The Path Is Where It’s At
Maslow talked about this in his hierarchy of needs.
At the bottom are things like food, sex, etc. Stuff we all can imagine without any trouble.
But as you go further up the top, they get more vague and much more dependent on your own personal definitions.
The very top is “Self Actualized.”
I remember way back in university, one teacher was telling us that you had to go through the bottom levels to get to the top levels. And somebody asked of an example of a “self-actualized” person.
One of the examples she gave was Jesus. And I immediately thought of Jesus down at the lower levels getting his freak on so he could move up the pyramid. I guess they left that stuff out of the Bible.
Anyhow, I think most people have a bit of a misconception of the top levels of Uncle Maslow’s pyramid.
We tend to think it’s some kind of “state of being.” That once we arrive, all we’ve go to do is drink champagne and eat sushi off naked girls (or guys).
But the problem is that would get pretty boring, pretty quick.
Study after study shows that folks who win lotteries tend to go nuts after the initial thrill wears off.
Sure, we can all think of massive piles of material goods that we WANT, but what happens when we have them?
I suppose you could take handfuls of pills and play video games all day, but you’d self destruct pretty quickly.
Maybe being “self actualized” means being fully congruent in the PURSUIT of your goals, not in the getting them.
When you have something really big, really important (to you) and it’s just out of reach. Which means you’re firing on all cylinders, using all your skills (and learning new ones) to get you closer.
Some famous guy once said, “A man’s reach should be beyond his grasp.”
Meaning if you can get it with your current level of skills and energy, it’s not big enough.
Maybe we humans need some kind of a carrot out there to keep us moving forward.
One that we create, and one that we put out there.
Only when you focus on your own dreams with laser like intensity, and get busy, do you feel alive.