Category Archives: Attraction

How To See What’s Already There For Mad Attraction

How To See More IOI's

Pay Attention!

How do you tell if she’s into you?

Most guys would LOVE to know which girls are attracted to them, and which girls aren’t.

Just think if could scan a room, and see a little bubble over the top of every girl’s head, that had all kinds of statistics. How much she was attracted to you, on a scale of one to ten, what the chances were of getting a number, what the chances were of taking her home, whether or not she was a freak in bed.

Save Tons Of Time

You could just spend five or ten minutes scanning the room, hit up all the “high probability prospects” and take the “best candidate” home within an hour so.

If you had some magical glasses or contact lenses that would show this data you could easily make a kajillion dollars.

But this is the stuff of pure fantasy, right?

Not quite.

It Already Exists – Inside Your Brain

Most people assume that “naturals” are ultra seductive and can pretty much make ANY woman instantly fall in lust.

This isn’t altogether accurate. What’s MORE accurate is that naturals simply have a set of built in filters so they can do EXACTLY what is described above.

Meaning they have super advanced skills of perception and social intelligence, so they can easily read a room and tell who’s into them, and who’s not.

In The Moment Attraction Measuring

What’s more, is they can tell, during the conversation itself, if she’s increasing her attraction or decreasing. Simply by watching her facial expressions, body language, and how she responds to kino (slight touching in socially appropriate places) they know PRECISELY when to “make the move.”

Because they have SO MUCH DATA, they almost never fail.

Please Like Me!

Compare this to the average “wanna be pick up artist,” who’s usually just hoping and not much else, and you can see a world of difference.

But here’s the CRUCIAL DIFFERENCE. All those signals that are there for the natural are ALSO THERE for the guy with no experience. He just can’t see them. When he talks to girls, some are getting turned on, some are getting turned off, but since he’s blind to body language, he can’t tell the difference.

Naturals are naturals not because they are super seductive, but because they can see things (either consciously or unconsciously) that others can’t.

Which means that ALL YOU’VE GOT TO DO is learn to see what’s already there.

Jack up your social intelligence, and you’ll be amazed how many girls are already into you.

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How To Learn About Her And Easily Resonate With Her Attraction Triggers

Find Her Heart

Are You Trying To Be A Seduction Robot?

What’s the difference between learning and doing?

It’s really just a matter of perspective.

Most guys fall into a trap (at one point or another) of thinking there is some specific procedure or process of getting girls. All they need is to somehow “put the pieces together” and they’ll suddenly have all their lady problems solved.

The simple, and sometimes harsh, truth is human interactions are incredibly complex, and are never the same. Just like the old saying, “You can never step in the same river twice,” you can never talk to the same person twice.

Huh?

Always In Flux

Every second you are moving forward through life. And every second you add to your experience, which slightly changes your perceptions, your beliefs and your ideas.

Even the physical biology and chemicals that make up “you” are always changing, with every inhale and exhale.

Scientists believe that about every seven years, EVERY SINGLE MOLECULE in your body has been changed out.

So when it comes to human interaction, how could there EVER be a step by step process, that would guarantee ANY result?

Nobody Stays The Same

Even couples who have been together often drift apart because they “change.”

If you’ve ever had a girlfriend for more than a couple of weeks, you KNOW this. That person you talked to after a month or two is TOTALLY DIFFERENT than the girl you first met.

If you can’t predict the behavior of ONE SINGLE PERSON, how in the world are you going to predict the behavior of ALL PEOPLE?

Mental Shortcuts Or Mental Myths?

Yet this is what a lot of guys expect, and think exists. Some kind of step by step process, some kind of memorized lines and patterns that will REMOVE RISK, and GUARANTEE that they get laid.

Many people can be married for YEARS and still not know how to talk to their partner.

Does that mean that it’s all random? Not at all.

The specifics will change with every person, but the basic principles and structures still apply.

Always Be Learning

The secret of becoming successful with women is ditching any kind of “process” that you think you need to “know” before taking action.

The secret is to see every single interaction as a LEARNING PROCESS that will add to your collection of experience.

If you see all interactions as a learning process, you will NEVER fail, because you will ALWAYS learn something.

And once that worry of perfection is gone, and you open yourself up to learning, you’ll be a lot more relaxed, and a lot more successful.

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What Is Real Alpha Attraction?

Alpha Male

James Bond?

What are the qualifies of an “alpha”?

The kind of guy that girls wet their panties for? If you watch movies, it’s always the biggest, baddest guy who never smiles, and is always beating the crap out of others.

Guys like James Bond, or any other government spy, trained killer type.

Imaginary People

But remember, these are characters, invented by writers, who are usually NOT the alpha type.

One way to check and see what an alpha is like is to reverse engineer society.

Huh?

Take a look at all the past societies, and just see not only who’s calling the shots, but who’s getting most of the women.

Hidden In Plain Sight

Now, in our own current society, this can be tough, because they guys that are REALLY calling the shots, the most ULTRA alphas, are usually behind the scenes. And it’s tough to tell who’s getting all the ladies, because they tend to keep this on the down low as well.

But if you could imagine such people, they wouldn’t be like the “in your face” alphas from the movies.

Consider primitive societies. These are helpful because the triggers that cause attraction in women are ancient, and change very, very slowly (like thousands of years slowly), so the guys that are in charge of primitive type societies possess the traits that would still woo women today in your local bar.

And what type of qualities are those?

Spin A Good Yarn

When anthropologists started studying these types of things, they were surprised that one trait these guys had was the ability to talk a good game.

Not politician-style, but to weave colorful and emotionally rich stories, and literally captivate all those around him.

The two things that separates humans from all the other animals is our brains, and our ability to use rich language.

Work On Your Campfire Skills

So it stands to reason that mastering these two skills, have a powerful brain, and powerful language skills, is much more crucial to success (both with women and with life) that having a six pack or wearing the right cologne.

This FANTASTIC news. Because while all those other guys are trying to posture with their corny openers and fake “alpha-ness” you’ll be boosting your REAL skills.

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Understand Female Language For Easier Attraction

What's The Secret Of Attraction?

Mars and Venus?

Men and women speak different languages.

Men generally say what’s on their minds, more or less. Sometimes we beat around the bush a bit, but with just a slight bit of focus, it’s not to difficult to figure out what we’re on about.

Women, on the other hand, can sometimes speak in pure riddles. At least to men, anyhow.

It’s not very politically correct to say this, but men and women are simply built differently.

Dual Minds vs. Single Brain

Brain scans show that women have much more connections between their brain hemispheres.

Women seem to be much better at communicating, and multitasking. Us men are more single minded.

Hunters and Gatherers

From an evolutionary standpoint, this makes sense. Men got together on a daily basis, and went hunting. Not much need for chit chat. Women, on the other hand, stayed together, watched the kids, and gathered all the nuts and veggies and other grubs.

So women developed an ability to not only talk about a bunch of different things at once, but to talk on many different levels at once.

(Men, on the other hand, only needed to say things like, “Hey! Look! A Zebra! Let’s kill it!”)

Reason For Gossip?

Scientists theorize one of the crucial elements in that “stay at home” chit chat was gossip. Men climbed the social and status ladder with their hunting skills, which is mainly physical. Women climbed the social and status ladder with their speaking skills.

What does this mean for seduction?

Hey Baby, Let’s Bang!

It means you’d better not expect her to speak like a guy! It also means you’d better learn to read between the lines, learn what she’s REALLY saying, and be brave enough to make some moves to find out.

I know it happens in the movies a lot, but she will rarely say ANYTHING related to seduction (like “kiss me,” or “aren’t you going to ask for my number?” or “would you like to take me home?”)

Sure, it DOES happen, but if part of your strategy is to wait for it to happen, you’re going to be waiting a long time.

So what do you do instead?

Social Intelligence To The Rescue

Build up your social and conversational intelligence. Trust your instincts. She may indeed be saying, “Do you want to take me home?” But she’s not using words. She’s using body language, facial expression and the subtext of her conversation.

When you’re gut says she’s asking you to kiss her, try some kino and see how she responds, this will usually tell you everything you need to know.

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Secrets For A Powerful Frame And Mad Game

Win Friends and Influence Girls to Desire You

We Know It’s Important

Most guys understand the necessity of “frame control.”

This simply means to hold on to your intention, your outcome, regardless of what happens.

When you approach anybody (girl or not) and you somehow ditch YOUR outcome and start to help THEM get THEIR outcome, you’ve lost the frame.

Sadly, most guys don’t have a strong frame, or ANY frame to begin with. They walk over, and their only REAL intention is to not get rejected.

Well, if you sit there and NOT approach, you’re NOT going to get rejected!

The Goldilocks Approach

On the other hand, if you set too strong of an intention, it’s going to be tough, and you’re going to need some SUPER HUMAN frame skills to get it done.

Let’s assume that you’re intention is to get laid, that night, by the girl you’re approaching. Now, this may sound good when you say it out loud, and it may make you seem like a super dooper alpha to your buddies, but it’s not usually a good idea (unless you’re some kind of rock star).

I know there are some that claim with strong enough “game” you can seduce ANYBODY.

Ditch The Myths

And, to an extent, that’s true. That WILL require that you be super rich, super famous, and have a HUGE posse of ultra hot women as your wing-ladies.

But most mortal men don’t have such a strong “game.”

Which means if you’re intention is to get laid, you’re going to NOT achieve your outcome quite often.

Which means you’ll be building up a LOT of experience in LOSING YOUR FRAME.

Remember, the most important thing is to develop a strong frame.

Underlying Secrets Of Success

This, more than anything else, will help you get whatever you want in life.

So, instead of holding an intention of getting laid, choose something easier. In metaphysics, they teach people to add “or better” to their affirmations or intentions. So if you were to say “I want a job earning 50K a year,” a better way would be “I want a job earning 50K a year or better.”

With setting a frame, the same rule applies.

Hold the intention of getting a nice smile, some nice eye contact, OR BETTER.

Slow And Steady Wins Any Race

You MUST consider it a WIN if you get a nice smile and some eye contact.

Do this, achieve your outcome, and you will definitely build up a MASSIVELY STRONG frame in a hurry.

This will not only KILL anxiety, but it will make you much, much more attractive.

Girls will look at you and you will radiate the energy of a guy who gets what he wants.

One thing that will help dramatically is increasing your social intelligence, so you’ll be able to read the situation much easier.

This will give YOU a set of skills most guys don’t even know exists.

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How Make Your Brain More Flexible For Super Sonic Genius

Mad Genius

The Human Advantage

One of the reasons that humans have come so far is our flexibility.

For starters, evolutionary scientists believe that it was our sexual division of labor that gave us a head start.

If you look at every other mammal, both males and females collect the same type of food in the same type of way.

But humans were different. The males started hunting, looking for protein. The females started gathering, looking for roots, nuts, etc. Looking for vitamins, fiber, carbs, etc.

Diversity Is Strength

This meant they could live in twice as many places. If humans ONLY were able to eat meat, we would have been stuck living wherever animals lived. But since we could survive a while without either meat or fiber and vitamins, etc, we could live pretty much anywhere.

Then we figured out how to make clothes. This gave us even more flexibility. Super hot places, super cold places, super high places, there weren’t too many places on Earth where humans could live.

Clearly, our flexibility is a HUGE advantage.

On an individual level, flexibility is also a HUGE advantage. Everybody’s got desires, wants and needs.

Be Flexible With Flexibility

But those who can fulfill those desires in many different ways have a MUCH better chance of getting them fulfilled, MUCH quicker. If you’ve only got one or two ways to get what you want, and you get shut down, there’s not much you can do.

But if you’ve got a TON of different ideas to get what you want, no matter WHAT happens, you’ll always be getting closer. You’ll always be satisfying your desires, and then creating even bigger ones.

Choose Your Life

That’s when you REALLY start to feel “on purpose.” You WON’T be at the mercy of others, you’ll be in complete control. This doesn’t mean you will be in complete control over the reality around you, but you’ll be in complete control over your own destiny, since you’ve got a clear target, and you’ve got PLENTY of ways to get there.

Unfortunately, most of us have this flexibility hammered out of us when we finish school. Usually it’s gone by the time we finish junior high school.

Luckily, there’s an easy way to get it back. Before long, you’ll be back on track, looking at those HUGE desires, wants and needs with a positive expectation that few people EVER feel.

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Simple Step By Step Destruction of Approach Anxiety

Eject Rejection Fear

Can You Easily Approach Her?

See that girl over there, the hot one? The one’s that’s been giving you those subtle IOI’s?

What’s the first thing that pops into your mind when you think about walking over and talking to her?

If you’re a normal guy, you’ve got a mixture of fear, anxiety, positive expectation, and lust.

Fill In The Blanks

Those are all healthy and safe emotions and feelings. Since you haven’t talked to her yet, and don’t know ANYTHING about her, all you can feel at this point is physical attraction, which IS a mild form of lust.

But since you don’t know what’s going to happen, you imagine a potential negative outcome. She may laugh, tell her friends what a goof you are, throw her drink in your face, kick you in the nuts, who knows.

Your brain is hard wired to feel fear in uncertain situations. We may have had ancestors way back when who DIDN’T automatically feel fear, but they all got eaten by tigers.

Fear Is Helpful – Sometimes

Those that AUTOMATICALLY felt fear, and ran away EVEN WHEN IT WAS SAFE, lived to fight another day.

Of course, if ALL you feel is fear, you wouldn’t even be thinking of approaching in the first place.

It would be like being at the zoo, and SERIOUSLY considering jumping into a cage of lions and having a chat about world politics or something. The thought of approaching a lion or a tiger doesn’t even cross your mind.

So when you’re standing there, with competing feelings of lust AND fear, that is totally normal.

Beware Of Fearless Gurus

Guys who say they’re afraid of approaching are lying. They may not feel fear on a conscious level, but it’s there.

The trick is that by approaching right away, WITHOUT thinking, you don’t give fear a chance to bubble up in your brain.

The biggest destroyer of FEAR is action.

Luckily, you can practice this WITHOUT actually talking to her, if you’re not ready. Just get in the habit of taking SOME KIND OF ACTION the moment you feel attraction. Walk over to the other side of the room. Walk past her to the restroom. Do ANYTHING other than sit there and wonder what’s going to happen.

Build Different Neural Pathways

What you’ll be doing is building in a DIFFERENT response to attraction than one you may currently have. Most guys feel attraction, wonder what to say, feel a bunch of mixed emotions, then either NOT approach, or approach with a huge ball of anxiety right behind them.

But when you start approaching, or taking ANY action, AS SOON AS that attraction shows up, you’ll soon nip fear in the bud. And pretty soon each approach will be closer and closer to the real thing.

The truth is that your brain is an amazing device. Learning how to operate it will help you get a lot more of what you want in life.

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Secrets Of Seduction Resonance

When I was a kid, I LOVED the idea of resonance.

This is when you apply a certain frequency to a certain system, where the applied frequency is the same as the natural frequency.

Like pumping your legs on a swing in the same frequency as the swing plus you, as a pendulum.

If you pump your legs at the right frequency, you can get pretty high without much effort.

Leverage The Laws of Physics

Similar to sloshing all the water out of a bathtub. Slide back and forth at the same frequency of the water in the tub, and you can get your mom pretty angry.

I had a science teacher once who applied this on a boat.

Him and his buddies (about ten people) were on the top deck of this sightseeing boat. They would go back and forth across the top, cause the boat to rock slightly. Once they figured out what the natural rocking frequency of the boat was, they just copied it.

Pretty soon the boat was tipping back and forth with HUGE swings, making everybody completely freaked out. There they were on calm seas, and they were rocking back and forth as if they were in a storm.

Everywhere You Look

This concept of “resonance” shows up all over nature, and you can use it with MAD results in seduction.

In fact, if used correctly, (which DOES take practice!) you’ll be able to get a girl so turned on BEFORE you approach her, you can say pretty much ANYTHING, and she’ll be all over you.

How does it work?

It requires that you see and understand all the micro signals that people are sending out ALL the time.

Body language, facial expressions, how slow or fast their eyes move around, how long they hold eye contact, and about a billion other things.

The Female Advantage

Now, women hard wired to do this automatically. Meaning they can walk into a room and “feel” right away who’s into whom, who’s secretly screwing whom, who WANTS to secretly bang whom, who’s been having a fight, etc.

When you gain this ability, you’ll literally be able to see into the female world.

Which means you’ll be able to see each individual girl’s “resonance frequency.”

Enter Her World

Then all you’ve got to do is interact with her, congruent with HER resonance frequency, and she’ll feel a deep connection with you, and she won’t know why.

Now, being able to read a room like that takes some practice. Both going out in public and just “feeling” the energy, as well as doing regular mind development exercises which will significantly boost your social intelligence.

But once you get there, you’ll literally see into a world that few people know exist.

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The Path To Inspiration

Where does “inspiration” come from?

Many people would LOVE to create a lot more in life, but feel they aren’t sufficiently “inspired.”

I’m sure you’ve heard the famous statement, “Genius is 1% inspiration, and 99% perspiration,” and I think it’s commonly misunderstood.

Consistent Effort Required

People generally assume that once they feel “inspired” that “inspiration” will give them the motivation and energy to push through all that icky “perspiration.”

However, it doesn’t always work out that way. Sometimes you’ve got to start with the perspiration before you get any inspiration. Sometimes that magical one percent inspiration doesn’t come until you’ve put in fifty or even sixty percent perspiration.

Always Stirring The Pot

Of all the geniuses throughout history, the ones that came up with ideas that literally changed the world, they didn’t get their ideas by passively sitting around waiting for a magical jolt of inspiration from the gods.

They worked tirelessly day in, day out, sometimes being ridiculed by their peers, BEFORE they got that inspiration.

What kept them going was not the inspiration itself, but the belief that it WAS COMING.

Think of somebody who loves to run every morning. I used to, so I speak from experience.

Getting out of bed is never easy, especially when it’s still dark outside.

Stretching, putting on your shoes, and starting the run takes an enormous amount of willpower.

But after I literally FORCED myself to do it every single day for a few weeks, it got easier and easier.

Powerful Momentum

Not because I bounded out of bed every morning a huge desire to run around my neighborhood in the dark while everybody else was still sleeping, but because I KNEW what was coming.

Inevitably, after a couple miles, after I slipped into a rhythm and FORGOT I was exercising, I would get what people call a “runner’s high.” A mix of brain chemicals pumped into the blood that minimize physical discomfort and maximize feelings of euphoria.

But every single morning, part of me wanted to stay in bed. Part of me wanted to accept that it was OK to “go running tomorrow instead.”

Only by overcoming that internally placed obstacle with perspiration, did I ever experience that inspiration that I KNEW would come.

Bank Shot Method

This the TRUE secret of creation. Put in the work first, and the inspiration comes later.

Luckily, there are some proven techniques to not only increase your genius thinking ability as well as some “genius mining techniques” so you can go through the same process.

Do the work first, and those genius inspirations WILL FOLLOW.

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 How To Practice With Girls And Improve Your Skills

Way, way back in the old days, you had to learn through apprenticeship.

Meaning before schools were ever invented, if you wanted to learn a trade, you had to find somebody that was already successful in that trade, and who would take you on as an apprentice.

And often times, these “apprenticeships” lasted years. It served a lot of purposes. One was to make sure you were really trained in the field. Another was to limit the amount of people entering into the field. Another was to preserve whatever “traditions” were associated with that field.

Learning By Doing

Of course, all of these trades were hands-on, skill dependent. Artists, plumbers, welders, etc.

It took a long, long time before you “entered” the profession before you were considered a “master” of the profession.

This was GREAT for customers, because they KNEW that any person they hired would know what they were doing, after having spent decades perfecting their craft.

What’s this got to do with seduction and getting girls?

Everything!

See, most guys have been conned by slick talking marketers that there’s some secret “method” or magic set of words that will get any girl in your bed.

Always Expand Your Skills

As if picking up a girl is like baking a cake, where all you need to is learn the right steps in the right order, and expect them to work every time.

The truth is that EVERY SINGLE GIRL is different. One “line” make work like magic on one girl, but fall flat on the girl sitting right next to her.

That shirt you wore last weekend may make you look like a stud to one girl, but may make you look like a geek to another girl.

Constantly Evolving

The HARSH truth about LIFE, (and seduction) is that there really isn’t any one-size-fits-all strategy.

Even those old school artisans took YEARS to learn their craft, and they were operating on inanimate objects, or animals.

But if you are intending to “operate” on others, it’s going to take a lot longer than a weekend seminar to get proficient.

The ONLY thing that will help you is YOUR OWN experience. The more girls you talk to, the more experience you’ll have, and the more stuff you’ll be able to think up IN THE MOMENT.

Think On Your Feet

The more flexible you are IN THE MOMENT, the more attractive you’ll be.

Consider talking to girls as ALWAYS part of your “apprenticeship” of life.

Since it’s only practice, there’s really nothing to lose. Just have some fun, gain some experience, and increase your skills.

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