Most guys think that walking up and number closing hundreds of girls will build up their confidence.
It can, but it requires CONSTANT motivation.
Meaning if you stop doing it for a week, it will seem incredibly hard to get started again.
But think of it from another perspective.
Our brains tend to generalize, delete, and distort.
Meaning our brains are incredibly fast, but not very accurate.
So whenever we see a new situation, our brains automatically reference our memories to get an idea of how to feel about it.
Let’s say you are trying the cold approach method of increasing confidence.
Every time you go to approach a new girl, you are going to automatically remember the last couple hundred girls you approached.
And you’ll do so within a few milliseconds. (Fast but inaccurate).
And then your brain will come back with a “feeling” indicating whether it (your brain) thinks it’s “safe” or not.
And what was the result of the last couple hundred cold approaches?
Even the best cold approachers have about an eighty percent FAILURE rate.
So the “feeling” you get back is going to say “DANGER!”
Every. Single. Time.
This is precisely you need so much motivation.
Luckily, this isn’t the ONLY way to build confidence.
Consider the “hit and run” approach.
This also requires that you interact with girls, either verbally or non verbally.
But you ONLY do so until you get a POSITIVE response from her.
THEN you eject. IMMEDIATELY.
It’s important you eject RIGHT WHEN you get any kind of positive signal from her.
This seems counterintuitive and a bit silly.
But consider how you’ll feel after doing this with a few dozen girls.
Your brain will still rapidly scan your past (fast and inaccurate).
But instead of coming back with a feeling that says, “girls mostly reject you, be careful,” it will come back with a MUCH BETTER FEELING.
One that is more like:
“All girls like you.”
Instead of needing momentum, to continually push past the fear of rejection, you’ll feel the positive force of “all girls like you” pulling you forward.
The crucial rule to follow is ALWAYS EJECT as soon as you get a positive “ping” from her.
Start with eye contact, move up to smiles, and then SHORT conversations.
As you as you get her laughing and smiling, BEFORE you number close, LEAVE.
This will create a fantastic feeling of “All girls want me!”
And when you get to THAT level, the world will be your playground.