Category Archives: Congruence

How To Accelerate Your Success Tipping Point

Jump Over Obstacles To Success

Push Past The Point Of No Return

What’s the difference between people that succeed and people that don’t?

Chances are, you aren’t going to like this.

Sure, things like luck, connections, genetics, all have a part. Sometimes a big part.

There’s always a famous actor that was “discovered” while unloading furniture, or somebody who was born with a silver spoon in their mouths.

But that’s only the first step. The truth is that even people that have connections, great genes and are incredibly lucky will ONLY succeed if they know what to do, and aren’t afraid to do it when opportunity comes knocking.

And more often than not, they’ve figured out that the best way to find an opportunity is to CREATE IT.

The bottom line is you’ll never really be a hundred percent sure that what you’re doing is the right thing.

And unless you are fully ready to embrace “failure” you will never succeed.

Like I said, this is harsh. Most people hate to hear things like this.

A lot of people out there imagine they’ve “put in the work” and now they are ready to sit back and reap the benefits.

Unfortunately, it rarely works like this.

If you want to continue to get benefits, whatever they may be, you’re going to have to continue to get out there and get busy.

Now, I have no idea what that means to you, but I suspect that YOU do.

If you want an ideal relationships, you’re going to have to go out and introduce yourself to people in a friendly way, if only for practice.

If you want a huge income from part time work, you’re going to have to try a lot of different things before you hit that “sweet spot.”

But the flip side of this coin is that once you get a tiny bit of positive feedback, you’ll be hooked.

For life.

Risk Can Be Fun

Learn To Enjoy Risk

Pretty soon you’ll embrace uncertainty and “risk” because instead of seeing potential failure around every corner, you’ll start to see potential success.

And this is REALLY when things kick it into high gear.

Before long, what used to seem like “scary effort” now seems to be “enjoyable action.”

From a third party, it may look like you’re doing the same thing.

But to you, everything will seem different. Easier. More natural. You will have opened that all important “flow” where everything is possible.

One of the things you’ll learn from the Mental Alchemy course is how to set your mind right, so that wonderful tipping point will come a lot quicker.

A combination of mental exercises, guided meditations, and some powerful affirmations will set you on the right track.

How To Charge Forward Toward Your Dreams 

Goals Are Always Present

Are You Afraid Of Big Goals?

Most people shy away from things like “goal setting.”

There’s a lot of reasons for this. For the longest time I was TERRIFIED of setting goals.

I mean, what happens if you set a huge goal (like the gurus preach) and then it doesn’t come true?

The part of me who believes in conspiracies suspects “some” gurus preach setting big goals because they KNOW most people won’t achieve them. Which means they’ll keep buying the guru’s products.

On the other hand, if you DON’T set big goals, the only thing you’ll ever achieve worth anything is by accident.

I’m pretty sure that relying on dumb luck is not the best strategy! (At least it never worked for me in Vegas!)

So, what’s the secret? How do you avoid the guru trap while still creating a life worth living?

One way is to set a huge goal out there, and then set smaller goals that you’re pretty sure you’ll NEED to accomplish to get there. Certain milestones related to certain skills.

Things like giving ten speeches at Toastmasters, or being able to play a certain piece on a musical instrument from memory, in front of several friends and family members.

Things that will help you KNOW you’re on the right path.

Take Charge Of Your Goals Or He Will!

Conscious Or Subconscious – They’re There

The truth is that humans are goal setters whether we know it or not. Every action we take has some kind of intended outcome. However if you never take time to chose your outcomes wisely, your subconscious is going to be choosing short term outcomes based ONLY on your instincts.

Safety, comfort, social recognition, sexual expression, etc. (Maslow’s stuff).

The trick is to make sure your conscious goals are DRIVEN by your subconscious instincts.

That way your inner caveman (or cave woman) is going to be on your side, instead of fighting you.

So yes. Choose a big goal. Choose a huge goal. One WAY out in the future. Then figure out what smaller goals will get you there.

And start making them happen.

You’ll find what happens next is like nothing you’ve ever experienced.

Live In Congruence With Your Nature For Max Prosperity

You Can't Fight Who You Are

Don’t Fight The Tape

You know the story of the frog and the scorpion, right?

There’s this frog and a scorpion on one side of a river, which is rising rapidly.

They both have to get to the other side to safety, or else they’ll drown.

The frog jumps in the water and starts to swim, but the scorpion asks him to stop.

The scorpion asks for a ride, but the frog protests that he’ll sting him.

The scorpion promises that he won’t. The frog believes him, so the scorpion climbs on.

They get halfway across the river, the scorpion starts to sting him. The frog asks why. It’s my nature, says the scorpion, right before they both drown.

Now, the money question. What’s the moral of this story? There are many to choose from.

One is that evil people will do evil things even if they promise they won’t. People that hold to this say you can’t trust anybody.

Another is that you can’t act contrary to your nature. Even if you try.

If you’re a scorpion, you sting people. That’s what you do. Even if it will end up killing you.

If You're Happy, Let It Out!

How About Humans?

What about humans, what is our nature?

When talking about human nature, there’s two ways to look at it.

One is to listen to religious leaders, politicians, marketers, gurus, etc. They’ll all tell us what we SHOULD do. (Which, most of the time, we DON’T).

Another is to simply look back across human history to see what we HAVE been doing.

It seems that human nature is wide. There’s a lot of stuff that we do, do well, and have been doing since we started living in large societies.

War is certainly one of them. War, however, tends to destroy stuff. If war truly WAS our strongest nature, there wouldn’t be anything left.

But since there’s TONS of stuff, it seems there’s something we’re BETTER at than killing each other and blowing stuff up.

Building. Creating. Inventing.

Despite all the wars that have been raging since the dawn of time, there’s been an even BIGGER drive to create more stuff. Wealth. Ideas. Products. Services.

Look at how much stuff we’ve got now compared to only ten years ago.

Sure, there are good times and bad. But regardless of what horrible things we do to each other, the net wealth of society is ALWAYS going up.

So, what is the nature of humans? Many. But the strongest one is creation.
Humans are creators.

What would you like to create?

How To Plant Love Bombs

Leave Her Thinking About You

Make Love Not War, Baby!

When does love happen?

Most people don’t really think about this, and when they do, most of us get it wrong.

It doesn’t help when we hear things like, “Love at First Sight.”

Humans have a terrible habit of “mis-remembering” things.

Meaning we’ll see somebody, and not be too sure about them. Then we’ll be thinking about them, imagining them, and wondering how it would be like to be together.

Then when we see them again, we see them through that filter that we’ve created ourselves, based on our own imagination.

To matters more confusing, we’ll add on all those extra feelings to our memory of the first meeting.

Which means we’ll remember that first meeting as if we INSTANTLY had all those feelings that we later conjured up all on our own.

Now, this DOES happen to guys. But girls do this with MUCH MORE INTENSITY. Girls literally LIVE for this stuff.

Twilight Anyone?

That’s why romance novels are the biggest best sellers. Always.

The whole point is that realize that her attraction for you will usually not happen during that first meeting.

But it’s actually pretty easy to get it to happen after a two or three meetings.

Now, if you’re the kind of “love ’em and leave ’em” type, this will still work, you just need time to build up your “sales funnel” so you’ve always got honeys ready to rock.

But if you’re trying to game one special lady, this will work INCREDIBLY well.

Leave Seeds To Grow In Her Heart

All you’ve got to do is give her SUBCONSCIOUS a reason to think about you when you’re gone.

NOT HER CONSCIOUS MIND, but her subconscious.

This means DON’T say goofy things like, “think about me, ok?”

This DOES mean leaving a bunch of open loops. Star thoughts but don’t finish them. Be present, be energetic, let her know that you’re into her, but be sure to leave open loops.

That’s Just Like When…

Start stories and don’t finish them completely.

You know that funny feeling you get when you leave your house, and you felt as if you’ve forgotten something?

That’s the feeling you’re going for. Not something ultra strong, and definitely not anything specific.

Just a vague feeling that there’s something she forgot to say, or ask or finish.

If you’ve done this, combined with being clear that YOU are attracted to HER, the result is pretty amazing.

There’s a whole set of language patterns and techniques that will help you master this ultra powerful conversation strategy.

Girls Money and Love

And when you realize that it’s not only good for getting girls, but also getting money, getting jobs, and significantly increase the pleasure of your existing relationships, then you’ll understand the true power of your language.

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How To Conjure Female Desire

Get Her Interested In You

Magical Attraction

The filters you carry in your mind will shape the world you see.

Most people have an idea of “I’ll believe it when I see it.”

But in reality, it’s the opposite. You’ll see it when you believe it.

Naturally, this isn’t magic. This is based on biology, and physical reality. However, there are, according to neural scientists, about 200,000 TIMES as many things going on around us at all times than our conscious minds can pick out.

It’s All Science

Now, these aren’t things like alien lizards hanging out behind us. These are things like girls checking us out. All of the micro body language, eye contact, breathing patterns, facial expressions and eye dilations are there. We just don’t notice them.

In fact, if you had some super human brain that actually COULD see everything, you’d be able to see the attraction level of every single girl within 50 feet.

Because attraction isn’t a choice, the natural physiological response to attraction aren’t a choice either.

Rude Language Ahead

Here’s a VERY CRUDE example. If a super hot porn star showed up to where you are RIGHT NOW and started rubbing your crotch, it would be IMPOSSIBLE to NOT get an erection.

Similarly, when girls are out and about, it is IMPOSSIBLE for their bodies not to respond to guys they find interesting.

I’m talking about body language, facial expressions, and all those micro IOI’s that most people don’t even know exist.

But What About Metaphysics?

So back to that metaphysical statement. If you believe you suck with women, and women aren’t into you, you’re basically telling your subconscious to IGNORE all the signs that women ARE into you.

However, if you TRULY BELIEVE that all girls want to jump on your johnson, you WILL start seeing signs of attraction.

Now, here’s the BEST PART. Simply believing that girls are into you will change YOUR body language, facial expressions, how long you hold eye contact, and the very way you move through the world.

And THIS will actually INCREASE the amount of attraction for you out there.

Get In The Mix

The truth about human nature, human interaction and especially SEXUAL interaction is that it’s all based on feedback loops and endless interdependent variables.

But if you try to get a handle on all of that stuff consciously, you’ll go crazy.

A better way is to simply trust your unconscious. Go with the glow. Merge with reality around you to create and take what you want.

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How I Blew A Threesome

Three Girls

So Close!

I remember once I had a three-way in college.

Hang on there, it’s not what you think!

I have no idea how or why it started, but it ended quickly, and it was all my fault.

I was at this party, hanging out with my boys, drinking, smoking etc.

And I found myself sitting in a chair, up against the wall, kind of facing the main room.

And there were two girls on either side of me.

Out Of Nowhere

I don’t remember how it started, but I was in the PERFECT mood for pick up. I was enjoying myself, I was enjoying the company of the girls and I didn’t really care what happened.

So the two girls started getting ULTRA playful. I’m talking MAJOR kino. Tickling me, whispering in my ears, breathing on my neck, running their fingernails up my legs.

Wait, What?

I was flabbergasted. Since I wasn’t paying much attention, it was like it came out of nowhere.

So what did I do? Enjoy it? Allow them to keep doing what they were doing?

Nope. I wrecked the frame, and ruined everything.

How?

In my nervousness, instead of just accepting what was happening, and going with it as congruently as possible, I let my ego take over. I suddenly looked out over the party, and took on a huge fake alpha stance, and tried to “show off” my new found “game.”

Ego Killer

My attitude quickly went to “Hey everybody! Look at me! I’m so cool! I’ve got two girls on me!”

The girls quickly picked up on this, and left.

BAM!

As soon as it started, it was over.

Now, could I actually have gotten both these girls into bed? Who knows. Maybe. Probably. They were in a frisky mood, the alcohol was flowing. Finals had just ended. It was a one of time opportunity, but I blew it.

Instead of just pacing the situation, pacing the frame, pacing the energy, I tried to exploit it.

Moral of the story?

Don’t Use Girls To Prove Your Alpha-Ness

If you’re picking up girls to show off what an alpha dog you are to your buddies, your success will be very limited. In order to pull this off, you REALLY have to be that ultra alpha jerk that SOME girls go for.

But if you’re picking up girls because you want to enjoy their company, enjoy their energy, and enjoy their sexuality, you’ve got to learn to pace the energy, pace the frame, and then slightly lead them to where you want to go.

If you try and do this consciously, it’s easy to mess it up. But when you trust your unconscious, trust your instincts, it will be like magic.

And THIS is the stuff that girls FANTASIZE about.

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Opening Her Treasure Chest

Secrets Of Her Treasure

Scared Of Rejection?

One of the biggest stumbling blocks to success with women is the fear of rejection.

Whether or not you can admit this to yourself, (some guys can’t) it’s always there.

Of course, it might not always be easily labeled as “rejection.” You can walk over, talk to her, and anything OTHER than not getting what you want is going to feel pretty lousy.

It’s that “other-than-success” feeling that keeps a lot of us stuck.

Become The Sorter

Think about it this way. Let’s say you’ve got a deck of cards. Your job is to find all the Aces.

Every Ace you find gets you ten hours of mind blowing sex with the girl of your dreams.

Easy job, right? Just flip through the cards until you find them.

When you flip over a card, and it’s not an Ace, do you wince? Do you feel ashamed, do you wish you stayed at home? Nope. You spend about ten nano-seconds saying “next” to yourself.

You can go through the whole deck in less than a minute.

Same Strategy With People

Now imagine another scenario. There’s some guy standing behind you with a club. You’ve got to turn ALL the cards into Aces. Meaning if you turn over a three, you have to use some kind of magic to transform it into an Ace. If you don’t, the guy with the club is going to smash you over the head.

Now how do you feel? Nobody in his right mind would go NEAR a deck of cards under those situations.

Yet that’s the reality a lot of us IMAGINE when we’re out talking to girls. We think we need to take each girl we fancy, and “turn her into” our dream girl.

However, in reality, the world around (including girls, money and whatever else you want) is much, much more like the first scenario than the second.

Your Mind Is In Control

You need to simply be an open minded SORTER, rather that somebody trying to use some laws of magic that don’t really exist.

But here’s the thing.

When you relax your mind away from the second scenario, and into the first, it will SEEM like magic.

All those girls you used to be terrified of talking to will now seem as friendly as an old lady in the post office.

Not only that, but you’ll realize that there are A LOT of dream girls out there, just waiting to be found.

So, what’s it going to be? Are you a magical conjurer, trying in vain to turn girls into people they’re not, or are you a treasure hunter? Easily sorting for the girls that WANT YOU to find them?

Become a treasure hunter.

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The Magic of Thought

Thoughts Are Magic

Thinking To Things

I used to play a lot of racquetball.

When I was in college, I lived in some dorms that were next to the sports center, which had the racquetball courts.

Me and my buddy would always play, and he would almost always beat me. It was fun, but frustrating.

The only few times I beat him I was completely “out of my head.” I didn’t really think about each individual shot. I didn’t consciously hold the score in mind and “count” how many more points I needed.

I was absolutely UNCONSCIOUS. Meaning I had vague thoughts, and my body obeyed. The ball went exactly where I wanted it to go, completely confounding my friend. He would always look at me funny after games like this, as if I were possessed or something.

No Barriers

Musicians frequently have experiences like this. They don’t consciously think of each note, or where they are in the particular piece they are playing. They just have vague thoughts or feelings, and express it as beautiful music.

There’s a famous line from the movie, “The Color of Money,” with Paul Newman, about a pool hustler. He never made the big time, but when he played pool, he was always in that magical “zone.”

All through the movie he questioned himself. He never really knew if he was a “winner” or a “loser.”

Genius Explained

But one day he was having a picnic with his girl, and he explained the feeling. “It’s like my arm the pool cue are one. I just imagine the shot and it happens, and when it does, it’s beautiful. Like something nobody’s ever seen before.”

Those moments of “flow,” of being in the “zone” are what life is all about.

When there is no second guessing, no worries about the outcome, no inner arguments or silly voices in your head telling you what you can’t do.

Just a pure connection between thought, and outcome.

What if your entire life was like that?

What if you could create relationships, build income, manifest your dreams, through this same process?

Well, you can.

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Future Pace Yourself Into Her Dreams

Time Travel Seduction

Time Travel Seduction

Most guys who don’t make a lot of money think this will keep them from getting the girls they want.

This is absolutely FALSE.

Now, I know there ARE plenty of women out there who are clearly focused on getting somebody with a lot of disposable income, but we aren’t talking about those girls.

We’re talking about normal girls, looking for normal relationships, with normal guys.

Forget Mainstream Nonsense

I know there’s a lot of gloom and doom about the current male-female dynamics, but there’s ALWAYS gloom and doom about pretty much anything. If you went back in time 500 years, you wouldn’t have to look far to find people complaining that the world was falling apart.

So, how do you get a girl if you’ve got a lousy job, or NO job?

First, forget about trying to impress girls with who you are.

Instead, show them who you are BECOMING.

And let THEM decide if they want to tag along or not. This attitude alone will put you miles ahead of every else out there.

How, specifically, do you show them?

Be A Man With A Plan

First, you’ll actually need to come up with a REAL PLAN for your life. A plan based on big dreams that are AT LEAST a few years out in the future.

Actually sit down and write your dream job five years from now, if everything pans out. It’s crucial this has to be based on your own actions or behaviors. If you tell her you plan on hitting it big in Vegas, she’ll just laugh and walk away.

But if you tell her your plans to become an architect so you design big buildings around the world, she’ll be impressed.

But ONLY if you’re SERIOUS about your dreams. Don’t make stuff up.

She Wants To Go With You

What will happen is because she’s so used to guys trying to impress her with their NOW situation (which is usually puffed up quite a bit anyway) she’ll be totally blown away when you come across as somebody who’s going places.

She’ll start asking you all kinds of questions, and want to know if you’re the real deal.

And when you start asking her about HER future, and get her talking in terms of HER big dreams, guess what will happen?

You will both be standing there, talking about YOUR FUTURE TOGETHER.

Meaning you’ll be standing there TOGETHER, each talking about your own FUTURES.

And her mind will start to mix them together without her even knowing. Which will leave her feeling as if she met “The One.”

To make sure it happens, be sure to mix in some of these powerful language patterns into YOUR future and HER future.

It will be the glue that binds her emotional (and subsequent sexual) fantasies to YOU.

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How To Become A Verbal Ninja

Verbal Ninja

Mad Word Power

There’s a lot of guys selling a lot of products regarding seduction.

In a way, that is absolutely fantastic. That means there’s a big market for seduction products. That means plenty of guys are making decisions, every single day, to finally take action to get what they want.

To learn skills, overcome anxieties, and build relationships with the women of their dreams.

However, there’s a lot of mythology and misdirection in this particular marketplace.

Eager Customers or Eager Marks?

Any time you’ve got something as desirable as sex or relationships with hot girls, you’re going to have a lot of snake oil.

Let’s back up a bit and talk marketing. Somebody makes a product, and then they try and sell the product.

If the product is to fulfill an existing demand, it’s pretty easy. Like opening up the only hamburger shop in a town with three high schools. Or opening up a surfboard shop in a city by the sea, that’s got awesome waves.

But sometimes, people make products that are brand new. Which means people have never seen them before. Which means the product maker has got to CREATE demand.

Generate Demand

This is a lot more difficult. First you need to convince somebody they need the product, then you’ve got to convince them they should buy it. Not an easy task.

Obviously, seduction products fall into the first category. Men are always horny. A friend of mine told me recently he met a girl, went back to her place, had sex several times, and then the next morning he went out to pick up breakfast. On the way he saw a couple of cuties, and started feeling deep feeling of sexual desire.

Unlimited Demand

Because that deep feeling of sexual desire is ALWAYS there, it’s an easy thing to sell.

Most guys would LOVE the ability to walk up to any girl, anywhere, any time, spit out a bunch of memorized words, and have her beg him for sex.

Which is why products like this sell like hot cakes.

But is it really possible? Can ONE memorized set of patterns really turn a girl on, no matter WHO she is?

Kind of, but not in the way some of these marketers promise.

Play Chess

It’s best to think in terms of “moves” rather than patterns. If a boxer memorizes fifty moves, for example, and can use them in any order, he can come up with literally an ENDLESS amount of patterns on the spot.

Compared to a guy who’s got three or four patterns memorized, and once those are done, he’s done.

So, which is better, memorizing TEN long patterns, or 20 or 30 small “linguistic moves” that you can use in any order, with any girl?

Meaning you can use these same “moves” combined with her unique personality, and fire up her emotions and attraction for you to levels more powerful than most guys ever imagine.

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