know anything about you unless she sees you in action.

The first step is to walk across the room with confidence. This is easy when you haven’t pedestalized her. Just see her as a cute girl with an unknown personality. Maybe really sweet, maybe a nutjob lunatic.

Dig For Her Treasure

The second step is to talk to her with a playful and interesting way. Don’t worry by impressing her with your stats. Ask the right questions, and gently guide her to through the right emotions.

Do that and you’ll get any girl you want.

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The Trading Frame Of Seduction

How To You Approach Approaching?

The frame of mind you’ve got when you approach a girl is crucial.

Humans, especially females, are REALLY good at sniffing out your frame, even if it’s totally unconscious.

Meaning if you are worried about rejection, or nervous, or full of judgment or anger, she’s going to know, on some level.

She Can See Through The BS

You may have some pretty tight “surface structure” game, but if underneath you are just barely holding it together, you won’t seem very congruent.

Which means she’ll sense that something about you is “off.”

Now, this won’t make her run away screaming, and you may very well succeed, but she’s going to be a bit hesitant to “seal the deal,” since she can’t be congruent in her attraction for you unless you are congruent in your belief about you.

What’s the best frame to have?

I Like Myself

One of appreciation. Appreciation for yourself, and appreciation for her.

On a deep level, male-female interaction, including emotional and sexual interaction is the same structure as old school bartering.

Back in the old days, the guy who grew corn would have to walk around until he could trade what he had (the corn) for something he wanted (like eggs, for example).

Everybody’s GOT To Benefit

When he did, both people were happy. The guy who had eggs wanted corn more than the eggs. The guy who had the corn wanted the eggs more than the corn. They were happy to meet, happy to talk about what they had, and happy to make the exchange.

When you approach a girl with the same attitude, it works the same way. You like yourself, you’d like to exchange some of you for some of her.

I don’t mean this in a sexual or physical way, but more of an “energy” way. When you attention part of your intention, attention, and energy, and focus it on HER, she’ll reciprocate, and focus her attention, intention, and energy on YOU.

And if you both like what each other’s got, you’ll make the trade.

Metaphysical Love Barter

But the thing about male female exchange, in this way, is that unlike trading corn for eggs, where you go home after the deal, when you trade “energy” for “energy,” it just makes you want to trade more.

Because this is the stuff of all human interaction. You appreciate you, you appreciate her. You’d like to exchange some of your energy for hers, knowing it will make you BOTH feel better.

When you see the world through this frame, every interaction, conversation, and exchange, (even if it’s an old fashion sales call) becomes incredibly easy, invigorating, and very profitable, both from an emotional, sexual, AND financial standpoint.

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How To Talk Your Way To Attraction

Words Are All You Need

The secret of attraction is keeping her interested, and slightly unsure.

If she’s not interested, she’s just being polite until you leave her alone.

If she’s not unsure, meaning if she knows what you’re all about, there’s no mystery, and she can pretty much predict what you’re going to say next, then she may be interested, but most likely you’ll end up in the friend zone.

Do Both At Once

Luckily, there’s a great way to kill two birds with one stone. Keeping her interested AND on the edge of her seat.

That way, she will be paying full attention to what you’re saying, and she won’t want you to leave.

How do you do this?

Step By Step

First, think of some stories of things that happened to you. Real things. The content, or topic of the stories isn’t important. What IS important is the underlying emotions of the story. Choose three or four, and choose ones that have different emotional “themes.”

Excitement, surprise, discovery, sadness, etc.

When you tell them, make sure YOU are animated. Use wide ranging facial expressions, gestures, etc.

Again, it does not matter what the content of the story is. If you FEEL the emotions and EXPRESS the emotions while you’re telling the story, so will she.

Keep Her Guessing

The second piece is to always change stories, before you finish the one you’re talking about. DON’T tell stories in a linear fashion. Start a story, build up some tension, and then switch to another story like nothing happened.

This will spin her mind in all kinds of directions. She will be filled with swirling emotions, and since you’ll leave her hanging with each and every transition, she won’t be able to get her mind off you.

The great thing is this same technique works in person, on the phone, and even in texts.

Texting Secrets

In texts, you’ve got to make the “stories” much, much shorter, but the technique is the same. Half finished, emotionally charged ideas to leave her hanging and wondering.

And ANYTIME a girl is wondering about YOU when you’re not around, that spells MASSIVE ATTRACTION in her mind.

There’s a whole collection of language and covert hypnosis techniques you can use to send her desire for YOU through the roof.

Doesn’t matter who you are, what your experience, or how much money you’ve got.

Even if you don’t have a job, with these techniques, you can easily talk you way into almost any girls pants.

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How To Easily Leverage Social Proof For Massive Attraction

Want To Make It Easier To Approach?

Here’s one frame that can help approaching seem a lot easier.

One way to increase your attractiveness when talking to girls is to covertly refer to previous success with girls.

On the one hand, no girl really likes a hard core, pump-n-dump, “player,” but no girl really likes a guy who has ZERO experience.

For one thing, if a guy has ZERO experience, and he’s older than 13, there’s usually a reason. Kind of like people are kind of leery of going into a restaurant at dinner time when there are NO other customers.

We need a certain degree of social proof before we do anything.

So, how do you leverage whatever social proof you’ve got?

Use The Past

One way is to refer to previous conversations you’ve had with other girls.

But make sure do so in kind of a vague way, so she’ll have to fill in the blanks.

For example, if you say something like this:

“That’s funny. That reminds me of this girl I tried to pick up yesterday but totally shut me down, and before she shut me down she said she like spaghetti too!”

Obviously, this won’t work so well. But you can use this SAME conversation (the one where you got shut down) like this:

“That’s funny, Stacey said she likes spaghetti, too! What’s your favorite kind of sauce?”

See the difference?

Leave Them Guessing

The first example, everything’s laid out, and she knows EXACTLY what went down.

However, in the second example, she will have to imagine you and “Stacey” and she’ll usually imagine something a lot better than what really happened.

If she asks, “Who’s Stacey?”

Just say something equally vague:

“Oh, just this girl I know.”

Vague Truth Is The Best

Which is absolutely true, and she’ll be imagining all kinds of stuff between you and “Stacey,” giving you all kinds of social proof.

So next time you’re out and about, and you see some girl, no matter WHAT happens, so long as you get her name, you can use her to boost your social proof.

If you get more than her name, then that’s a bonus!

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How To Out Alpha The Whole Room

Want Her Attention?

Girls love a guy who’s alpha.

We all know that.

Guys are the same way, only we often misunderstand this.

When guys think of an “alpha” girl, we usually think of a girl who’s trying to be like a guy.

But that’s not the kind of “alpha” we go for.

When it comes to girls, and which girls we are attracted to, we tend to go for the cutest, prettiest, most feminine, the looks and behavior that make up the stereotypical “gorgeous girl.”

Basically, the hottest girl in the room, based on the evidence we can collect safely from our location.

Location Specific

But here’s the thing. It’s all relative to the location.

Meaning if you are in a situation, where most of the girls are not OBJECTIVELY hot, meaning they don’t look like porn stars or centerfolds, it doesn’t take long to start seeing the hottest girl, comparatively speaking, as hotter and hotter.

The same goes for guys. Girls all have some kind of “Objective” standard, like super rich, super powerful, and super friendly.

But they know subconsciously that most guys aren’t like that.

Finding The Local Maximum

So they also subconsciously start to find the “hottest” guy in the room, based on girl standards.

Meaning if you are in any particular location, you just to be the most alpha guy in the room, not the most alpha guy on Earth.

And if you’ve ever taken the time to look around, this usually isn’t too difficult.

Especially if you’ve taken the time to learn some simple conversation techniques, and you’ve got a bit of social intelligence.

Who’s Best At Reading The Signs

It usually boils down to who can spot the girls who are interested in them more than anything else.

Having just a little bit more social intelligence than all the other guys in the room will go a long, long way in getting you EXACTLY what you want.

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Discover Your Natural Game For Easy Attraction

Have Some Fun

Do you enjoy girls?

I know, silly question. But is it?

Most guys don’t really enjoy girls. Or they do, but only in certain situations. Like their bedrooms.

They look out into the sea of feminine beauty and see nothing but obstacles and barriers to their success.

You Mad Bro?

Some guys look at girls and actually get angry, as they imagine all their “failures” from the past, and project that into the future.

They’ve already “rejected” themselves before they even approach.

On the other hand, there are naturals. Are they naturals because of their success rate? Or is it something deeper.

Consider this.

When a natural looks out into the sea of girls, he sees massive potential for massive pleasure.

But this pleasure doesn’t just come in the bedroom.

Happiness On Every Level

This pleasure comes from flirting with them, talking to them, touching them, and sometimes even seducing them.

I’m sure you’ve heard of the concept, “detach from outcome,” right?

Some guys, (a lot of guys) misinterpret this. They see this as some kind of self-deceptive con to help them get to the prize, which is up in between her legs.

They see that as the ONLY desired outcome, and the “detach from outcome” is only a mind trick to keep them from getting nervous.

This is absolutely the wrong way to look at it.

What’s a better way?

Relax And Enjoy Yourself

Actually detach from outcome. Not as a mind trick, but as a way of life (at least when talking to girls).

The easiest way to “detach” from outcome is to simply not have an outcome.

Just see girls as a group of people, or an individual, to simply be enjoyed, no matter WHAT happens.

Here’s another one I’m sure you’ve heard: “The road is better than the inn.”

Which of course means that traveling to a destination is usually better than the destination, either metaphorically or real.

So forget about trying to get laid. Forget about getting her phone number. Forget about even getting her name.

All that WILL happen naturally, when you approach the situation naturally.

Just enjoy her. Let nature take it’s course.

One thing that will REALLY help is the mindset of a natural learner. Not only with girls, but with life.

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How To Generate Irresistible Passion In Her

Power Of Language

Girls love a guy who can talk a good game.

Not seductively, or using any kind of secret language patterns designed to get her out of her panties, but somebody who can speak in a certain way.

What way?

There’s two crucial elements. One is that you speak with passion. Now, that sounds like of vague, so let me explain. What it means is simply to really care about what you’re passionate about. (Just never actually use the word “passion,” or “passionate,” OK?)

Like What You’re Talking About

If she sees that you are into what you’re talking about, she’ll be into it to. This means don’t be shy about letting your emotions show through your language.

Stress certain syllables, stretch out certain vowels, and use a lot of clear facial expressions.

(Hint: Don’t talk like a robot).

The second thing is to describe things in vivid detail. Colors, shapes, smells, use as many sense words as you can.

Structure vs. Content

Remember, girls aren’t attracted to you BECAUSE of what you’re talking about, they’re attracted to you by HOW you’re talking about it.

ESPECIALLY if you’re talking about regular stuff. Not stuff like skydiving, or going spelunking in Russia.

Why?

Because most girls have average self esteem. Not high, not low, average. (Just like most guys are of average height, etc.) And if you’re talking about how you fought off two grizzly bears in the Klondike with a banana, she’s going to feel like she can’t compete.

But if you’re talking about how a cricket woke you up and you went on a ninja seek and destroy mission to find it and assassinate it, she’ll be into you.

Go Easy On The Crickets

NOT because you’re a cricket killer. But because you get excited about mundane things, and make them interesting.

Life is filled with mundane things. If YOU can make mundane things sound exciting, she’ll want to tag along.

But it’s much deeper than that.

Most girls think THEY THEMSELVES are mundane things. (As do most guys).

Which means if you can get jazzed up about every day stuff, she’ll assume, on an unconscious level, that you can get jazzed up about her.

It’s All Unconscious

Understand this will ALL happen on an unconscious level. She won’t know WHY she’s suddenly feeling that funny feeling in her tummy, but she will be.

So forget about trying to impress her with heroic stories of dragon slaying. Let loose your emotions and learn to share them with passion and descriptive language.

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