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How To See What’s Already There For Mad Attraction

Pay Attention!

How do you tell if she’s into you?

Most guys would LOVE to know which girls are attracted to them, and which girls aren’t.

Just think if could scan a room, and see a little bubble over the top of every girl’s head, that had all kinds of statistics. How much she was attracted to you, on a scale of one to ten, what the chances were of getting a number, what the chances were of taking her home, whether or not she was a freak in bed.

Save Tons Of Time

You could just spend five or ten minutes scanning the room, hit up all the “high probability prospects” and take the “best candidate” home within an hour so.

If you had some magical glasses or contact lenses that would show this data you could easily make a kajillion dollars.

But this is the stuff of pure fantasy, right?

Not quite.

It Already Exists – Inside Your Brain

Most people assume that “naturals” are ultra seductive and can pretty much make ANY woman instantly fall in lust.

This isn’t altogether accurate. What’s MORE accurate is that naturals simply have a set of built in filters so they can do EXACTLY what is described above.

Meaning they have super advanced skills of perception and social intelligence, so they can easily read a room and tell who’s into them, and who’s not.

In The Moment Attraction Measuring

What’s more, is they can tell, during the conversation itself, if she’s increasing her attraction or decreasing. Simply by watching her facial expressions, body language, and how she responds to kino (slight touching in socially appropriate places) they know PRECISELY when to “make the move.”

Because they have SO MUCH DATA, they almost never fail.

Please Like Me!

Compare this to the average “wanna be pick up artist,” who’s usually just hoping and not much else, and you can see a world of difference.

But here’s the CRUCIAL DIFFERENCE. All those signals that are there for the natural are ALSO THERE for the guy with no experience. He just can’t see them. When he talks to girls, some are getting turned on, some are getting turned off, but since he’s blind to body language, he can’t tell the difference.

Naturals are naturals not because they are super seductive, but because they can see things (either consciously or unconsciously) that others can’t.

Which means that ALL YOU’VE GOT TO DO is learn to see what’s already there.

Jack up your social intelligence, and you’ll be amazed how many girls are already into you.

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How To Learn About Her And Easily Resonate With Her Attraction Triggers

Are You Trying To Be A Seduction Robot?

What’s the difference between learning and doing?

It’s really just a matter of perspective.

Most guys fall into a trap (at one point or another) of thinking there is some specific procedure or process of getting girls. All they need is to somehow “put the pieces together” and they’ll suddenly have all their lady problems solved.

The simple, and sometimes harsh, truth is human interactions are incredibly complex, and are never the same. Just like the old saying, “You can never step in the same river twice,” you can never talk to the same person twice.

Huh?

Always In Flux

Every second you are moving forward through life. And every second you add to your experience, which slightly changes your perceptions, your beliefs and your ideas.

Even the physical biology and chemicals that make up “you” are always changing, with every inhale and exhale.

Scientists believe that about every seven years, EVERY SINGLE MOLECULE in your body has been changed out.

So when it comes to human interaction, how could there EVER be a step by step process, that would guarantee ANY result?

Nobody Stays The Same

Even couples who have been together often drift apart because they “change.”

If you’ve ever had a girlfriend for more than a couple of weeks, you KNOW this. That person you talked to after a month or two is TOTALLY DIFFERENT than the girl you first met.

If you can’t predict the behavior of ONE SINGLE PERSON, how in the world are you going to predict the behavior of ALL PEOPLE?

Mental Shortcuts Or Mental Myths?

Yet this is what a lot of guys expect, and think exists. Some kind of step by step process, some kind of memorized lines and patterns that will REMOVE RISK, and GUARANTEE that they get laid.

Many people can be married for YEARS and still not know how to talk to their partner.

Does that mean that it’s all random? Not at all.

The specifics will change with every person, but the basic principles and structures still apply.

Always Be Learning

The secret of becoming successful with women is ditching any kind of “process” that you think you need to “know” before taking action.

The secret is to see every single interaction as a LEARNING PROCESS that will add to your collection of experience.

If you see all interactions as a learning process, you will NEVER fail, because you will ALWAYS learn something.

And once that worry of perfection is gone, and you open yourself up to learning, you’ll be a lot more relaxed, and a lot more successful.

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What Is Real Alpha Attraction?

James Bond?

What are the qualifies of an “alpha”?

The kind of guy that girls wet their panties for? If you watch movies, it’s always the biggest, baddest guy who never smiles, and is always beating the crap out of others.

Guys like James Bond, or any other government spy, trained killer type.

Imaginary People

But remember, these are characters, invented by writers, who are usually NOT the alpha type.

One way to check and see what an alpha is like is to reverse engineer society.

Huh?

Take a look at all the past societies, and just see not only who’s calling the shots, but who’s getting most of the women.

Hidden In Plain Sight

Now, in our own current society, this can be tough, because they guys that are REALLY calling the shots, the most ULTRA alphas, are usually behind the scenes. And it’s tough to tell who’s getting all the ladies, because they tend to keep this on the down low as well.

But if you could imagine such people, they wouldn’t be like the “in your face” alphas from the movies.

Consider primitive societies. These are helpful because the triggers that cause attraction in women are ancient, and change very, very slowly (like thousands of years slowly), so the guys that are in charge of primitive type societies possess the traits that would still woo women today in your local bar.

And what type of qualities are those?

Spin A Good Yarn

When anthropologists started studying these types of things, they were surprised that one trait these guys had was the ability to talk a good game.

Not politician-style, but to weave colorful and emotionally rich stories, and literally captivate all those around him.

The two things that separates humans from all the other animals is our brains, and our ability to use rich language.

Work On Your Campfire Skills

So it stands to reason that mastering these two skills, have a powerful brain, and powerful language skills, is much more crucial to success (both with women and with life) that having a six pack or wearing the right cologne.

This FANTASTIC news. Because while all those other guys are trying to posture with their corny openers and fake “alpha-ness” you’ll be boosting your REAL skills.

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Understand Female Language For Easier Attraction

Mars and Venus?

Men and women speak different languages.

Men generally say what’s on their minds, more or less. Sometimes we beat around the bush a bit, but with just a slight bit of focus, it’s not to difficult to figure out what we’re on about.

Women, on the other hand, can sometimes speak in pure riddles. At least to men, anyhow.

It’s not very politically correct to say this, but men and women are simply built differently.

Dual Minds vs. Single Brain

Brain scans show that women have much more connections between their brain hemispheres.

Women seem to be much better at communicating, and multitasking. Us men are more single minded.

Hunters and Gatherers

From an evolutionary standpoint, this makes sense. Men got together on a daily basis, and went hunting. Not much need for chit chat. Women, on the other hand, stayed together, watched the kids, and gathered all the nuts and veggies and other grubs.

So women developed an ability to not only talk about a bunch of different things at once, but to talk on many different levels at once.

(Men, on the other hand, only needed to say things like, “Hey! Look! A Zebra! Let’s kill it!”)

Reason For Gossip?

Scientists theorize one of the crucial elements in that “stay at home” chit chat was gossip. Men climbed the social and status ladder with their hunting skills, which is mainly physical. Women climbed the social and status ladder with their speaking skills.

What does this mean for seduction?

Hey Baby, Let’s Bang!

It means you’d better not expect her to speak like a guy! It also means you’d better learn to read between the lines, learn what she’s REALLY saying, and be brave enough to make some moves to find out.

I know it happens in the movies a lot, but she will rarely say ANYTHING related to seduction (like “kiss me,” or “aren’t you going to ask for my number?” or “would you like to take me home?”)

Sure, it DOES happen, but if part of your strategy is to wait for it to happen, you’re going to be waiting a long time.

So what do you do instead?

Social Intelligence To The Rescue

Build up your social and conversational intelligence. Trust your instincts. She may indeed be saying, “Do you want to take me home?” But she’s not using words. She’s using body language, facial expression and the subtext of her conversation.

When you’re gut says she’s asking you to kiss her, try some kino and see how she responds, this will usually tell you everything you need to know.

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Secrets For A Powerful Frame And Mad Game

Win Friends and Influence Girls to Desire You

We Know It’s Important

Most guys understand the necessity of “frame control.”

This simply means to hold on to your intention, your outcome, regardless of what happens.

When you approach anybody (girl or not) and you somehow ditch YOUR outcome and start to help THEM get THEIR outcome, you’ve lost the frame.

Sadly, most guys don’t have a strong frame, or ANY frame to begin with. They walk over, and their only REAL intention is to not get rejected.

Well, if you sit there and NOT approach, you’re NOT going to get rejected!

The Goldilocks Approach

On the other hand, if you set too strong of an intention, it’s going to be tough, and you’re going to need some SUPER HUMAN frame skills to get it done.

Let’s assume that you’re intention is to get laid, that night, by the girl you’re approaching. Now, this may sound good when you say it out loud, and it may make you seem like a super dooper alpha to your buddies, but it’s not usually a good idea (unless you’re some kind of rock star).

I know there are some that claim with strong enough “game” you can seduce ANYBODY.

Ditch The Myths

And, to an extent, that’s true. That WILL require that you be super rich, super famous, and have a HUGE posse of ultra hot women as your wing-ladies.

But most mortal men don’t have such a strong “game.”

Which means if you’re intention is to get laid, you’re going to NOT achieve your outcome quite often.

Which means you’ll be building up a LOT of experience in LOSING YOUR FRAME.

Remember, the most important thing is to develop a strong frame.

Underlying Secrets Of Success

This, more than anything else, will help you get whatever you want in life.

So, instead of holding an intention of getting laid, choose something easier. In metaphysics, they teach people to add “or better” to their affirmations or intentions. So if you were to say “I want a job earning 50K a year,” a better way would be “I want a job earning 50K a year or better.”

With setting a frame, the same rule applies.

Hold the intention of getting a nice smile, some nice eye contact, OR BETTER.

Slow And Steady Wins Any Race

You MUST consider it a WIN if you get a nice smile and some eye contact.

Do this, achieve your outcome, and you will definitely build up a MASSIVELY STRONG frame in a hurry.

This will not only KILL anxiety, but it will make you much, much more attractive.

Girls will look at you and you will radiate the energy of a guy who gets what he wants.

One thing that will help dramatically is increasing your social intelligence, so you’ll be able to read the situation much easier.

This will give YOU a set of skills most guys don’t even know exists.

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Simple Step By Step Destruction of Approach Anxiety

Can You Easily Approach Her?

See that girl over there, the hot one? The one’s that’s been giving you those subtle IOI’s?

What’s the first thing that pops into your mind when you think about walking over and talking to her?

If you’re a normal guy, you’ve got a mixture of fear, anxiety, positive expectation, and lust.

Fill In The Blanks

Those are all healthy and safe emotions and feelings. Since you haven’t talked to her yet, and don’t know ANYTHING about her, all you can feel at this point is physical attraction, which IS a mild form of lust.

But since you don’t know what’s going to happen, you imagine a potential negative outcome. She may laugh, tell her friends what a goof you are, throw her drink in your face, kick you in the nuts, who knows.

Your brain is hard wired to feel fear in uncertain situations. We may have had ancestors way back when who DIDN’T automatically feel fear, but they all got eaten by tigers.

Fear Is Helpful – Sometimes

Those that AUTOMATICALLY felt fear, and ran away EVEN WHEN IT WAS SAFE, lived to fight another day.

Of course, if ALL you feel is fear, you wouldn’t even be thinking of approaching in the first place.

It would be like being at the zoo, and SERIOUSLY considering jumping into a cage of lions and having a chat about world politics or something. The thought of approaching a lion or a tiger doesn’t even cross your mind.

So when you’re standing there, with competing feelings of lust AND fear, that is totally normal.

Beware Of Fearless Gurus

Guys who say they’re afraid of approaching are lying. They may not feel fear on a conscious level, but it’s there.

The trick is that by approaching right away, WITHOUT thinking, you don’t give fear a chance to bubble up in your brain.

The biggest destroyer of FEAR is action.

Luckily, you can practice this WITHOUT actually talking to her, if you’re not ready. Just get in the habit of taking SOME KIND OF ACTION the moment you feel attraction. Walk over to the other side of the room. Walk past her to the restroom. Do ANYTHING other than sit there and wonder what’s going to happen.

Build Different Neural Pathways

What you’ll be doing is building in a DIFFERENT response to attraction than one you may currently have. Most guys feel attraction, wonder what to say, feel a bunch of mixed emotions, then either NOT approach, or approach with a huge ball of anxiety right behind them.

But when you start approaching, or taking ANY action, AS SOON AS that attraction shows up, you’ll soon nip fear in the bud. And pretty soon each approach will be closer and closer to the real thing.

The truth is that your brain is an amazing device. Learning how to operate it will help you get a lot more of what you want in life.

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Learn Like A Natural To Be A Natural

There’s a secret of game that most gurus will NEVER tell you.

If they did, their income stream would stop, and the myth that there’s ONE secret set of techniques and behaviors would get any girl would vanish.

In order to become an absolute NATURAL, so you can get ALL the girls you want, or that ONE special girl is simply by learning from the very BEST teacher.

Learn From The Best Teacher

Who’s the best teacher?

YOU!

But not the “now” you, the “before” you.

AND the “future” you.

Huh?

Time Travel Seduction

Imagine this, there you are, looking out into a sea of gorgeous girls just desperate for Mr. Right to sweep the off their feet and bang them silly.

You imagine a potential future you doing precisely that.

Then you look back quickly to a past you, that did something or tried something similar.

Then you quickly calculate the difference, and take a stab at it. Walk over, try something, and see what happens.

Continuous Improvement

No matter WHAT happens, if you get some get told to take a hike, you WILL add to your experience.

So that the NEXT TIME, you’ll do even better.

This is the NATURAL way that ALL HUMANS are hard wired to learn.

Not from some goofball in front of a seminar room, but from their own experience.

The more experience you get, the better you’ll get.

Are You Relying on Magic?

Now, I know a lot of people believe in magic. That there’s some kind of magical “fix” that will suddenly transform you into a lady killer, so you’ll NEVER have to worry about “game” again.

But you KNOW that is pure nonsense. Marketing crap. Advertising snake oil.

Seduction is a skill, like any other skill. The more you practice, the better you’ll get.

The quickest way to get better, with an absolute minimum of anxiety and rejection is learn in congruence with your natural programming.

Instead of “forcing” anything, just relax, and do what comes natural. Every single action will get easier and easier.

Trial and Error Is The Key

And just like being a kid, and learning to walk, ride a bike, or whatever, you’ll find the learning process is not only natural and easy, but very rewarding.

That means that the simple process of “learning” seduction will be so enjoyable, you won’t even feel like you are “working.”

You’ll feel like you are playing. And you will be.

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Generate Natural Attraction

How do you talk to a girl?

If you’re like most guys, you’ve got a problem. You see girls everywhere. You are attracted to girls everywhere. But when it comes time to walk over and say something, your brain suddenly shuts down.

The truth is that your language, self confidence, self esteem and frame are all linked together.

Forget The Tricks

A lot of guys think all they need is a bunch of memorized lines, or some bling, or some magic tricks, and then they’ll be getting some.

The problem is that girls are hard wired on a deep an ancient level to spot “fakes.”

From a biological perspective, when a woman has sex, and then gets pregnant, she’s out of commission for a while. So over the hundreds of thousands of years, women have developed an ultra powerful method of sniffing out cheats.

The absolute WORST thing that can happen to a woman, from an evolutionary perspective, is to be conned into bed by some sleazy caveman who’s going to sneak away before she wakes up.

Honesty and Congruence

Sure, being a single mother is tough. But back in the caveman days, being a single mother usually meant you AND your kid were doomed.

So the only ladies that survived were the ones that could effectively sniff out those cave men who were practicing some kind of pick up routine.

Whenever you talk to a girl, then, the most important thing is to NOT set off her “this guys is a fake sleaze” filters.

Meaning no matter WHO you are, and WHAT you’re going to talk about, keep things on the up and up as much as possible.

Now, here’s a secret that most guru’s won’t tell you.

If YOU like YOU, so will she.

It doesn’t matter who you are, how much money you make, or even how tall you are.

All Starts With Inner Game

If you REALLY like and appreciate yourself, AND you’re open and honest when talking to her, you’ll have a MUCH better chance of creating that magical female attraction that feels so incredibly good.

To give yourself an even better chance, talk to her about her. Let her ask about you whenever she feels comfortable enough.

Generate some natural self appreciation, walk over there, and just find out about her.

Ask The Right Questions

Find out what makes her tick. Find out what’s she’s interested in. Find out what she dreams about at night.

No pressure, no games, no manipulation.

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Secrets Of Self Validation

Humans crave validation from other humans, and from ourselves.

Now, some people think that those who overtly seek validation should be dismissed as “shallow” or something, but the bottom line is ALL humans are hard wired to NEED validation.

The problem is when we try and ignore this, we open ourselves up to manipulation. It’s one of those subconscious drivers of human behavior that’s there whether we like it or not.

Impossible To Ignore The Instincts

If we become overly concerned with “short term” validation, then it can become a problem, and we start to behave like “those people,” meaning everything we do is perceived as selfish and self serving.

I like to think of short term validation as like a “sugar high” from eating a donut or something. It feels really good in the moment, but it quickly fades and you feel like crap. The tendency is to seek more short term sugar highs, which can lead to a cycle of self destructive behavior.

On the other hand, longer, deeper and more natural validation is like eating fruits, veggies and healthy fats. Slow burn, long term energy.

Short Term Gain, Long Term Pain

Short term validation is always seeking approval “in the moment,” while long term validation is like developing a good “reputation.”

Somebody who’s genuinely kind, genuinely interested in helping others without needing an immediate reward, and somebody that’s genuinely pleasant to be around.

Then there’s the best validation you can get, which is that which comes from within.

It’s one thing to build up a solid reputation, so whenever you behave “selflessly” you’re also keeping your reputation, (which necessarily depends upon the opinions of others) intact, but it’s something altogether different to ONLY be concerned with how you view yourself.

Like maybe you KNOW you are doing the right thing, but you also know that NOBODY will ever know.

Think Long Term

They say the truest measure of character is how you behave when nobody is looking.

Ultimately, we ARE the judges of our own behavior, so you’d be better be able to sit quietly with yourself in peace.

Paradoxically, this mindset is also the absolute BEST way to persuade and influence others.

Figure out what they want, figure out how you can present your ideas in terms of their desires, and do so in a way so it seems like it was their idea all along.

They’re happy because they’re doing what you AND they want, and you’re happy because you are at peace with yourself.

When you can do this consistently, almost without thinking, then you’ve got it made.

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Hit And Run Attraction

One frame of mind that REALLY helps when out interacting with females is the “hit and run” frame.

Now, this is just a metaphor. I don’t really mean to go out and run over girls and then drive off.

Many guys, when talking to girls, are consciously or subconsciously looking for some kind of “reward.”

They seem to think that attraction is a conscious choice on her part, which means they imagine walking up, saying some goofy pick up line, and her looking at him and saying, “Wow, that’s a great line, I really like you! Can we have sex?”

Of course, this does happen in the movies, but remember, movies are NOT real life.

If ANY attraction DOES occur, it will happen subconsciously. She’ll get just a feeling, and she won’t know why.

This is where PLENTY of guys mess up.

They’re expecting some kind of conscious signal, some kind of verbal “OK” from her.

If you’re waiting for that, you’re going to be waiting a long, long time. Guys that have trained themselves to look for subtle clues in between the lines are the most successful.

So, where does the “hit and run” model come in?

One way to wean yourself away from expecting consciously feedback is to think of COVERTLY turning her on, and then leaving.

This is definitely a LONG TERM strategy. Most guys start talking to girls, and hang around WAY TOO LONG.

They’re waiting for some super obvious green light, that her attraction has peaked and is starting to diminish significantly.

The trouble she’ll associate those diminishing feelings of attraction if you wear out your welcome.

But if you leave when they are still rising? She wont’ be able to get you out of her mind.

If you’ve blown your load, so to speak, and you’re standing there waiting for her to give you her number or something, she’ll start to get nervous and wonder what she’s supposed to be doing.

IF, on the other hand, you walk over there, quickly turn up her attraction, and then SPLIT, she’ll be left with a desire. For you.

And guess what? When all she’s got is her desire for you, it will grow. And grow and grow.

So the NEXT TIME you talk to her, she’ll be pleased as punch. Not thinking, “oh it’s that weird guy.”