Category Archives: Persuasion

Find Their Buried Treasure

The Diamond Inside

Long time ago I went to this persuasion seminar.

One of the metaphors was a Russian doll. The speaker actually had one of those dolls that had a bunch of smaller dolls on the inside.

On the very inside, to emphasize his point, was a real blue diamond. Very rare. Very expensive.

The message, of course, was that everybody has something EXTREMELY valuable on the inside.

And it’s our job, as communicators, to find that.

Since most people are afraid to go first, it will help our cause (whatever you’re individual cause may be) to GO FIRST.

Most people won’t approach, so they wait for somebody else to approach.

Most people won’t start conversations, so they wait for somebody else to start conversations.

This puts YOU in a very powerful position.

You, of course, are an EXPERT on the human condition.

We all are, since we’re all humans!

When you start off by ASSUMING that person has treasure buried deep beneath their fears, you’ll speak to them in a much different way.

However, this requires a couple of things to happen.

One is you’ve got to be wholly congruent yourself. If you walk over and start talking, but are nervous or anxious, it’s going to come across in your body language, facial expressions, and overall energy.

Luckily, this is pretty easy to fix. Just take a few minutes every day, and relax into your emotions. Imagine something scary or unpleasant, and just accept those emotions. Don’t try to change them, or ignore them, or explain them away.

Just accept them as part of who you are.

We ALL have a HUGE mix of emotions. Good ones, neutral ones and bad ones.

If you can accept ALL of them as purely natural, then you’re WAY ahead of the game.

The second thing you can do, to open up the treasure in others, is to ask them the right questions, in the right way.

Instead of sounding like an interrogator, you’ll sound like you are GENUINELY interested in them, which you will be.

Simply by being in their presence, you’ll make them feel safe and comfortable. Comfortable enough to share with you their deepest desires. The greatest hopes. Their biggest dreams.

And once they start talking about them (with you), a few pretty AMAZING things will happen.

One is they’ll NEVER forget you. Since so few people have EVER made them feel that way.

Two is that they’ll subconsciously associate those dreams and desires with YOU.

Three is that ANYTHING you say or suggest will be much, much more likely to be accepted and acted upon by them.

And I’m sure you can start to imagine, now, how many ways you can use these skills!

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How To Tilt The Game In Your Favor

What Does Ben Franklin Know About Success?

Essential Daily Mental Practice

Most people are aware of the power of visualization.

Athletes have known about this for years. They visualize what they want, over and over, and it happens.

Andre Agassi, the tennis player, made a dramatic career comeback to win Wimbleton, when nobody else thought he could.

He said it was easy, because he’d already seen it a million times in his mind.

Even in University studies, it’s been scientifically proven that visualizing something is just as good as actually practicing it.

They took three groups of basketball players. One group didn’t practice, one group practiced in their mind, and one group practiced for real.

The group that did mind practice improved just as much as the group that did real practice.

No matter what you want to do, mentally practicing before hand will make it easier.

Benjamin Franklin talked about this hundreds of years ago. He called it a “daily review.” To be sure, he wasn’t the guy who came up with it, as it’s likely been around for a long, long time.

Basically you just spent a few minutes at the end of the day, reviewing the events. The ones you’d like to “rewrite,” you do. In your mind. You practice the way you’d like to have done whatever it is you did.

The more you do this, the more quickly you’ll improve.

You can even take this to a meta level. Stepping it up a bit.

You can do this with ANY situation. Just take a few moments before you take action, and really visualize exactly HOW you’d like it to come out.

Not only will this make it much more likely, but it will significantly diminish any fear you may have.

Sadly, most people will never do this.

It’s much easier to stay stuck, and come up with an excuse why you didn’t take action.

Especially when we blame forces outside of ourselves. Nothing’s easier than pointing fingers.

It keeps us safe, and we get to pretend that it’s not our fault.

Unfortunately, this will never get us very much good stuff.

Because as you well know, the only things REALLY worth something are things you’ve got to get on your own, rather than have them plopped safely in your lap.

Part of the process of becoming a fully functioning adult is giving up that magical thinking, and taking responsibility for your life.

Sure, it can be difficult. Sure you’ll need to step outside your comfort zone. Sure, you might get some results other than what you were hoping for.

But that’s where all the juice of life is. Taking action, and seeing what happens.

Naturally, you can use the visualization process to make it much easier. Instead of charging forward and hoping for some “good luck,” you can definitely tilt the game in your favor.

How?

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How To Be Like A Kid Again

How To Speak Fearlessly

Little kids are amazing.

They are both fearless and adorable at the same time.

They speak without worrying about what people will say.

Now, if you’re a parent this isn’t so great. But if you’re like me, and you enjoy other people’s kids, this is pretty fun to watch.

They have ZERO problems standing up in the middle of a crowd and shouting whatever’s on their mind.

Again, this is pretty embarrassing for the parents sometimes, but this fearlessness is precisely why kids are so adorable.

We don’t have to try and guess what they mean, or interpret the multiple layers of body language and facial expressions.

They are just pure, open, fearless energy.

Maybe they remind us the way we used to be. Maybe they remind us when times were a lot simpler. Who knows.

But it’s pretty widely agreed upon that one (there are MANY) measures of the “quality” of the adult is whether or not they like kids.

When I was a kid, there was a old lady who lived next door who HATED kids. At least we thought so. We’d be playing outside, and she’d peek out through the window and scare the crap out of us.

Now, she may have loved kids, but didn’t know how to talk to them. Who knows.

This is a funny thing that happens to us as we get older.

Communication becomes harder. More complicated. There’s more risk, more at stake.

That natural outgoing “pureness” gets covered up by a layer of careful protection, anxiety, and sometimes fear.

The problem is that when people watch us, and they see us not being as outgoing as we’d like to be, they assume all kinds of things about us.

Maybe we don’t like them. Maybe we’re “stuck up.” Maybe we think we’re better than everybody.

To make matters worse, everybody’s standing around, inside their own protective bubble of “social safety” and waiting for somebody else to make the first move.

Why not you?

Why not be the person who walks over and starts the conversation?

Why not be the person who shows everybody else it’s still safe to be outgoing and expressive?

Of course, this won’t come as naturally as when you were a kid. But the benefits of being adult means you can decide HOW you think, instead of just relying on instincts.

And make no mistake, you CAN retrain your brain just as easily as you can learn anything else.

And you HAVE learned a lot in life already, right?

Learn how to program your brain, and express yourself.

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What Stage Of Life Are You?

Graduate To Level Three

There’s three stages of life.

But unfortunately, most of us get stuck in stage two.

Stage One is when we’re kids. Little kids. We don’t care about much except what we’ve got our eye on. We want something, we don’t stop until we get it.

The concept of “failure” doesn’t exist. We just keep doing stuff until we get what we want.

Stage Two is when we start to become aware that others will judge us based on our actions. Some of our actions get us good attention, which we like. Some of our actions get us negative attention, which we fear.

Suddenly we lose sight of what we want, and start focusing instead on the attention our actions will bring us, rather than the outcome.

This lasts through childhood, and for most people, their entire adult lives. School, work, social life, everything.

But there is a third state. Where we shrug off that worry about what others think. When we’ve got strong goals that are important to US, not important to THEM.

So we start to measure our results not based on what THEY think, but whether or not our actions get us closer to what WE want.

Making this transition isn’t easy. Most people don’t like it when you do. Most people are terrified of living in a world where their results are based ONLY on their actions.

People Are Envious Of You

Which is why when people see you behaving like this, they’ll try and pull you back. Not consciously of course, but because your actions make them uncomfortable. Maybe you want to try something new, just for the fun of it.

And they say something like, “Yea, but what if somebody sees us? What will people think?”

And since we’re only start to rediscover ourselves, it’s hard to argue with this logic.

But if you want to achieve a life of greatness, you’ve got to. You’ve got to break free from the safety and comfort of Stage Two, and move onto Stage Three.

Most people are too terrified to even think about this.

What about you?

In the Mental Alchemy course, you’ll find all kinds of mental exercises, inside information, and powerfully effective hypnosis sessions that will make it easy.

Because once you get to Stage Three, anything’s possible. You’ll be combining childlike curiosity with adult skills, power, and resources.

What will YOU accomplish?

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Are You Trying To Save The World?

How To Save Your World

The world is a mysterious place.

The second you think you’ve got it figured out, suddenly you don’t.

I remember a long time ago, when I was a kid. I was interested in science, and I figured if I read a few science books, I’d have the world figured out.

I took this mindset all through college, where I got a degree in physics. But the more I knew, the less I knew.

All along I figured physicists would be able to definitively say what was what. But in reality, they really don’t know. Sure, sometimes they’ve got a theory that can be proven in a laboratory, or in the skies, but often times this isn’t the case.

Most people have an idea that they’d like to “change the world.” But if you can barely grasp how the world operates, how in the heck are you going to “save it?”

The answer is “one step at a time.”

OK, but which steps?

Who decides what they are?

The Invisible Hand

There’s this fantastic theory in economics called “Spontaneous Order.” It basically means that when you put a bunch of humans together, even if they don’t know each other, they’ll start or organize themselves, from the bottom up.

This happens without any goof in charge telling people what to do. This is just people, on their own, figuring out what they need, and what they can contribute.

There’s plenty of examples of this in prisons, especially POW camps. This is a place where the guards definitely DON’T want people to organize themselves, but they do anyhow.

In WWII for example, where they had POW camps filled with soldiers for years at a time, entire economies sprung up out of nothing. Some guys became barbers, some guys grew vegetables, some guys became laundry cleaners.

Now, this can only happen if it’s programmed into us. Deep into our DNA. Part of the human mind is hard wired to get in the game, and interact with others.

Helping others get what they want, so you can get what you want. WHATEVER that is.

And since we’re living in a GLOBAL economy, with BILLIONS of people, there’s really no limit.

None.

All you’ve got to do is get in the game.

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How To Get Lucky

What Is Luck, Anyway?

A couple of buddies and I used to go to Vegas a few times a year.

Most of the time, we’d come back with our pockets a little lighter, but a few times we came out ahead.

One particular time we somehow made the decision to “think positive” while we were there.

Meaning that no matter WHAT happened, we HAD to put a positive “spin” on it.

And strangely enough, we ALL were on a winning streak the entire time.

Another time I had a really bad case of tendonitis in my Achilles. I was on crutches, as well as on some pretty cool drugs. They put me in a REALLY good mood.

And for some strange reason, I was ON FIRE. For about an hour I sat at the roulette table, and because of my messed up leg, I couldn’t really lean over to place my bets. So I just kind of “tossed” the chips out onto the table. Luckily, the dealer was pretty sympathetic, and just pushed my chips to the closest number.

It was INSANE how I just kept winning.

When the “universe” seemingly conspires to help you, it feels pretty good.

Scientific Or Chance?

But as much as it felt AWESOME to be in the flow, my scientific, lab rat mind HAS to acknowledge that those two events were just dumb luck.

Stuff like that is GREAT when it happens, and you should ALWAYS be open and ready to embrace situations like when they DO come up (otherwise you might miss them) it’s not a good idea for these to be your main strategy.

Sadly, many people wait their ENTIRE LIVES for something to “just happen.” They see the whole world through “luck” and think other people are “lucky” and they are “unlucky.”

But as I’m sure you know, the BEST definition of “luck” is when “preparation” meets “opportunity.”

And what is opportunity? It’s something that is WAITING FOR YOU to take action. It’s NOT a sack of gold left on your door step during the night.

The universe is always giving you the raw materials, in the form of people, situations and circumstances, but it’s YOUR JOB to take those raw materials and turn them into something wonderful.

The cool thing is that the MORE you TAKE ACTION, successful or not, the MORE opportunities you’ll get.

Think about it from the universe’s standpoint. Why would it keep giving you opportunities if you never take advantage of them?

Simply by TAKING ACTION, you’ll start the process.

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How To Manipulate People

The Tool Of Manipulation

What, you think this is something evil? All of us do it, all the time. Ever since you realized that by crying you could get somebody to change your diapers, you’ve been manipulating people.

And if you have kids, you know how well easily you can be manipulated. Manipulation is hardwired into our nature.

Why?

Because Mother Nature knows we are a bunch of lazy clods who can’t think for ourselves. If we had to remember to go to the toilet, or eat, or get excited when some sexy cave lady or guy came walking our way, we’d have died out long, long time ago.

Instead, she (Mother Nature) gave us these instincts. Subconscious drivers. Hot buttons. Whatever you call them. When they are pushed, we act without thinking.

Now, some of these triggers are obvious. Like eating and running away from dinosaurs.

But some of these triggers are very subtle, and deal with interpersonal relationships. They were put there to help us survive. Like a mom picking up her kid when it cries.

Just like when the doctor hits your knee with that rubber mallet, the response is unconscious. Driven by your subconscious mind.

You have no choice but to kick your leg. Mothers have no choice but to feel that deep desperate pang of worry when junior cries out in the night.

Most of us have no idea these triggers exist. So we stumble through life and get our buttons pushed and our chains pulled in all kinds of different directions.

Who Does This?

A lot of times, it’s nobody. Just a randomness that coalesces to make you go one way or the other.

You weren’t planning on eating, but you see some guy macking on some delicious roast beef sandwich. Now you want one. Then you buy one.

Did that guy plan on manipulating you? Nope. But it still happened.

Sometimes, though, entities to conspire to manipulate us.

So in learning how to manipulate people, you can see it like Karate. You’re not learning it to kill unsuspecting people while they sleep and take their money.

You are, however, learning it so you don’t get your ass handed to while walking down that dark alley. (BTW, why the f*** are you walking down dark alleys?)

Now you don’t feel do bad about learning how to manipulate people, are you?

How do you do it? Learn these principles, and apply them however you like.

Social Proof

This is the granddaddy of all hot buttons. When you convince somebody that everybody else is doing something, they’ll go along with it without much thought.

To make it even stronger, make the “group” as much like your target as you can. If your target is a male in his twenties that likes grunge rock, then convince him that the group is comprised mostly of mid twenties males who love grunge rock.

Authority

If some homeless guy comes up and starts talking about some police conspiracy, you’ll laugh at him.

But if some respected news reporter starts talking about the very same thing, you’ll sit up and take notice.

Why? Humans are hard wired to turn off our brains, and listen to an authority figure. It helped us back in the caveman days.

You can leverage this to a great extent. Just make phrase your message so it sounds like it’s coming from an authority, as respected by your target.

Combination I – Authority And Social Proof

If you can get both of these on board, you’ll be doing fine. Often times this is all you need. Advertisers, politicians and cult leaders have been using this con for years.

First, choose any kind of authority your target will respect. Then find a group of people as similar to your target as you can. Then combine the message as coming from the authority, and from the reference group.

If they believe you, there’s really not much they won’t do.

Seriously.

Entire nations have gone absolutely bat shit crazy because of this simple one two punch.

The What If – Missing Out Con

Sometimes people will take action simply to find out what will happen. Other times people will take action because they are afraid they will lose out if they don’t.

This is where scarcity comes in. Scarcity makes everything seem more valuable. So present your idea, and make sure it’s going to be leaving soon. If you combine this with an over the top promise, that sounds too good to be true it will work.

Most people won’t believe it, but they’ll take action anyway.

Why?

Part of them will think that it may work, and if it doesn’t, they’ll feel bad for not trying.

This is where the next con comes in.

Self Deception

People hate to feel like idiots. So we are hard wired to lie to ourselves. Scientists tell us this evolved after we grew larger and larger as societies.

In hunter gather groups, there’s only about 200 folks you’ve got to keep track of.

But in large agricultural based communities, there’s tons more. So you have to trust your gut when it comes to trusting people.

This left the door wide open for con artists. So people evolved a sixth sense to tell when people were lying.

Then the con artists evolved one step further. They first learned how to lie to themselves, so they could lie to others. That worked out so well, everybody jumped on the bandwagon.

Now we’ve got societies filled with goofs who can lie to themselves like a champ.

You can use this to your advantage. Promise the moon, and convince them they’ll miss out if they don’t take action. Then throw in some kind of booby prize if it doesn’t work out.

This way, when they do take action, and it doesn’t work out, they won’t kill you for conning them.

They’ll tell themselves the oldest con in the book, “Well, I knew it wasn’t going to work, and at least I…” and then whatever you told them the booby prize was.

Social Status

Here’s the best way and easiest way to manipulate people. Since the stone age, all of us have been hard wired to get as much social status as we could, any way we could.

Why?

More social status meant more sex and food.

Less social status meant no sex and no food.

Now, nobody will outright say, “I want more social status!”

Because in modern society, an open desire for social status is the biggest way to lose social status.

Combine this with our propensity to lie to ourselves, and what do we get?

A bunch of goofs who convince ourselves we DON’T want social status, but do everything in the book to GET social status, all the while PRETENDING that it wasn’t what we wanted.

(Damn we are fucked up!)

So, if you allude that somebody will gain social status, in a very covert way, but at the same time give them a completely different conscious reason for taking action, they’ll move heaven and Earth to get there.

People give to charity, go to church, wear ugly ass clothes, all because it gets them imagined social status. But at the same time, they NEVER say they are doing that because of social status.

Summary and Conclusion

The bottom line is that we humans are vain, scared, and lazy creatures that are incredibly easy to manipulate.

That means you’d better learn how to manipulate people, so you don’t get manipulated yourself.

AND if you find yourself running for political office, or deciding to start your own cult, you’ll be WAY ahead of everybody!

I’ve put together an entire course on influence, covert persuasion, and a lot more of these powerful triggers that can get you more money, love, and attention that you’d ever thought possible.

A combination of conscious training and hours of unconscious hypnotic programming that will make you a Jedi Ninja of mind manipulation and influence!

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Natural Influence

How To Become A Verbal Ninja

Mad Word Power

There’s a lot of guys selling a lot of products regarding seduction.

In a way, that is absolutely fantastic. That means there’s a big market for seduction products. That means plenty of guys are making decisions, every single day, to finally take action to get what they want.

To learn skills, overcome anxieties, and build relationships with the women of their dreams.

However, there’s a lot of mythology and misdirection in this particular marketplace.

Eager Customers or Eager Marks?

Any time you’ve got something as desirable as sex or relationships with hot girls, you’re going to have a lot of snake oil.

Let’s back up a bit and talk marketing. Somebody makes a product, and then they try and sell the product.

If the product is to fulfill an existing demand, it’s pretty easy. Like opening up the only hamburger shop in a town with three high schools. Or opening up a surfboard shop in a city by the sea, that’s got awesome waves.

But sometimes, people make products that are brand new. Which means people have never seen them before. Which means the product maker has got to CREATE demand.

Generate Demand

This is a lot more difficult. First you need to convince somebody they need the product, then you’ve got to convince them they should buy it. Not an easy task.

Obviously, seduction products fall into the first category. Men are always horny. A friend of mine told me recently he met a girl, went back to her place, had sex several times, and then the next morning he went out to pick up breakfast. On the way he saw a couple of cuties, and started feeling deep feeling of sexual desire.

Unlimited Demand

Because that deep feeling of sexual desire is ALWAYS there, it’s an easy thing to sell.

Most guys would LOVE the ability to walk up to any girl, anywhere, any time, spit out a bunch of memorized words, and have her beg him for sex.

Which is why products like this sell like hot cakes.

But is it really possible? Can ONE memorized set of patterns really turn a girl on, no matter WHO she is?

Kind of, but not in the way some of these marketers promise.

Play Chess

It’s best to think in terms of “moves” rather than patterns. If a boxer memorizes fifty moves, for example, and can use them in any order, he can come up with literally an ENDLESS amount of patterns on the spot.

Compared to a guy who’s got three or four patterns memorized, and once those are done, he’s done.

So, which is better, memorizing TEN long patterns, or 20 or 30 small “linguistic moves” that you can use in any order, with any girl?

Meaning you can use these same “moves” combined with her unique personality, and fire up her emotions and attraction for you to levels more powerful than most guys ever imagine.

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How To Practice With Girls And Improve Your Skills

Way, way back in the old days, you had to learn through apprenticeship.

Meaning before schools were ever invented, if you wanted to learn a trade, you had to find somebody that was already successful in that trade, and who would take you on as an apprentice.

And often times, these “apprenticeships” lasted years. It served a lot of purposes. One was to make sure you were really trained in the field. Another was to limit the amount of people entering into the field. Another was to preserve whatever “traditions” were associated with that field.

Learning By Doing

Of course, all of these trades were hands-on, skill dependent. Artists, plumbers, welders, etc.

It took a long, long time before you “entered” the profession before you were considered a “master” of the profession.

This was GREAT for customers, because they KNEW that any person they hired would know what they were doing, after having spent decades perfecting their craft.

What’s this got to do with seduction and getting girls?

Everything!

See, most guys have been conned by slick talking marketers that there’s some secret “method” or magic set of words that will get any girl in your bed.

Always Expand Your Skills

As if picking up a girl is like baking a cake, where all you need to is learn the right steps in the right order, and expect them to work every time.

The truth is that EVERY SINGLE GIRL is different. One “line” make work like magic on one girl, but fall flat on the girl sitting right next to her.

That shirt you wore last weekend may make you look like a stud to one girl, but may make you look like a geek to another girl.

Constantly Evolving

The HARSH truth about LIFE, (and seduction) is that there really isn’t any one-size-fits-all strategy.

Even those old school artisans took YEARS to learn their craft, and they were operating on inanimate objects, or animals.

But if you are intending to “operate” on others, it’s going to take a lot longer than a weekend seminar to get proficient.

The ONLY thing that will help you is YOUR OWN experience. The more girls you talk to, the more experience you’ll have, and the more stuff you’ll be able to think up IN THE MOMENT.

Think On Your Feet

The more flexible you are IN THE MOMENT, the more attractive you’ll be.

Consider talking to girls as ALWAYS part of your “apprenticeship” of life.

Since it’s only practice, there’s really nothing to lose. Just have some fun, gain some experience, and increase your skills.

It will help A LOT if you turn on your natural learner, so you can learn even more.

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How To Blast Away Social Fears

Most of our fears are never realized.

Meaning we go through life with all kinds of things we are terrified of what might happen, but they never happen.

I remember once a long time ago, I made this HUGE mistake where I used to work. Based on the results of an experiment I was running (I worked in lab many years ago) the company made some big decisions.

Only I found out, after the money was spent, that I’d made a mistake, and the results were not even close to what I thought they were.

I was TERRIFIED of telling my boss. As soon as I did, he suggested we both talk to HIS boss, which was even scarier.

But something funny happened. I explained what happened, and she just said, “OK, so you’ve got something in place now so this won’t happen again?” To which I said of course. She said, “OK,” and started talking about something else.

I thought I was going to be fired, or worse, but the reality was much more plain.

No matter WHAT you’re afraid of, it won’t likely happen, even if you tried.

I used to play this game in college with my buddies. I would stand at a strategic location at some party, and my friend would whisper the most obscene and corny pick up lines ever, and I’d spit them out at the first girl who walked by.

At first, I was pretty sure I was going to get slapped, or arrested. But most of the time, they just giggled, and kept on walking.

No matter WHAT your fears are, if you take some small, simple steps forward, you’ll likely be very surprised.

Especially if your fears involve interacting with others.

But consider this. EVERYBODY has pretty much the same fears when it comes to interacting with others.

Rejection. Being told we’re idiots, or silly. Embarrassment.

Which is why when YOU make the first move, they’ll almost always open you with open arms.

Doesn’t matter if you’re making friends, looking for new clients, or just enjoying people.

To make things even easier, when you start off talking about THEM instead of throwing your ideas in their face (like most people do) they’ll be even more glad to meet you.