Is Your Law of Attraction Not Working Yet?

One of the most crucial, and the most overlooked qualities is congruence.

It’s one of those words that is hard to define, yet everybody seems to have an idea of what it means.

However you define it, the more congruent you are, the easier it will be to get whatever you want. What’s even better is that congruence is often times more important that actual skill.

Long time ago, I used to live in Taiwan. I was at a friends house watching this really weird high school competition.

It was in this big stadium, filled with people. But the only event was a race from one end of the end zone to the other. 100 meters.

Perfect Congruence

They raced with all the kids lined up, standing next to each other. Except each person’s legs were tied to the person on either side of them.

Meaning when they ran across the field, they had to run in perfect synchronicity. If one guy fell, they all fell. If one guy tried to run faster than everybody else, they all fell.

So the team that won wasn’t the fastest team, but the team that was the most congruent. The team that ran across the field in perfect lock step with each other.

Individual humans are exactly the same way. We’ve got all these parts that are usually trying to go in all kinds of different directions. If those kids tried that, they’d be in a huge pile of arm and legs flailing about.

Is it any wonder that things that seem so easy turn out to be much harder?

Congruence Is Key To Everything

But if you’re internally congruent, and you’ve got ALL your parts on board, you can really achieve pretty much anything.

This is the part of manifesting that trips many of us up. Part of us is trying to attract something, but another part is actually pushing it away.

Which is why when you get all your parts on board, it suddenly seems so easy (both to you and everybody watching you) that it really DOES seem like magic.

To achieve more congruence and manifest your desires, check this out:

LOA Myths Are Abundant

There’s a lot of misconceptions about the Law of Attraction.

As it goes, you vibrate a certain frequency, and you will resonate along with that which you desire.

Now, some people interpret this (since it’s called the law of “Attraction”) that things will suddenly start showing up in your life.

Often times, the example is given of red cars (if you’re focusing on red cars) or something similar.

However, in order to this to happen, that which you are visualizing must already exist, in it’s finished form, out there in the world.

In this case, what you’re doing is changing the filters in your mind so you see what’s already there.

A Flying Car?

But what if you are visualizing something that hasn’t been created yet? Something complicated like a new job, or a relationship, or a specific house?

In this case, it WILL require your effort.

Most people have NO IDEA how incredibly brilliant their subconscious minds are. Sure, if think about a red car, you’re going to start seeing red cars.

But if you are visualizing something much more complicated, your subconscious won’t be able to point out the finished product, because it doesn’t exist yet.

But what it WILL point out to you are the building blocks TO that finished product (or relationship or whatever).

Open To Potential

But since you don’t really know HOW those building blocks will fit to together, you might miss them.

Your conscious mind can only play checkers. But your subconscious is ALWAYS playing chess. Always thinking a billion moves head. Always looking way out in the future, rather than right in front of you.

And when your subconscious points out those “building blocks” they’ll come across as a feeling, or an intuition.

Trust Your Feelings

Which means in order to manifest those big, complicated things, you HAVE to trust your intuition and feelings. Which means you HAVE to take action when ALL YOU HAVE is your gut instinct.

Most people are terrified of doing this. Which is why most people are stuck manifesting red cars, that they don’t own. Or sometimes parking spaces (which are already there).

What about you?

Are you satisfied with short term, “proof” that the Law of Attraction exists, or are you serious about actually creating something BIG?

If you are, get started:

Danger Danger Danger

This is a warning of how powerful your subconscious is.

When you tell your subconscious you want something, it will figure out a way to get it.

Naturally, there’s about a billion factors involved. The laws of physics and biology for one. If you want to manifest something that’s going to take some real physical effort and energy, it may take a while.

For example, if you were a few hundred pounds overweight, and wanted to manifest a six pack, it may take a while. There IS a limit on how fast the body can metabolize body fat.

Be Careful What You Ask For

But sometimes, things happen a lot quicker than we imagine. Because the constraints are really in our head. Many times some of the “magical” results people get when manifesting is simply because all the obstacles were in their head. Once they did some visualizations, meditations, etc., and those “imaginary obstacles” vanished, what they wanted was right in front of them. Or pretty easy to get.

Anyhow, here’s the story. Once I had this roommate who had a job she hated. She really, really wanted to take a month off work. So she planned for about a month (all the time worrying and stressing and losing sleep) about how she was going to ask her boss for a month off.

She concocted some story about having to visit some relatives in another country. She finally got up the nerve to ask, and he said no.

Then about a week later, me, her and some other friends were at a party. Suddenly she started feeling ill. Pretty soon she had a sharp pain in her stomach. We took her to the emergency room, and they said her appendix had burst. After the surgery, they told her she’d need to recover at home for one month.

Yep. She wanted a month off from work, and she got it. How did this happen?

She had a specific goal. She thought about if often when plenty of energy. And then her subconscious made it happen as quickly as it could.

Your subconscious is VERY powerful. But it can’t control other people. It can’t change the laws of physics.

Focus On Good Things

But instead of getting yourself sick or injured, why not program your subconscious to be able to interact with others so they WANT to help you get what you want. Or just GIVE it to you, for THEIR reasons.

This is the magic of manifesting when done right. Right thinking, right acting will ALWAYS yield the results you want.

Brain Bending Magic

In NLP there’s a crucial distinction between “structure” and “content.”

For example, consider the following sentence:

“Yesterday, I walked to 7-11 and bought a peanut butter burrito.”

The content is the actual stuff (yesterday, 7-11, peanut butter, burrito). v The structure, however, is the basic “category” of the particular stuff. The following sentence has the SAME STRUCTURE, but no content:

“Two days ago I rode my bicycle to the grocery store and bought an apple.”

The next sentence has the same structure, but NO content:

“Previously, I traveled to a building and purchased some food.”

Pay Attention?

Why is this important? (The structure vs. content thing, not me filling my pie hole!)

Because our brains are hard wired to see ONLY content, and NOT structure.

For example, consider these two sentences:

1) He threw a baseball.

2) He made a million dollars.

Now, are these different or the same? At first glance, they seem to be totally different, both in structure AND in content. (Unless we’re talking about a major league pitcher.)

But sometimes the structure is not grammatical, as in the food buying example.

Sometimes it’s actually biological. Or even metaphysical.

Huh?

Go Meta Baby

Both of the two sentences are really describing the same process.

What process?

This one:

He pictured his outcome in mind, and then he made it happen in the real world.

Or:

He started with a thought, and then turned that thought into a thing.

A guy standing there with a baseball in his hand imagines a completely different situation. He imagines the ball somewhere else, and he imagines how it’s going to get there. Then he makes it happen.

Now, because we’ve all thrown balls, this seems so simple it’s almost nonsensical.

But is it?

Pure Magic

Because that’s EXACTLY what the second guy did.

He had a picture in his mind, and he made it happen in the real world.

Sure, the second situation probably took longer, and involved a lot more people, and he had to hold that idea in mind a lot longer, but the STRUCTURE is the same.

Thought leads to action, and action leads to outcome.

Understanding the structure of creation will make it much, much easier to create. Because you’ve been creating ALL YOUR LIFE.

All you’ve got to do is take a conscious look at the process, improve it, drop it back down into your subconscious, and then sit back and wait for the magic.

Micromanagement Disaster

I used to have this boss that was a little too “hands on.”

Now, it’s one thing to have a boss that really understands what you’re doing, so when they offer their input it’s usually pretty valuable. Anytime you can take advice from somebody who’s been there, done that, and already made all the mistakes, it’s pretty useful advice.

But this boss I had wasn’t like that. This guy was not only an egomaniac, but he was pretty clueless to me and my team’s functions. He would try to “pretend” to understand what we were doing, but he ALWAYS got in the way.

Fake Obedience

So much that when he showed up to our work area, we got that crappy feeling that we were going to have to answer a bunch of ridiculous questions, while at the same time pretending to respect him.

He wasn’t above giving out a few covert threats here and there about our future at the company.

On the other hand, I had this boss that really, really knew what I was doing. He knew all the problems I was likely going to face, and he completely understood when I’d messed up.

Since he’d been in my shoes many times, he knew the trouble spots.

Good Boss Bad Boss

Unfortunately, the “Good Boss” was only my boss for a few short months, while the “Bad Boss” was my boss for a few long (very long lol) years.

So what’s this got to do with anything?

The human mind / body connection is incredible. So much that even the top brain scientists of the world are only starting to understand it.

But one thing is certain. Most of the amazing breakthroughs, achievements and accomplishments people have in their lives don’t come through micro-managing their daily actions.

If you’re conscious mind is always showing up, always trying to micro-manage the day to day behaviors, thoughts and instincts of your subconscious, it’s going to be slow going.

Best Boss Ever

Now, there’s one more boss I had that was actually better than all the rest. He was ultra powerful, ultra clueless about our day to day operations, but also VERY ultra hands on.

He would tell me what he wanted, he would ask me what I needed, then he would remove himself from the picture.

And then my team and I would get it done.

Sure, if we needed help, we’d ask. And he’d give it. No questions. Often times he’d just hand me the company credit card and tell me to “get whatever you need.”

What’s your relationship with your subconscious? What of boss are you?

Do you trust your subconscious to get it done, and give it whatever it needs, whenever it needs, without question?

Or do you try and micro-manage and second guess yourself?

One way works a LOT better than the rest.