When you were a little kid, you learned by copying.
And if you’ve ever had kids, or are ever around them, you know they tend to copy whatever you do.
Sometimes it’s cute, sometimes it’s embarrassing.
Even for most of human history, most “learning” came from copying.
If you wanted to learn a trade, for example, you had to find somebody that would let you be their apprentice.
Slowly learn the trade, all the ins and outs, and how to do “it” as well as them.
This forms the basis of NLP modeling.
You find somebody that does what you want to do, and then “model” them, which is basically copy them.
Only you have to copy EVERYTHING.
Their beliefs, attitudes, history, EVERYTHING.
Naturally, the more complicated the skills required, the more difficult it is to copy them.
One thing that you will NEVER get rid of is the NEED to make mistakes.
Because no matter WHO you are modeling, they can’t have achieved any level of success without a SIGNIFICANT amount of trial and error. Or as they say in NLP, “Trial and Feedback.”
Unfortunately, many people like to be told EXACTLY what to do in hopes it will relieve them from making ANY mistakes.
“I’m ready for success! I’m open to receive! Just TELL ME what to do and I’ll do it!”
But they discover the “secret” is to simply keep trying until they get it right, they don’t like this idea so much.
Sure, modeling can help. It can accelerate the process. But being willing to accept any “result” no matter how “good” or “bad” is required for any kind of real success.
Which may be the reason why most people are always looking for the next “big secret.”
They’d rather wait they’re ENTIRE LIVES for somebody to tell them what to do than simply make a move and see what happens.
Sure, this can be terrifying. But also incredibly liberating. As you’ve likely realized from time to time, most of our deepest fears NEVER materialize.
So when you do “wing it” just to “see what happens,” it’s rarely even close to what you feared the most.
And every single time you try something, and accept whatever happens as valuable feedback, you WILL learn something.
Sure, often times you’ll learn what NOT to do, but you’ll also get experience.
And a deep KNOWING that trying and “failing” isn’t so bad.
It can be kind of fun.
So long as you have a clear idea of where you’d like to be EVENTUALLY, and the persistency to keep going no matter what, you’ll not only get there, but have a lot of fun in the meantime.